Want to completely overhaul my "life"

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Autistic burnout

Sick, tired and bored of everyone and everything, especially myself.

Exhausted all the time
Dissociated
Financially broke
No car
Surreal
Have to be close to a Litterbox at all times
Trouble sleeping
Physically weak
Zero "friends"
Almost getting hit by cars at work.

Not good at anything.

Afraid of everyone and everything.

About six weeks ago, I begged my coworker, tattle tale tom, "please don't hurt me".

Constantly afraid my micromanaging boss will have the nerve to make my worthless corpse redundant

Got no future

42 been on the decline for a long time

Not good at anything

Hobbies

Better job

"Friends"

Health

Working on how much you allow fear and anxiety control your life might be a good place to start, because that issue seems like the keystone that ties together many of the other issues as well as something that undermines a lot of your efforts to make things better for yourself.

They say a change is as good as a rest

Why would Tattle tale Tom hurt you by the way

I rebuilt my life after having a stroke in my mid 30s. It is much better now.

This is a good notion. You describe your life much like a more outdoor version of Dilbert.

Sometimes it's hard to tell if you are poking fun at your circumstances or figuratively beating yourself about the head and shoulders with your narratives. If you have a solid, accurate self-image that reflects your strengths and not just your weaknesses, that might give you something to work with. Then you could begin on some sort of plan.

That is what I am doing

I'm completely overhauling my life and it's starting with the romantic relationship sector first, then job/career!! !

It is NEVER TOO LATE to reverse & change course!

I'm not too sold on the idea of trying to change everything very suddenly. I think it can get very overwhelming. But I know the feeling. I made a lot of changes in a fairly short space of time when I was about 18, and I found it helpful. Really it was a whole shebang of complaints I had about my way of life which I went through one by one and planned interventions that I hoped would fix them. Success was limited but I didn't fail completely by any means.

But these days I balk at the idea of trying to reinvent myself in one swoop. I probably just don't have the energy or the time to do it. So instead I just focus on one thing at a time, and go for gradual improvements.

One way might be to go through your list of complaints and try to decide which one looks like it'll be the least difficult to fix. Then try to fix it, and with a bit of luck you'll have some success, and that should work as a confidence-building exercise so that you feel more able to take another look at the list and see what else might be tackled. The risk is that the first thing could fail and then you might feel that if you can't fix the easiest problem, you can't fix anything. But sometimes you have to put things down to rotten luck and try not to let it bother you.