what are NT phrases that annoy you or dont like?

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28 Mar 2016, 5:12 pm

Do noises like hacking up saliva and then swallowing it count?

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28 Mar 2016, 9:09 pm

Oddly enough, I don't run into this because I, or the person I am talking to, always says "This coming Monday, the 4th." or something like that. But, apparently it's enough confusion for everybody that a date is always used. Of course, most of my contact is professional and not personal. Even so, I always clarify date and time (EST, CST, etc).

This is something I have never left to chance. Too loose for me to be comfortable.


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28 Mar 2016, 10:12 pm

People swearing like a sailor really gets on my nerves. And my baby sister does it all the time. I will swear, honest, but in most company I only use the ones that don't get bleeped out on most TV shows at prime time. The other, harder words, like the f-word and s-word I only use when I absolutely mean it. Or when they just slip out.

Things like idioms and colloquialisms I get for the most part and don't bother me because I'm used to them and use them myself. The whole "next Monday isn't this upcoming Monday but the Monday after" thing either, if only because I ask for a date when I can. And my family tends to be precise in language when not using sarcasm anyways. At least when they talk to me. Mostly.


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28 Mar 2016, 10:27 pm

A ton: "chill," "there you go," "filthy," "lit," "dope," "I'm doing good," etc...


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29 Mar 2016, 12:39 am

That's got nothing to do with it.
It's like you can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality.
Why don't you just calm down.
It's okay, forget about it.
You need to live in the present.
Maybe you do need to talk to someone and get help.


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29 Mar 2016, 12:53 pm

zkydz wrote:
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"stop biting your nails"..........why, in what way does this actually affect you? They're my fingers after all.
I see this a lot here. Well, a couple of times, but it is common enough that it is repeated. So, let me answer you by real experience from me and my brother.

1. I used to bite my nails until I got Impetigo, stage 3 from it. Impetigo is very, very contagious, so I got isolated from physical contact. My skin broke out in highly infectious boils. They would break and streak at night. New boils would form on the streaks and start the process all over again. Had to get wrapped up like a mummy on both thighs. Took weeks to get rid of it and hurt like you would not believe. Try being covered in boils between your thighs when you walk and everything rubs against each other, or try to sleep when you can't find a spot that's not boiled up into giant whiteheads. Thank god we got it before it reached the crotch. Oh, and let us not forget the pain of having to have them cut open and expressed. Still have leg scars from it after nearly 50 years.

2. My brother almost ruined his finger tips from biting and peeling the nails. Infections from torn nails into the quick. Ruined nail bed and a bit of loss of sensation from all the beating the nails took over the years.


So, does that affect you? A short search would have answered that and more.

Just because you don't like it doesn't invalidate it.



No, I've never had any infection. I still don't see how it affects other people though :?

1.) You may not have had an infection, but it doesn't mean you won't. False equivalency

2.) It affects them, they say it does. You want to have to prove every little thing that bothers you to every single person you meet? I have to do that every f*****g day to NTs when I tell them why 'little' things bother me. Makes me nuts that people just can't accept things. Especially when they want others to be accepting.

3.) Maybe people are telling you for your own good and you just don't like it and think it's their problem.

Again, it is a valid issue.



I don't care if it bothers them. Their endless chatter and noise bothers me, but I have to tolerate it. I bite my nails because I need to. It's part of who I am, perhaps it's a stim or a release of anxiety. Whichever it is, I don't care for others' opinions on it. They're my nails after all :D


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29 Mar 2016, 1:04 pm

Pretty much any stupid phrase that was created in a stupid commercial. For example lately it's "you're a mouth-breather", meaning you have to breathe with your mouth open because your nose is too stuffy. They say it several times in the cold/allergy medicine ad and I'm like, "YES! I GET IT! Breathing through my open mouth is SO terrible!" It's like they're insulting you for something you can't help because you're sick. "Hey look at that cancer patient, he's a no-hair, ha!"

"Swapportunity" is another bad one. The ad idiots think they're so clever by combining words to make a "new" word, but it just sounds more stupid.



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30 Mar 2016, 2:02 am

Terms of endearment, e.g. honey, sweetheart, darling.
Abbreviations like "hubby", "preggo".
"Are you okay?"


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30 Mar 2016, 8:26 am

One phrase I hear occasionally is the casual greeting, "What do you say?"

It may be a Southern US thing, but since I'm inclined to answer questions literally, it's nearly impossible to reply in passing in any fashion that makes logical sense. About the best I can do is a generic "Hey," or I could jokingly reply, "Lots of things. Which ones do you want to hear about?"

Obviously I realize it's an expression and not a genuine inquiry into my thoughts on anything, but it still results in some awkward moments as I stumble to organize my thoughts.



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30 Mar 2016, 9:32 am

untilwereturn wrote:
One phrase I hear occasionally is the casual greeting, "What do you say?"

It may be a Southern US thing, but since I'm inclined to answer questions literally, it's nearly impossible to reply in passing in any fashion that makes logical sense. About the best I can do is a generic "Hey," or I could jokingly reply, "Lots of things. Which ones do you want to hear about?"

Obviously I realize it's an expression and not a genuine inquiry into my thoughts on anything, but it still results in some awkward moments as I stumble to organize my thoughts.

I don't hear that phrase around here, but I have a similar difficulty with "What do you know?" I know it's meant as a greeting, but it always makes me pause when thinking of how best to respond.



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30 Mar 2016, 9:43 am

Here in NYC, it's "What's up?", "How's it going?"

If somebody thinks you're thinking too much, he/she would ask "Penny for your thoughts?"



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30 Mar 2016, 10:00 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Here in NYC, it's "What's up?", "How's it going?"

If somebody thinks you're thinking too much, he/she would ask "Penny for your thoughts?"

See, I'm okay with those as "Nothing much" works for the first in most cases and "Okay," "Fine," or "Good" handles the other.

I feel like if I answer "Nothing much" to "What do you know?" I come across as an idiot.

"Penny for your thoughts?" isn't as common around here (Midwest), but I've heard it before. Same intent, I think, but I hear "What's on your mind?" I'll generally give a bit more thought to my reply as it seems, at least to me, like there's more genuine interest behind questions like these. To me they go a bit beyond just social niceties.



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30 Mar 2016, 10:33 am

This is going to make some people a little uncomfortable, but I've heard the phrase "PMS-ing". That just sounds wrong.



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30 Mar 2016, 10:43 am

You're right

"What's on your mind?" does indicate that the person actually wants to know what you are thinking about.

It is usually an expression of some sort of concern.

Depending on the context, it could be sympathetic--or the asker could believe that you said something really crazy, especially if it's phrased: "What COULD be on your mind?"



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30 Mar 2016, 10:53 am

Most of these I find hilarious for the simple reason that I have been confused by many of them at one time or another, but, having grown up with a lot of them, I just accept it's basic meaning the same way I would learning a foreign language.

Mandarin hello: Ni Hao. But, it sounds like knee how?

Knee good, thank you. Got a bandage last week.

So, at some point, you just gotta accept and move on.

"Whatcha know?" has been mentioned. Try when it's added onto this way: "Whatcha know, no good?"

WTF?!??! But, I know it's just some sorta strange way of saying "how's it going?"

And, make no mistake, NT or ND, people's speech confuses me greatly.


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30 Mar 2016, 10:59 am

For example if someone is looking for a product in a shop, instead of asking 'do you have product?' They say 'you don't have product do you?' It annoys me that they make the assumption we don't have it. I don't get why they don't just ask normally. So many people do this.