Insensitive aspies and autists

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One time my older sister and I got into an argument and I said, "God didn't want you to be a mommy because you're too mean!" I was referencing her miscarriage.

Undoubtedly one of the most shameful things I've ever said in my life. It was years ago, but I still regret it to this day.

When I was younger (about 5-10 years old)...I used to be very open about what I thought which caused problems. If I thought something, I would say it. If I wanted to ask something, I would ask it.
Over the last few years, If I am not sure if something is going to offend of not, I will just say something like..."Sorry if I offend you with this, but -question here-".

I have learn't that this works online too

I was super bad about it as a child and I still do it to this day, but I am learning self control a bit.

I remember when I was about 8 years old my family and I drove from California to Oklahoma to visit relatives. We visited with my great grandmother on that trip and as we were all packing back into the car to leave, she told us to come back and visit again sometime. I said to her "But you'll be dead before we can get back here again." (she was in her 90's) My mother was so angry with me for that. I guess my mom's reaction is why I remember that particular incident.

I'm always asking questions that I find innocent, but other people find my questions or comments too harsh, honest, and direct and they shout my name or roll their eyes or gasp. Then I realize oops I did it again.... LOL

I did things like this when I was a kid. When i was in kindergarten I walked up to a friendly little boy and said, "You're fat." but I wasn't saying it to be mean, I was just stating the facts. Surprisingly, he responded, "I know... My mommy is trying to help me eat better." I sat down next to him, and tried to reassure him saying, "It's okay, I'll help you."

When I told my mom what I said she got very upset and explained to me that saying such things was considered tactless, and that if I wanted people to like me I should learn to keep my mouth shut sometimes. I'm still too honest at times but I don't make comments about people's weight, appearance or etc...

I was told not to say such things before I could say them. Or I'd ask my mom about them, so I didn't get into much trouble. But I am still insensitive. However, this fact only makes my friends think I say funny things.

I tend to have to forceably make an effort to be sensative - although in adult years its becoming less of a effort and more of a natural response.

I have learned to shut my mouth when its appropiate, but I can't help staring when there is something unusual about a person. If I try to not stare, I think it becomes obvious what i'm trying to not stare at.

My cousin asked something rather strange when my great-grandmother died (She was 104 years old). "Did some shoot her?" he asked my grandmother. Kids watch to much violence on tv these days

What do yoou expect - how much empathy do you have ?
Some random poster on an internet forum - you think i even bothered to read all those words.
How long did it take you to write?
Dont tell me - i could care less.

Answer your question.
Yes, i have asd

When I was 6 or 7 years old, I was with my mother in the store. In the line in front of the cash register, there was a guy with a nasty emo haircut. I pointed at the guy and told my mother about how strange and creepy this guy looked. She got very annoyed afterwards. I don't think I had more of these episodes than most NT kids though...

My 1. grade teacher also told my parents that I didn't want to play with other kids if I wasn't allowed to be the boss of everything.

In my childhood when we were singing in school, I liked to sing my own parodies of the songs we were supposed to sing (especially if it were christmas carols). Often people in the class would laugh when I did this, but the teachers always got pissed off. I had no idea why this annoyed the teachers.

When I was 13 or 14, we were going to work for some school stuff (not exactly sure what it was). The teacher asked who could work. Almost everyone raised their hand, but I didn't (since I tought this was after school). We got some more information, and I eventually raised my hand and asked if this was after school or during school, and if we were allowed to skip classes if we did this. The teacher explained that this was during school. My response to this was: "Then of course I can!" It took me a minute or so to realize why everyone laughed...

i have had incidents like that but not much anymore. I try not to point out things about peoples looks or whatever since i think that enough people(all kinds) have done it already.