kraftiekortie wrote:
What's wrong with entertaining other people?
In my case, let's just say I'm fine standing out a bit.
But what I do not like is the expectations from others. I can't just amuse anyone whenever I come across them.
Or have the same 'take' everyday -- I don't have a 'mask' or a persona. If I have one, it's a very inconsistent kind that is based on my emotional, mental, and physical states.
I want a social skill that makes me move easier.
The kind that makes others move, and move for me. 'Politeness' isn't enough for this.
And the real ability to predict, and actually think complex social stuff of when, how, where to... To be able to take account of things and know which of those matters more.
I'm past the lessons of 'socializing' as entertainment, and I have enough social stamina not to be exhausted for months or years.
I don't want more 'good manners and right conduct', or some personality guideline -- any illusionist could pull that off. I want something deeper than that.
I want real social and emotional wisdom which most people do not teach, and being an aspie to pull such out of experience is very tricky if not difficult.