Mental disorders (esp. PDD) and marriage, having offspring

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I'm not going to vote in the poll because I'm not sure which way round it's supposed to be and even if you tell me I expect some people will have voted thinking it's the other way round so the results won't mean much.

I think it's fine for them to have children. I didn't really want children until recently but now I do, and I really hope they're autistic. The person I'd want to be the other parent is too and I'm not sure how we'd cope with an NT child, although I expect we'd work it out. I think autistic people have lot to offer the world and more isn't a bad thing, especially when supported by parents who have been in their shoes and can teach them to navigate the world.

My mentality does not want to have any NT chlidren. I may be unable to parent them. NTs are like "aliens" to me. And they are not so interesting for me as people with ASD. NTs have other mentalities. If I would have the wife, she has to be an Aspie too. Marrying non-Aspie woman by me may be seen by me as a misalliance.

I think it really depends on the individual....I personally do not think I should have kids, but I wouldn't be able to take care of them. Now I am not entirely opposed to the idea of falling into a relationship with someone and eventually making it official through marrige but would not want kids after the fact, though being a-religious don't know I'd want to do a whole church ceremony...but don't know I'll ever get into a serious relationship anyways.

But yeah I think it depends on the individual...the reason I don't want kids is not that I have a PDD aka ASD, but rather I personally doubt I could take care of them and quite frankly not sure I could even endure a pregnancy without risk to my health...I have trouble with being underweight, mentally I already got enough issues and from what I understand hormone stuff during pregnancy can make you even more moody, and I can hardly stand the digestive discomfort I get as is quite certain getting pregnant would make that worse so also physically not sure I could safely have children.

I have strong need of having female partner since childhood. I do not want to live alone. I suppose that wifelessness may lower my functioning level. Why it was so? Many Aspies may be not interested in marriage, but I am "over-interested". Female Aspies are very interesting for me. I have never had a girlfriend. Lack of wife gives me some sort of "mental pain".

Like a lot of others said, I don't think AS is a reason not to have kids. However, I don't think it would be ethical for me to have children. I have chronic depression. It is highly heritable. It is endemic on my dad's side of the family. Why do i want to have a kid and be responsible for him or her being miserable their whole lives due to the biology I gave them?

I do not think that I have depression, I think that I am generally happy. But I think that I am immature and irresponsible. I have quite many dreams about having the Aspie wife. My sister is somewhat similar to me, but not so "bizarre". I do not have classical type of Asperger's which is realted to Kanner's autism, I think. I do not want to marry a woman who is not so similar to me.

A priest said that it is very probably that I would never be able to be in marriage. It means that it looks not so likely that I would be sufficiently responsible to be a parent to the end of my earthly life. Parent such as I could be really harmful for NT children. Not all people with PDD have to be so unable to live in marriage. My mentality may look at my wife somewhat like at "pet animal" and children may be an "attraction" for me. My mentality "hates" responsibility, effort and pain. Allowing me to be a husband would be rather irresponsible.