Do you want to have children?

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I would love to have childen of my own someday! But Ia would wait until after I get married because I want to be able to give my children everything the deserve, and I don't want to make the mistake of having a kid before I can even afford essentials for myself like a good portion of my family has, including my own parents.

i don't want children. and there's many reasons for that,
i don't think it will be the joy so many tells about
the life i live now is rather good
i have a lot of issues about society and children
and i don't think the future is all that bright
i believe i'll be worried to much all the time, already a problem.

i do like children very much and easily get along them. i think of children as one of the most interesting variations of the human kind.
because i work with children everyday i see how things work in my country when it comes to children. not good enough i think. but anyone who does bring children in to this world deserves the best for their kids.

I don't want children, and furthermore, I'm 45, and I have never ever been pregnant even for one teensy second. Thus, I not only say what I mean, I also do what I say. Or ... DONT' do... what.... um, whatever

Fur ones yes, human variety no.

No i don't want children as it can be very stressful and its not worth it really.

I am averse to babies and I could not cope with them anyway. I don't think I would be capable of looking after children anyway, seeing as I can't even go to the post office or the bank without someone helping me. Even if I got more independence in the future, I cannot stand babies, and even if I tried to adopt, I wouldn't be allowed to with my mental health history.

Well i think it would!
As theres quite a chance of heredity, i think i would have been giving it a second thought, had i just known...
Two out of tree is recieving extra training/guidance when it comes to social interaction. And one is in a special school.

I don't ever want children. Most of them are too loud and annoying for me and I have problems being around a whining, screaming or crying child for 10 minutes. I can't imagine what it would be like for me if I was ever to become a parent.

I voted for "Undecided" - I mean, I LOVE babies and little kids (it's when they hit age six or thereabouts that they seem to start copping attitudes and it's not so "cute"anymore)....I love babysitting for my parent's co - workers, I love watching babies, observing their behavior, caring for them, etc. Babies have always been a source of endless fascination for me...it seems like they do more and more cute and interesting things every day. I loved watching my two younger half - sisters as they grew up and learned skills such as smiling, clapping, laughing, rolling over, talking, etc.

Not only that, but I've always felt more comfortable with kids in much younger age groups than with my same - age peers...to me, little kids make far less social demands than adults/folks my age do, and sometimes, when I'm lucky, I meet little kids who love Cars like me.

On the other hand, when it comes to having kids of my own, I'm ambivalent...my parents/stepparents made some pretty big mistakes (accidentally and on purpose) with me, and I'm terrified of unconsciously repeating them with my own offspring.

I would love to have kid(s) BUT only if it was in a stable home. Sadly, I've yet to meet a few if any single women who I would even consider as mother material. Better to have no kids than to bring them up in a broken home.

I think I'd like to have a kid (just one, and only by adoption or surrogate..I have no interest in being pregnant or going through childbirth). Of course, then I see my friend's two kids and I start thinking otherwise...maybe I'll just stick with pets...

I have children already.

How come that wasn't one of the poll options? How cynical.

You say that like its a bad thing.

Without getting into the whole curebie vs neurodiversity debaccle, its was Temple Grandin who said that during the stone age, it was the yatterjacks around the campfire socialising while the autistic one was the one away inventing the first spearhead out of a rock.

Autism provides the out of the box perspective that we need for insight and innovation. Don't presume to speak for the rest of us please.

I don't want children because I've been pregnant twice before and miscarried. I'm also married to a fellow on the spectrum so the odds are 25% of having a neurotypical child. Of course having an NT child would be exhausting and I would forever feel like a failure because I couldn't provide them the emotional upbringing and social training they would need. Having a child on the spectrum would probably drive me insane because a household with three ASDs would be a constant challenge. I am not shying away from challenge, but I had a real crap childhood and feel I have nothing to offer a child in the way of an upbringing that would empower them in the future, ASD or NT. Also I can't imagine anyone else being the object of my husband's love... I think it would kill me. (Yes I'm a deeply disturbed individual and I am well aware of it, and no it's not because of my ASD! )

I never wanted children.I knew early on I didn't have the social skills or the emotional skill set to be able to give children the attention and care that they need.I require too much down time to function effectively and being a family man just wasn't in the cards.