For those who believe Asperger's/Autism is some sort of gift

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It's because, like, gosh, I have different emotions about different things!
Have ya heard the phrase, "don't look a gift horse in the mouth?" if you look too close you're bound to find something "wrong" with it. So if you find something wrong you're required to hate it?
Even awesome things can have down sides, like winning the lottery and then being plagued by human leeches.

Is there anything a person has that is so perfect that there are no downsides at all? Even a new couch has to be manhandled through the doorway and into the living room and everything must be rearranged to accommodate it, or perhaps other furniture doesn't fit or match it now. Just because I love my new car doesn't mean it doesn't take expensive gasoline or that I have to plug it in all the time.

So just because a person tries to look on the bright side of their specific Autism it doesn't mean they don't need a gas station attendant once in a while. Get the metaphor?

Autism can bestow great gifts, that is undeniable.

As for sugar coating, um yeah, that's to help when one has a bitter pill to swallow, if this is such a bitter pill then don't begrudge the sugar coating. What else have we got?

umm, yeah, it is called biological evolution... if I read the right Wikipedia page... =)

apparently the meaning of all life is asking girls out

having meaning in life is supposed to make one happy, right?

or something...

Nothing in this world is perfect. Aspies aren't just the faulty ones. Even NTs are not at all perfect. They always have something deviating if we take a closer look.

It's taking a look to the ugly side of everything yet seeing it as wonderful. A part of it might be something that needs change or improvement, but what is given and cannot be changed then we should just learn to accept it. Because when we accept our flaws and those things we cannot change that's when love comes. Love doesn't just focus on all the beautiful things you have but rather seeing all your negative yet you love them.

One of the best quotes that caught my attention is :"The world is so cruel and unforgiving yet so beautiful."
It summed up having yin and yang; seeing the bad and good side so we could know how to balance. It acknowledges that we aren't just going on an easy road in life.

Idk what's with me, but as an Aspie, at this point of my life considering that we are all changing, I regarded myself as a part of the whole. It's this advancing generation in which I come to realize that almost all the people are getting separated. By little means we are getting far from the human race. Maybe I'm just reflecting things beyond the time but that caused me to realize it myself either.



One cannot say living in this world doesn't make them experience any downfalls. It's those hard times we learn to find ways in order to cope. Thus, these pensive thoughts I have. I go on with the belief that the painful sharpening of this certain thought might keep me from moving on; I always admire those Aspies who have overcome struggles in life and become even better than NTs. But overcoming someone isn't always my point, rather, being the best that we are in a humble and simple way.


It's like crying all day and night for the bad things we experienced yet after that when we realize that we do not really hold the weight of the world we learn a much sense of joy rather than just happiness. We cannot deny painful times indeed, because that's what makes us stronger. It exists and it is part of our life. Asperger's is a blessing and a curse just like how the world is wonderfully carved yet is messed up on the other side. Indeed, nothing in this world is really perfect.

Not everyone is born with the same inclination towards martyrdom.

Ture. Most people seem content to let life flow on by without making any significant contribution. I call those people "Slackers".

I think we're just a minority. Look at how much trouble the various races have in our white society. Being different can create incredibly serious negative consequences. Some of us can fake looking and acting like the majority. It's a terrible life because the Majority is so intolerant. Even a sigh can annoy them.

But I want the Majority to learn to live with it. Some people flap their hands, live with it. Think of all the kinds of people who must be accepted as they are - the same should be extended to Asperger's.

Society will never learn to "live with it" if we're not sharing workspaces. People will only learn about us if they actually get to know us as other people and not as mere clinical descriptions and hackneyed stereotypes.

Subjective. It depends on the person.

I tend to just let things flow by... at least, as employment goes... because it'd be absolutely bloody stupid for me to go after a job, let alone the hellish miserable existence of a career *shudder*.

Why would it be bloody stupid? Because I'd just make things WORSE for whoever I'm working for. I've proven this, over and over. Not on purpose, mind you. So many times, I went in with such determination... but so many times, I failed anyway. Badly. I'm too spacey, too forgetful, too easily confused, and too easily overwhelmed.

Worse though, I'd be taking up a job slot that someone else that actually NEEDS it could be taking. *I* dont need the money. At all. But someone else might, and that's who should have the job in question.

Besides, so many people that look at things in the way that you do tend to have this bizarre belief that employment is the only way to contribute. This, I'm afraid, is absolutely dead wrong. I can contribute in other ways, by helping those around me. I can take my friend to his job when he cant get there otherwise (he cant drive, and when the snow comes... yeah. It becomes necessary sometimes). I can spend time with my mom and my grandma, and keep them both company. I can help talk people through their problems, something I've had a rather unfortunate amount of experience doing. Things like that. Wheras, as something like a damn cashier at the local tedium factory, I'd be accomplishing basically nothing. Unless you think that "giving idiot customers someone to yell at for no reason" is "accomplishing" something. All of those other things I currently do are much more useful and effective than any menial job I could possibly get. And dont think for a second that I'm the only one that does things this way, for whatever reason.

And now to address this, the original topic:

I dont know about others, but I'm not here to try to be "normal". I've looked at "normal", long and hard, and been continuously disgusted by what I see in it. AND continuously bored. I consider myself lucky that I didnt get saddled with THAT label. Ugh.

I come here because here, I find people that are easy to talk to and understand. And people who can answer questions, when I might have them, as relates to autism as a whole. And even people that share my interests (something I cant do often at all IRL).

And I come here sometimes also just to try to help, when I can. When I'm in the right frame of mind, anyway.

As for discrimination... I stopped giving a damn years ago. If someone doesnt think too highly of me because of my condition, well... generally, *I* dont think of THEM as being even worthy of the dirt on my shoes. So that works out well enough.

Obviously though, the whole thing definitely has it's downsides. I doubt I need to list them here. But I've gotten used to them, and they're a bit more tolerable than they might otherwise be considering certain benefits that the screwy condition also gave me.

I can understand fully though that others dont always have it this way... it's going to be very different from one person to the next.

People know to respect all kinds of different people, people of colour, people with visible health problems - paraplegic to blind etc.

Is it political correctness that demands respect for these people? Then so be it. Whatever it takes.

I do not perceive myself as abnormal, never did. But the majority does. So the majority should accept that I am not diseased, only different.

To me its a gift and a curse. It allows me to excell at what I do enjoy doing, but at the same time it holds me back in taking my ablities to the next level. I long to have friends but drive many away that do not wish to understand me. We cant get rid of many of society's issues, so I have little hope of them becoming more accepting of us that are on the spectrum. Heck, most are so attached to thier electronic devices, they have problems relating to other NT's in a social situation. The social skill set that was around before cell phones, tablets ect, is quickly fading away. We would rather text someone that talk on the phone, rather talk on the phone than in person. But that same technology made it easier for me, someone with Aspergers, to connect with others and be able to "speak" without locking up and getting tongue tied. Dodger

I believe some people think that because a large majority of us have a high IQ we are somehow smarter than the majority of the population. What they often don't realize is that an IQ is more a less how easy it would be to accomplish certain academic achievements. But with the common characteristics of ASDs(e.g. lack of ambition, social anxiety, and often a difficulty to process information in a non-controlled environment), I feel like my IQ is almost completely mitigated by my disorders. I would much rather have an average IQ and be neurotypical.