2nd Chance at Doing Well Socially in Life

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If you did not do very well socially in school as a child or a teenager, did life give you a "2nd chance" in a manner of speaking as an adult?

I wish I could say yes it did. But things got better over time as I've moved around and was able to find people to have as friends who accept me for who I am. As for the other side of social area, the significant other side has not gone so well.

I've found love and friendship in the furry fandom - but I guess you could say i've always done pretty well in life, socially speaking.

I have to say everything got better once I had left school.
Adults are far more tolerant.

i'm 20 years old, and in college now, so far my social life hasnt been much better than it was in high school, and im not sure even if after college my social life really will improve..

Agreed with the above. Adults are far more forgiving, although there are still those who act like the school cliques and bullies if you end up with the wrong group. Overall, though, it's a lot easier as an adult both because you've had a chance to learn the "rules," and because adults will be less judgemental. As I just said in another thread, I think meeting people of a certain intellectual level helps, also. University was a godsend for me.

I have a significant other, and a wonderful one at that, but the work place hasn't been much easier for me socially as an adult. I still feel like a misfit even there. It might have something to do with the fact that I have spent my whole life undiagnosed. Perhaps now I would have a different perspective.

Yes. I find now that if I can just summon the courage to put myself out there a little bit, it's not so bad. I actually have a decent little circle of friends now. Sometimes I find it difficult to be a friend in the way they want or need, and I have problems with faux pas, but they know I'm a bit eccentic and they (mostly) accept these things about me. Which is cool, and much different from childhood. In childhood, I was completely awkward and friendless.

Work feels just like school to me. I'm always the weird one out. My current job is a little better since I now work in the disabilities field and people are a little more forgiving off weirdity. but other jobs have been nightmares. Having an NT husband who thinks that I am going out of my way to be difficult when having social issues isn't very helpful either. He is extremely forgiving of my weirdity when it is just us, but pokes fun in other situations. It's a little disconcerting sometimes. I'm not always comfortable with being poked at.

My social life is much worse. In (grade) school at least I had friends. Now I've got none, and basically no shot of having another significant other.

I want to find someone to share my life with, and I'd like some social contact with people, but realistically they're not happening (though I'm hoping maybe I can get some help with that sort of thing too...one of the reasons I'm going for a diagnosis).

Yes, I believe it did. My cat site gave me a sense of belonging. I can talk to fellow cat lovers about everything, cat and non-cat related.

Things are a lot better for me at uni than they were at school. The people there seem to be far more accepting of difference.

I am giving myself a second chance, but the thing is, I prefer to be here, and with people like the poeple here, who are tolerant.