Do you repeat conversations in your head/out loud?

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I recite them in my head, and change them up to produce the best outcome I can think of. When I were younger, I imagined I did this to perfect my conversations and behaviour until the next time I relived my life (yes, I believed my life as a child was just a rehearsal) .

These days, I realize I will most likely never use 90% of the perfected conversations, but I believe it is just my way of processing the encounter. If I feel I did something wrong, I think of ways to avoid it happening. Perhaps it's a coping mechanism to re-program my memories of social blunders to better ones.

I also anticipate future conversations. If I'm going to the doctor, I've already had the conversation in my head atleast 50 times before I get there. I think this helps me by having scripts fresh in my mind and improve my reaction times when I get questions.

I can also see facial expressions when I replay these conversations, I don't notice them, or I do not realize I notice them in the heat of the social encounter, but sometimes I get an epiphany later with a clear image of a reaction in my mind. Once I even noticed details of an encounter that lead me to suspect my wife and I had misunderstood eachother and both was under the impression the other one paid for gas at a gas station. After a quick talk with my wife after my revelation I found myself driving back to the gas station to apologize 2 hours after we had droven off without paying. ..so it's not all bad.

Yes, I do that. I replay conversations and change them, I think of conversations I could have, and some I will have...and so on. Especially, with conversations I had, I try to forget them and not think to much about it...unless they're unimportant and I think of what I could've done better. Sometimes I can really obsess over something in conversations, so I try to not do that too often.
Future conversations, if I know I'll definitely have them....I rehearse them in my mind. I don't say them out loud.

Is that really something only aspies do? I mean, It can be practical if done right.

read and learn other stuff, memorise things.....

re regurgitating, with me it wld reach a crescendo and i wld flip. have a violent outbusrt ... that faded thirty years ago

I do in my head yeah, but not out loud.

I do this every night. I also have fantasized conversations with people that I sometimes perceive as real, like they actually happened, and when I go to talk to the person I had the "conversation" with, they're very confused because we never actually talked... It's a bit weird...

Haha, yep. Sure do. My grandfather, who I live with, asks me all the time if I am arguing with myself lol Gues he doesn't know I'm just talking aloud. He would need to worry if i start answering myself lol Hopefully that day never comes!

I answered this thread earlier as this is something I do regularly but I wondered if this was something everyone does, so I asked my husband (NT but with some ASD traits). When I initially asked he said yes he did rehearse conversations in his head but in further questioning he sais he only rehearsed the opening and only his part.

I think the rehearsing and replaying conversations thing (in your head or outloud) is something that comes from anxiety not necessarily the ASD itself. It would be interesting to ask people with anxiety disorders (but not ASD) whether they do this too.

At work, sometimes I plan my next move out loud. Funny thing about this, is I"m not alone as I've seen other people do it too. I"ve known to talk to myself.

I rehearse conversations in my head, so if I need to bring up a particular topic with someone I will play out in my head what i will say what they will possibly say, various things that could be said back and forth until I've covered pretty much every reaction. Sometimes I get so tied up with thinking about what I need to say and being fully prepared for the other person's responses that it takes me days, sometimes even weeks to getting around to bringing something up.

I also go over conversations (but not as often as the preparation conversations), what I could have said differently and pick apart everything that was said. I usually only do this if a conversation hasn't gone very well and so I go over and over what went wrong and what I should have said/not said.

I do this all of the time.