Were you raised as an NT?

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Were you raised and taken care of and taught like if you're an NT?? I was. I used to try to act the way NTs do but I always failed in it but that went away

Yes, because I never knew I has AS and that I knew no different way. I always thought my social problems where because I was a science nerd/geek and always thought I belonged to that culture. When I finally get there. I realized that was not true.

Yes. Autism/Asperger's and Misophonia were not known when I was raised so I was just raised as an NT whom they thought needed lots of disciplining.

yes. and look how well adjusted i am now!

and for my brother, when it was suggested that he had AS at a young age, they just tried harder to make him 'normal' (like an NT). i suspect this is true for a lot of autistics. they are raised as if they are NT by either ignorant parents (maybe AS wasn't as well understood when they were growing up) and if they don't 'succeed' be more harsh on them. being NT is the number one goal! (not mine, but if you are not NT, society tends to think this should be your number one goal)

Well, yes. I was diagnosed with this s**t when I was 8, and my mum has always supported me and everything, but at the same time she raised me like any normal kid, which is probably why I don't have a lot of the common AS traits now.

Luckily I got diagnosed at a young age (around 5 or 6) so I was able to get lots of guidance and counseling which really helped me in the long shot

Well my Mum knew there was 'something' going on with me from about 5 when I started having anxiety attacks! She raised me as an NT with anxiety issues until she finally figured out I had autism when I was 14.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

I was raised as a dog, in fact worst as the family dog was allowed to sit in the living room with the rest of the family whilst they watched TV and talked or whatever it is NT's do, I on the other hand was kept isolated in a room.
The dog never got kicked in the stomach either.

Yes, I was. How else could they raise me if AS was unknown back then, at least in my country?

My grandma was trying to raise me differently once she realized I there is something off with me. But my parents didn't let her. Too bad. I think my childhood would have been easier if I really had a schedule to follow and could ask questions as she suggested instead of dealing with constant changes (my parents are really chaotic) and following the rule of "children and fishes have no voice(Polish version of "children should be seen and not heard") so just shut up and do what we say".

But maybe it is better this way. At least I learned to deal with the change and accept that not all rules can be explained.

My parents had no awareness of ASD, so I was raised NT. They had very poor awareness to my differences.

Even if they had known, there is still quite a commitment to learning how to raise a child with ASD, awareness is only the first of many steps.

I have had to learn a lot on my own and endure quite a bit of unnecessary hardship due to being raised as NT.

Yes and no. I remember being expected to act my age and I didn't even know I was not acting my age. I would also get in trouble for my emotions and for my anxiety and I remember getting into trouble because I wouldn't stop teasing my mother on the way home because she told me to "stop that teasing" so I kept doing a different tease. Then she thought I was being a brat when I said "Oh you never said stop all teasing" and I thought it was a misunderstanding on her part because she miss communicated and I didn't understand why she was so upset.

Then there was understanding on another part and my mom always did her best to teach me and raise me and have me learn and finding different consequences that work and trying to understand me and how my brain worked. She knew there was something going on with me and I had something but she didn't know what it was then.

YES - my stepmom raised me as if I had no "special needs" problems, but that I had "some sort of problem", in a paradoxical kind of way.
She was really harsh with me, telling me to grow up, get a brain, stop making things complicated, screaming abuse at me for not "just acting the way I'm supposed to act..." - mind you, I didn't get that stupid "you need to try harder" remark so much, but the common phrase was, as Nike put it, "JUST DO IT!! !" - whatever "it" was, did not come naturally to me.

As far as she was concerned, I was just another NT who somehow didn't realize he had these intuitive faculties all along, and was just being stubborn about it

Was born half of a centurey before anyone outside of Austria ever heard of "Asperger's" so yes I was "raised as an NT" by default.

I was raised as an NT ... one who was unable to tell the truth and make eye contact at the same time, and who was slapped whenever I said, "I don't know". Whenever important guests came over, I was sent to my room on some pretext of misbehavior on my part. It wasn't unusual for gifts given to me to be "regifted" and given to the children of my parent's important friends. It also was not unusual to be beaten up at school, and then beaten up at home for getting beaten up in the first place.

I thank god that my parent's never found out that I have an ASD (e.g., PDD-NOS). Dad was someone who believed that (1) "Brats should be seen and not heard", and (2) "<Insert derogatory term for the physically disabled here]> and <Insert derogatory term for the mentally disabled here> should be locked away and never heard from at all".

Considering I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood it's reasonable to say I was raised as an NT.

And my parents regret having not looked into this more aggressively earlier.