losing touch with friends

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I just saw on facebook that one of my friends just moved into a new apt with his fiance. We used to be best friends a while back, though I know we were estranged for a while but I feel like I've lost touch. He invited me to be one of his groomsmen at his wedding, but I'm not sure we really even still know each other.

Have you done anything to keep in touch with him? (Why were you estranged?)

Well, if he invited you, he certainly doesn't consider you estranged. Then you decide if you want to revive the friendship. If yes, then I would suggest talking to him not only regarding the wedding.

I spent six years in almost total isolation and this year after all that time I have managed to catch up with old friends without any major issues and I have made new friends through them. Go to his wedding, you never know what doors it may open for you.

maybe he does not feel as estranged as you do, I find that people I was really good friends with I can get along with really quickly without having seen them in ages, its definitely a good sign if he chose you to be one of his groomsmen at his wedding. I think if you refuse it might be difficult to get back into a proper friendship again, if that's what you want.

Being chosen as a groomsman or a bridesmaid is a huge honor and a very big expression of friendship. He does not feel estranged from you if he asked you. I think you should feel very honored and accept if you can do a wedding and handle the sensory input. If you are not able to handle the energy of a wedding than thank him profusely and decline gracefully. But if he asked you to be a groomsman than he considers you a friend. Sometimes time can pass because we are just busy and so we don't keep in touch very well but that does not mean that we think less of the people that we love. And if he is getting married than he has been busy.

I know the feeling. I had a group of friends I used to hang out with a lot (lived with some of them). But when I moved out, I pretty much disappeared from their group. The few times I've hung out with them over the past couple years wasn't really enjoyable because they've gotten into role playing games (which I really don't like), so I pretty much end up in the living room by myself on my computer. We used to do stuff like work on cars, play video games and watch movies (which I really like), but now, I have no interest in going to visit since all they do now is play RPG's.

It kinda sucks, but I have a new circle of friends (there's 4 of us), and I have a lot more in common with them than I do with the old group as a whole.

- this was actually part of the initial reason our friendship started to fall apart. As consoles started phasing out split-screen multiplayer it became harder to get my friends to hang out in person and eventually it got to a point where they were asking me to do raids and whatnot but assuming I would be too busy to go hang out with them and not even telling me when they were going to go do something.

- they recently asked me to play GW2 with them which I figured would be better than nothing but they aren't really on much and games like that are boring without friends to banter with.

-I have hung out with them a few times recently, which was fun, but I found out from skype that it was a mutual friend's birthday whereas I would kind of expect to be invited for that kind of thing.

-I'm quitting my job in no small part because it prevents me from having any social life, I just hope that I don't end up with lots of free time all to myself.

If they have different interests then I would probably go find some new friends that like the things you like. I think there are multiple people here that can play video games with you and talk with you.

What games do you play?

If your friend has chosen you as one of his groomsmen for his wedding, then go for it! You might find new friends or a potential romantic partner (if that's what you really want) at the wedding.

-I don't really get the positive benefits from socialization from online interaction, and part of the reason I am not enthusiastic about playing GW2 is I am a gaming addict and excessive gaming has caused me to drop out of school and lowered my career opportunities in the past, I'm trying to bring my gaming down to zero or less than an hour a day.

-Thanks everyone for your input! I think I'll try and re-ingratiate myself with that social circle more since they probably still value me as a friend and I just haven't been putting enough effort into it.