Getting to Know People

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I am finding it hard to know people in today's society. It seems like unless you know someone, it is very difficult to make friends and find people that you can talk to. I know the grocery store, some community colleges, et cetera are not places to make friends, but I can tell it is hard to get to know people and befriend people without being creepy these days, especially with how the world is. Saying hello to a complete stranger can get you locked up for 100 years lol. Even trying to initiate the connection can come off as creepy. I am trying to find ways to get to know people and make friends without being considered "creepy" or "stalkish". It is almost like it has to happen and if it does not, then it doesn't. It is hard to go from "stranger" to "acquaintance/friend" because of that fear wall. I'm wondering if there are any strategies on how to break down that barrier so others can feel at ease with me.

This is the kind of situation i had to put up with almost everyday. I only made one friend so far in college afk (were separated in different classes and time now but we're hangout outside of school sometimes). But when i tried to make one friends in other places, they lost interested of me really quick and take me the wrong way. So from my knowledge, it's really hard to make friends nowadays especially in your adulthood.

So all can say is be casual and friendly as possible. If those things doesn't work out, just move on to another person (i know it's sounds cliché). But if you want to avoid getting your feelings hurt in the future, just focus on what your love to do.

I feel the same way. I have this feeling that if I had one friend I could make more, but I feel stuck and hopeless at the moment. Also in the past I have drifted through classes and jobs and whatnot (all the places others seem to make friends) without any luck. I hope someone can offer us some guidance on these issues.

I have the same problem.

I've only been successful at making friends in school or university with people who took the same classes as me, and we only became friends months after knowing and talking to each other. Meeting people outside school/work settings is a complete mystery to me.

My advice is meet people who share your interests and try to become friends with them. I had the opportunity to make many great friends thanks to my interest (many of which didn't work out thanks to geography). It might be because my interest is programming and programmers are often quirky like me, but it's easier to be friends with people who share your interest, since you'd at least have something to talk about or plan activities around.

There are also some great articles and books addressing this issue. Google "Asperger's adult making friends" or something similar to find some.