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MikeTheAspie
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06 Oct 2024, 8:13 am

I am newly diagnosed post age 50. Glad to have found this forum.

I have a lot of the well-known Aspie (ASD) traits.

I am very reluctant to put myself out there in complex social situations, such as a work event.

It isn't enough that I listen to others and express myself. I have to think about too many things: what other people want to hear, dealing with their reactions/opinions, their reactions to my reactions, their questions about where I live, who am I dating, etc.

Also, if I tell them my interests, I have to hear their opinions about what such and such that I just said doesn't make sense to them. Then there is the usual male-totem-pole "I'm high status than you" BS that happens at these meetings. There is the indirect shaming BS, etc.

In general, I dislike meaningless small talk. In such events, I just zone out into my alien brain.



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06 Oct 2024, 1:18 pm

Welcome :)



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06 Oct 2024, 2:56 pm

Hi Mike,
Welcome to WP



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06 Oct 2024, 3:06 pm

Welcome to WP!! Wishing you an enjoyable journey with us!

I was diagnosed at 45 so I can relate. I joined here several years ago but lost my original account. Long story.



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06 Oct 2024, 3:33 pm

MikeTheAspie and Envirozen8666, welcome to WP! I hope you both decide you like it here.


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06 Oct 2024, 5:53 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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07 Oct 2024, 12:06 am

Welcome to wrongplanet :)



MikeTheAspie
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07 Oct 2024, 5:46 pm

I really appreciate the welcome everyone.

I know that this community is going to make a big difference in my life.

Have a great week!