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10 Jun 2019, 9:28 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

I understand that. I'm pretty introspective at times. I've felt the same way Mountain Goat has felt.

Like I said, I don't disagree with anybody reflecting upon the past.

I just don't like it when it "hits" them, and they become depressed because of it. Especially if it's been resolved already.

If it's been resolved already, why stew about it?

There are things in my life that have not been resolved; and I stew about them plenty!

I think it depends on what it is.

If something (hopefully, not someone

) hits somebody, they might not have mentally resolved it or maybe it’s not resolvable.

I stew about things, frequently.

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10 Jun 2019, 9:40 am

MG well, there seems to be a likelihood that you are not neurotypical, from what you have posted at least, when you go to be tested you will receive your official diagnosis.
Meanwhile you are discovering and understanding yourself , and receiving answers and advice. Just try to put it on hold and let it go.

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10 Jun 2019, 9:42 am

Fnord wrote:

Why is this important to you 33 years later?

Didn't you ever go back over your childhood and adulthood when you thought you may have autism?

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10 Jun 2019, 9:51 am

A lot of my old experiences started to make sense after the keyword of AS was introduced.
Making sense of my old memories made them less scary and it became easier to go on.

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10 Jun 2019, 9:55 am

Reflecting upon things, and having things make sense---are positive things.

You're not confined to a depressed feeling because you reflected upon things.

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10 Jun 2019, 9:57 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Hi Fluffy. Long Time No See

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10 Jun 2019, 10:01 am

I don't think Mountain Goat as obsessing about the past but rather reevaluating it with more self awareness.

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10 Jun 2019, 10:03 am

^^You're not wrong whatsoever.

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10 Jun 2019, 10:17 am

fluffysaurus wrote:

I don't think Mountain Goat as obsessing about the past but rather reevaluating it with more self awareness.

I hope so. While a little introspection may be good for the soul, obsessing about anything isn't healthy.

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10 Jun 2019, 11:33 am

Fnord wrote:

Why is this important to you 33 years later?

For a number of obvious reasons, among them, reasons he stated in his original post ( ie he coulda been married by this time).

A suggestion:

Instead of hijacking this thread why don't you leave this thread ( because you obviously cant deal with the topic- and obviously have nothing to contribute to it) - allow the rest of us to talk with Mountain Goat- and why don't you start your own thread in which you invite us to explain to you whatever the heck it is that you don't understand?

MG is bringing up an interesting and relevant topic- it deserves space of its own. Your issue (whatever it is) might as well have a thread of its own as well.

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10 Jun 2019, 11:43 am

Fnord wrote:

fluffysaurus wrote:

I don't think Mountain Goat as obsessing about the past but rather reevaluating it with more self awareness.

I hope so. While a little introspection may be good for the soul, obsessing about anything isn't healthy.

Dinosaurs!
Obsessing about dinosaurs is always awesome! :lol:

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10 Jun 2019, 4:07 pm

It is not often one walks into a dinosaur these days. Is quite an unexpected and unfortunate event!

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10 Jun 2019, 4:36 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:

Thank you Teach51. You are a great friend.

Something you said... I do have a concern. What if when I am diagnosed I am found not to be on the spectrum? Why the concern? Well. I am understanding myself far more then I ever have in my past as in the past I habe been drifting along without knowing who I am (Well, not quite but along those lines), and now things are starting to make sense, I am understanding myself more. Now if it is found that I am not on the spectrum it will feel like another rug pulled out from beneath my feet.. where I will be back to drifting through life again... (If that makes sense?)

Remember that it is a spectrum, so diagnosis or not the way you function is the way you function. You're understanding yourself more than you've ever had before and that is great no matter what, it's a huge step forward.
I think a lot of people have these concerns before evaluations, but my advice is to try to stay calm. You are still the same person as you were before, but you'll have much more information on how you function.

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10 Jun 2019, 4:54 pm

Novinha86 wrote:

Mountain Goat wrote:

Thanks.

Yes. Stay calm. Good point. There may be a while yet before the day comes when I am assessed. And I am one who other then energy loss which I believe are partial shutdowns, I don't get any other serious issues. Ok, I avoid crowded places, but that is easy! No one likes crowded places!

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10 Jun 2019, 5:13 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:

Teach51 wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Why is this important to you 33 years later?

Ahhh Fnordi, mountain goat is just realising that he may have Aspergers and is realising many things that have affected who he is today. He is wondering if he made life changing decisions that have been detrimental to his happiness because of misinterpreting what his father said regarding women.

You think that this is crying over spilt milk and counter-productive perhaps. I can see your point. I think though that MG is just trying to figure out the way aspies take things literally and misinterpret things, and to correlate this to himself. Suddenly he has contact with people who are similar to himself. It is a path of self-discovery that MG has embarked on with great courage, faith and optimism. He is awesome ! (as are you Fnord).

Thank you Teach51. You are a great friend.

Something you said... I do have a concern. What if when I am diagnosed I am found not to be on the spectrum? Why the concern? Well. I am understanding myself far more then I ever have in my past as in the past I habe been drifting along without knowing who I am (Well, not quite but along those lines), and now things are starting to make sense, I am understanding myself more. Now if it is found that I am not on the spectrum it will feel like another rug pulled out from beneath my feet.. where I will be back to drifting through life again... (If that makes sense?)

I don't think the diagnostic process has changed much but in Wales I believe if you are not on the spectrum they will point you in the right direction - you should get the answers you want either way.

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10 Jun 2019, 5:15 pm

By the way: if you happen "not" to be on the Spectrum, you still are a certified member here on WP.

I won't let you leave; I'll block the door!

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