If you could tell Neurotypicals one thing what would it be?

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I don't care about your popularity contests.

We are autistic. Lower your defenses and surrender your will. You will be assimilated. We will add your biological and technological distinctiveness to our own. Resistance is futile.

Simply LIVING is just plain harder if you are autistic. I can't do things as fast as you NTs. I can't cope with things changing so quickly! !
I like routine. The world is too intense, so intense that I can't shut it out.
I find it hard to make decisions. Most of the time I'm so anxious I feel unwell. I have to think about things from all angles, all the time. I see links and patterns in things that others don't. Sometimes this way of thinking gets exhausting.

I cannot choose what I do and don't pick up on, so I have to withdraw a lot. I take in everything, all those details you miss. I feel other people's emotions and they overwhelm me. My sense of self is fluid, permeable, in great need of protection.

I can feel intense, almost childish joy at things you do not. The beauty in the world is more intense for me, so this makes sense. That's the flip side of it being unpleasantly overwhelming so much of the time.
I can be deeply moved by things going on in the world or the suffering of others. But I don't conform to normal social empathy rules, and I won't get sad because I'm supposed to, or get animated because you all are.

I don't know how to hold myself in a pub. I often just download information to people in great detail in social situations, until I realise I'm doing it. I can't always tell if they're interested or not.
I think a lot of people on the spectrum are better able to see how mad the world is, because they're outside of it, looking in. It gives you a different perspective.

My intuition about what is going on for other people can be off the scales. I pick things up intuitively, understand complex matters intellectually and can express it verbally. This is called high intelligence I guess! It's a different processing system.

"Generally, no matter what I say - whether it is something I perceive, a fact, a hypersensitivity - anything - please, just believe me! I am not making things up just to play some ridiculous game. What I am saying might be different to you, but it doesn't mean it isn't true. Please, believe me, respect me, and work WITH me."

Just because I like being in my comfort zone of my unit for days on end does not mean I am ignoring you or being mean. I just need my Aspie quiet time.

YOU! GO HOME! NOW!

(I have more than a couple sentences and not all of it is non-aggressive, but you can pick out a couple sentences to use if you like.)

- I don't understand why everyone tries to be something they're not. And everyone BS's and sends hidden messages. Don't expect me to hear what you're not saying. Why can't you just speak straightfoward? (this is a big NT peeve of mine.)

- Bullying the quiet kid hurts more than you realize.

- We come off kinda stupid a lot of times, but we're really smarter than you.

(I had thought of something else, but I forgot it before typing it...)

PS: Those animated smileys on the side of the message-posting screen are really annoying.

"Tracksuits are not cool, they just make you look dodgy"

Try walking a mile in my shoes.

Just because someone is asocial, whether it be attributed to Asperger's, Autism, or any other disorder, does not mean that they are apathetic or misanthropic. If they do happen to be apathetic or misanthropic, this type of thinking is probably the reason why. Often times, peer pressure is what causes people to treat other people poorly, rather than isolation. It's the people who harass and oppress the loners who are the monsters, not the loners who mind their own business and never intentionally harm anyone. If a loner does happen to become a monster, it's only because the people who he's exposed to are monsters themselves.

I would love just to say to the consultants that know nothing about AS in the UK...BULL s**t

Thank you all so much! Keep 'em coming

I hope this is the right place to add the NT part.

Just because I am in the very last stages of earning a Ph.D. with a concentration in ASDs doesn't mean I understand you. I am really trying to understand you, but I might need your guidance.

How can I tell when I am making you uncomfortable or angry before you reach full meltdown (especially if you are a 10 year old who seems to change in less than a second)?

I wish you knew I want to work WITH you, not ON you when I research. You are the expert; I am just learning at your feet.

I wish you knew that I appreciate your interest and knowledge of certain topics, but sometimes I need a break from so much information.

please stop: Raping, killing, abusing other people and other living beings (including Gaia herself).

please start: loving, relaxing, fixing, helping. Practice compassion.

I am easy to talk to if you talk about concepts I am interested in not aobut myself really.

I was gonna post some sarcastic snarky thing, but...

When Jesus was on the cross, he said "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." I wish for both "normal" people and the people with Aspergers to remember this, and try our best to forgive and be patient with others. In the end, both sides on some level "Know not what they do." So forgive.