You can mostly withstand being alone?

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I don't get how people are supposedly not even bothered in the slightest if completely alone - although the definition may differ between people, as circumstances do. I still occasionally say 'hello' to a postman, 'thanks' to the shopping deliverer... do they make a difference? I bet I'd have more minimal contact if in isolation in prison... it feels oppressive at times, like a fire that slowly dies...

Welcome to WP. Glad to have you on board. I think you've find that a lot of us here on WP are in that same situation as you are.

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Well, Mootoo, I like my social interaction in small bits.
It does make a huge difference if I talk to my parents for a few minutes or not.

Not so much of a difference if I say thanks to some cashier in an impersonalized manner.

Sometimes I'm completely alone and don't need anyone besides me at all. That can happen.

At other times I feel like reaching out. Then I either do nothing and cry how lonely I am, or I actually call someone and talk for a bit.
After excessive interacting I do need my alone time though.

Being completely cut off from others indefinitely isn't the right thing for me personally.

I don't desire social interaction at all, and have felt this way since I was a toddler, so I think I was just born this way. I think introversion-extraversion might be a sliding scale, and we can't really change where we are on that scale.

I certainly do not like being entirely alone for too long...but on occasion I sometimes might have a day where I just don't want to deal with anyone and would rather spend it by myself.

I love being alone- and I mean literal isolation. The times when I have zero social contact for weeks have been some of the best weeks I've had.

That said, it's very rare that I'm able to "isolate myself" due to living at home with my family. Maybe it's for the best though, because some social interaction is important (supposedly).

I live completely alone, interact socially as seldom as possible, and at 57, am probably the happiest I've ever been. At this point I don't even desire any social or physical closeness, even with the few relatives that I communicate with. Not quite sure how one is supposed to answer/respond to these things as I'm new to the site. But I'm overwhelmed that this site exists and hopeful something I learn here helps me and just maybe I can help someone else.

Welcome to the site, Eric.

To me that's odd. I used to live and work entirely alone and didn't speak to anyone for longest 3 months but no harm was done lol.

I can do alright with people too as long as they are respectful

I have a couple of good friends that I like to spend the evening with a few days a week. I also like to have some alone time as well. I also like to visit my parents, though I need the odd entire weekend to have time to myself. I like to have a balance.

I like being alone, but there are times I would like to be around friends. The only friends I have live four hours away and I rarely get to see them, so I don't have any friends here and can't figure out how to acquire any. But I enjoy my alone time for the most part; it sucks how people consider you "antisocial" or suffering from "social withdrawal" if you prefer to be by yourself.

Every now and then I used to have reason or opportunity to spend anywhere from a few days to a week alone. It was wonderfully relaxing and by the end each time I was recharged and ready to be part of the social world again. I think its a matter of introvert vs extrovert (although it's actually a spectrum); I just happen to test out at the far end. Since we had kids, it hasn't happened and my only alone time is driving to and from work. I get the same feeling when I *can't* be completely alone that people farther toward the extrovert end get when they are alone for too long.

I enjoy being alone most of the time 75 to 80% of the time, but the rest I need some human interaction. I get lonely if I am completely alone all day, day in day out.

I don't just withstand being alone, i *need* my alone time.
The difference comes with loneliness, however. When i have no choice but being alone, i have trouble, but knowing that i can leave my house and go meet people is enough for me.
If i know i can't go out to meet someone, even if i feel no need to do so, i start feeling lonely, it's strange like that.

Even when there are people around me I feel isolated, like they are just characters on tv talking and moving around. Maybe that's one reason why I hate being touched by them. For me isolation equals bliss, or at least closer to bliss.

Living in the city I had a longing desire to be completely alone. I wanted to be away from it all, not just people but civilisation in general such as the cars and the noise. I finally achieved being truly alone a couple of years ago on a hiking trip. When I camped up for the first night in a remote area, I knew there was no one else around for miles. Realising this I became a little frightened, it was a whole new experience. However after a few hours it was nice being surrounded by peace and quiet, it felt like bliss.

Ideally I would like to be alone for a few days and then go out to socialize or meet people. It would be the best of both worlds.