I need practical advice for burnout

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Hello,

I am at a very peak episode of burnout and don’t really have much hope. I was adopted at birth and it turned out that family was fairly abusive and damaging to me in the long run.

I went to college on my own and graduated, then left home at 28. I had a job at the time but eventually got bullied out of existence there. I had enough social connections to bounce back, but got fed up there too and moved on. The job I moved onto fired me. I know - I'm the problem right? Aspie life.


Now im truely alone, and feel like I’m a walking corpse waiting for the final NT collective unconscious blow to just punish me out of existence. I will eventually not be able to afford food - and I’m not going to steal - I’ll just perish.


Depression is making it hard to do anything, it’s the worst feeling I can ever describe. I just want a AS friendly job and afford to live. I went to school, I worked hard for my credentials. Unemployed with no government help for 1+ year. I apply for jobs and get no interviews - I fear I’m on some blacklist?

Any veterans have an inkling of practical advice to move one of my feet in front of the other?

Hi there,

I have a workbook that I like called "DBT Workbook for Emotional Relief." You have to get your body out of crisis mode, and the book has some weird but effective techniques like bending over and keeping your head below your heart (a feature of calming yoga poses). Another technique is dunking your face in a sink full of water -- it's called the diver's reflex.

As for getting a job, I can only tell you what I did and that is that I went back to school in a high-demand major. I continue to bounce around jobs, but as long as there are a shortage of people in my field I feel pretty good about getting another job.

IT, huh? Could you be a math tutor? I did that for a while and pay is surprisingly good.

son got training in a different branch of IT , all online, now he works in internet security, and has a6 figure income.
keep skills updated toward "what is new" What is coming" and looking for other ways to use what you have and add on to it. Branch out to a different location within the IT community. Talk to headhunter/employment services who can find leads but take a certain percentage of your salary for the first year in exchange. (getting your foot in the door with the right people is likely worth it) Talk to human resources within the companies you think you want to work for and ask them what skills they need in employees. If expertise in certain programs or protocols, versions of new products is being sought, get educated and you will have a stronger resume and be more versatile in the workplace as a potential employee. If you want to try a new field entirely, there are demands for many skilled workers in the market, plumbers, electricians, automotive specialists, carpenters/builders/contractors, etc. mean time do your best self care, limit exhausting interactions outside of work if you can. Cheering you on.

A certification might help.

In the realm of computer security there are a number of certifications available. Some are suitable for hands-on folk, some are for bureaucrats. A little poking around on the Internet might help you find a certification you can get to without too much trouble.

I'm a CISSP-Retired...that is, a retired IT-security bureaucrat.