Where are the hot aspie guys at?

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Okay, there's a thread about hot aspie girls, but now I'm gendering reversing that.

Where are all the hot aspie GUYS?! Give photograpic proof and we'll judge you.

I get that... like the response is to turn it around and try to make other people understand what it might be like? I really do.

But the difficulty in THIS situation is that it was one individual who started the thread and then maybe one or two other individuals who were kind of encouraging of the disparaging/judgy attitude. Most of the people in the thread [whatever the identified gender] were actually attempting to explain and demonstrate [in various ways] why the attitude of the thread was hurtful, not appropriate, etc etc etc.

So, to try to have an inverse of that thread is really kind of objectifying a bunch of people for maybe... one [or two or three] peoples' actions.

Even though, ya know, on the surface it makes sense in a way. And I see how it can.
But I think the best way to make the point is to leave the other thread up. There is a LOT of information and explanation there on how and why the basic premise of the thread just isn't ok.

I hope this doesn't come off as mean.
I'm just not sure it's the best tact to kind of sling back at a bunch of people for something that a very tiny number seem to be getting wrong- that I have seen for this specific situation here. I mean what comes from that is usually more escalation rather than you know, understanding and meeting in the middle. In my experience anyway.
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We're all married.

Does it count if you were good looking 35 years ago?

I will be honest with you all. I know plenty of young guys with Aspergers. And the majority arne't that physically attractive. Out of all of them, I would really only say 2 are what many would consider pretty attractive. And I know at least 40 men with HFA.

Many of these guys, it's not that they're ugly, they're just not attractive either. They probably arne't going to impress you with their looks. A part of the reason is that many guys on the spectrum just don't take care of their appearance as much. Their hair is uncombed, they don't wear neat clothes etc... Plus a lot of aspie guys look like stereotypical nerds as well. Either they're too overweight or too scrawny. And some of these guys are just plain ugly. They wear dark baggy clothes, never ever take the time to change their appearance either. When you're a teen or in your early 20s, people judge on your appearance a lot. Looks seem to matter more when you're young, its just the way it is.


As for me looks wise, I am probably in the average range. I'm not fat or overweight or anything. I'm just really short but proportionate for my body and somewhat athletic. I'm actually a decent looking guy (not hot) but I come off as awkward a lot. I'm probably not going to attract a lot of girls with my looks or anything but you never know.

I've been told that I'm pretty attractive, but it's only a recent thing. I'm 21 and just finished up my awkward chubby teen phase. I've also been told repeatedly by not-entirely-understanding people that I need to develop social skills while I'm still attractive because once I'm old, I'll have nothing to attract people. :/

I don't really shave or wash that much or anything, but I guess that's ok cause I mostly know queer punk types who are into that

Humor is the great equalizer, when it comes to appearance.

im very good looking and many ppl have commented on it in the past.
someone has also mentioned 'all i have is looks', intended as an insult.. it's probably somewhat true i'm afraid.

We can't upload images but I'm told I'm pretty fly for a scruffy hacker guy.

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Not keen on posting a picture on the indexed part of the forum, but apparently I'm not unattractive... Unfortunately I seem to have a somewhat limited ability to follow through on that, what with the talking and the not being able to tell if the other party is actually interested etc etc... I find that there are a lot of deeply ingrained opinions and behaviours that are hard to get past.

You've probably met some 'hot' Aspie guys but they've either self-doubted themselves out of the game or pretended to be obnoxious because they don't want to entertain the possibility of being rejected, cheated on, dumped etc etc again. Or they've become really transfixed by you, to the point that you nope the f$ck out because it's this really weird, complete kind of puppy dog/lost child love that's really hard to deal with.

Can I state for the record that this is something I have no first-hand experience of, and I am pulling this entire post out of my butt because it sounds good

You know how some people are all, 'you just need to be yourself!'
But it's in ones' nature to be self-critical (or should I say, 'great at self-analysis!')
So one is themselves, which is self-critical... I mean, analytical...
Only to be told that one is too negative?
Even going so far as to be told that they should play their innate sense of negativity down?

Repress feelings, snake bites tail, etc etc

I've gotten a few random compliments about how I look, no one has ever told me I'm ugly :p
I am usually not so vain to do stuff like this, but whatever...
Pic of me before haircut:
http://imgur.com/7QiGIGg