My mom thinks I'm an Aspie or depressed.

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I was outgoing, learned to talk quickly, and didn't feel too awkward in social situations as a child. I did get shyer and shyer with age, but even through my first year in college (I'm 19 now) I preferred with company of friends to being alone in my dorm all the time, and although people say I'm eccentric, they still think I have charisma, and I am very good at picking up on the emotions of others. However, it is difficult for me to respond, even when I know how someone feels. Empathy and emotion makes me feel uncomfortable. I won't watch a romantic film unless I'm alone. I do go blank if I have to hold a conversation for longer than "hey, what's up..." Up until recently after I warmed up to someone I could talk to them for hours and could be really flirty. It seems like I'm shy around everyone now and I talk in a baby-ish voice because of it. I also do have to do things routinely and with little spontaneity. I HAD BEEN in a period of mild/moderate depression (I'm diagnosed bipolar) and when I was depressed I needed to be around people so I'd have validation that I had friends, but then out of the blue I stopped caring about people's company. My self-esteem is higher than ever now, my energy is fairly high as well, as is my ambition, so I don't think I'm depressed, but my mom says I always have a stoic facial expression and monotone, gloomy voice. I don't even realize it. Also, I have to be alone constantly now. I feel miserable around people. I scream when someone calls me on the phone or if my mom surprises me by entering the room I'm in. I get paranoid that she's doing it on purpose and get violent thoughts. Noise sounds louder and scarier to me than it used to. And I can only understand what people are saying if they are really concise. I daydream more often than I don't. I get agitated and hostile if my train of thought is interrupted.

First, welcome to Wrong Planet!

I can't say whether you have Asperger's or not; to be diagnosed with Asperger's or other forms of autism, it needs to be present since early childhood (the updated criteria for autism in the DSM V will include the caveat that it may not fully manifest itself until you're older). Have you asked a therapist about it?

Not yet. I'm scared to bc if I do have it my mom will bring use it against me. She likes to point out that the Newport shooter had it and she thinks I watch crime shows (I hardly do anymore) because I like gore and have thoughts of killing people. lol she needs a therapist too

From that what you write it doesn't really sound like autism to me, but to be sure you would need to talk to a shrink.
Not everyone who doesn't talk to others is autistic and you describe that you were social as a child.

But you also write having Bipolar, so having Bipolar means that you also have depressions. But maybe also something else is going on like schizoaffective or something else. So I would deff. talk with a shrink about it.

It is possible for someone who is depressed to sound kind of autistic, but I am not sure how to explain the difference. It's something I've only seen a couple of times.

In particular the part where you said you feel miserable around people seems pertinent to me, along with the fact your symptoms seem to be getting worse over a relatively short period of time. I'd be inclined to think this is more of a mood disorder rather than Aspergers, quite possibly depression but i'm not in any way trained in mental health so that's just an opinion rather than accurate advice.

Like others have said this is definitely something to talk to a professional about.

With Bipolar, I heard there can be states of mixed mania/depression, in which the person tends to become angry - a self-confident, high-energy form of bad mood. It definitely sounds like it would be a good idea to get help.

I guess so. I'm not really in a bad mood at all though. Just a recluse. I enjoy my own company and imagination and I don't want anyone interrupting my flow.