How do you view being a perfectionist.

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12 May 2025, 5:09 pm

I'll give some examples of when being a perfectionist can be good or bad in the workplace from my own working experience.

My first job was dish-washing & I was praised a bit because the dishes I washed were almost always perfectly cleaned. Whereas some other dish-washers were not quite as detailed(which is understandable, especially during rush-hour) & the servers & cooks had to send some dishes back to be rewashed. With me the severs & cooks knew everything would be washed fine so they didn't worry about double checking anything they knew I had washed.

My second & third job were custodial & the cleaning didn't need to be perfect. At my second job my department was very short-handed sometimes & we sometimes has to spot clean. Trying to be a perfectionist with what I was cleaning was not practical & made cleaning take longer. I had to rush clean other stuff after because I was short on time & the stuff I cleared later in my shift looked a bit dirtier than what I cleaned at the beginning. It helped figuring out how to prioritize & strategize based on what needed to be cleaner & what was OK a bit dirtier & when was the best time during my shift to focus on what areas.


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12 May 2025, 5:11 pm

A frustrating distraction.


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12 May 2025, 6:05 pm

There was a time in my life where I used perfectionism as an unhealthy coping mechanism. I think it’s a good idea to have some balance.



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13 May 2025, 12:37 pm

"Never let the perfect be the enemy of the good."

I have aided the perfect in ravaging the good enough so many times I'm surprised I can still recall the phrase.



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13 May 2025, 12:55 pm

Attribution of procrastination


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13 May 2025, 4:17 pm

a hinderance.



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13 May 2025, 10:01 pm

A standard that only those with excellent executive function can sustain.

To someone with crappy executive function, obviously it's toxic, very much likely born from developed emotional complexes.
Whether it's a compensation to their insecurities or an attempt to gain approval to whatever they're deprived of or your usual feel good ego.

But to someone who isn't; it's a challenge.


A challenge I couldn't take on right now.
Yet and yet, I've never actually been a perfectionist.

My then view of being a perfectionist also meant not having second to more chances, not having any allowance for anything else other than 'being perfect' and caring too much on perfectionism, along with the countless overwhelming crap I likely won't able ever to process -- and I don't want that kind of existence.

I practically survived in countless lucky leniencies, graces and mercies or even misunderstandings to let me get a pass on not-perfect -- something that most idea of a perfectionism cannot fathom agreeing to exist with.

I understand the want and insistence for rigidity, for the sake of accuracy and precision -- but I would know when and when not to no matter how much my neurology insist otherwise.


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13 May 2025, 10:28 pm

In my science job, a requirement for upgrading was that you had "abnormal mental concentration for at least two thirds of the working day." Not exactly perfectionism, but it helps. And they also appreciated people who worked to high standards. Science is meticulous like that.



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30 Jun 2025, 11:59 pm

I always go with the flow and avoid competition, which is more obvious in the recent job search/entering school stage. I feel daunted by possibilities and the unknown. I don't understand why others work hard or want something.
I want a good university admission notice, I want a technical job as a starting point for my career, and I don't want to waste this year's preferential treatment for the civil service examination. I want perfection, even if there is no such perfect person who can do all three things at the same time.
My grandfather once commented that I act too dependent on interests. I used to attribute it to low intelligence or the only child environment. Now I know it is perfectionism, but I think it accounts for a large part of my makeup and may not be changed.


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01 Jul 2025, 5:03 am

Perfectionism vs good enough...

hmmm... I think both imposters are just the same, just hiding under a different name...

As I saw many before me express here on this post, my opinion is that "it depends" :)
I always strive to do everything to the point of "good enough" regardless of my energy levels.
But the good enough qualifier is a 'shapeshifter' and most of the times not even defined by me... :)

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01 Jul 2025, 6:15 am

It can be a good mindset for learning golf. There is always something new to learn!