Aspies and morale

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IDK about anyone else, but whenever I insult someone, I feel like a piece of crap, and always apologize. Most people see this as a weakness, but some people, like my mom, sees it as a gift. Do you have this kind of morale, or can you insult people and feel indifferent afterwards?

I think that having the ability to apologise if you know you have done wrong is a very good quality.

I don't like to intentionally insult people, and I feel SO terrible if I have.

I agree. The only determent of it is that it kind of sends out a message to bullies brains that I can be pushed around.

I have a very strong sense of morality. That's why I try not to hurt people in the first place, because I feel crappy when I do.

Well I certainly think that's certainly a much better quality to possess than the alternative! (being able to insult someone with no remorse, and feeling no desire to apologize afterwards). I personally can't remember the last time I did actually insult anyone, so I have no idea how I'd feel afterwards lol.

People tell me that I have good morals...but I don't feel them as sincere as much as I see them as a learnt way to deal with a world.
Apology for wrong doing is ok, but sometimes I apologize even if something wasn't my fault.
That is the issue - ineflexibility and it can lead to problems. People take advantage, you appear naive. Everyone pets you on your head and laughs behind your back.

It depends on who it is and the circumstances. I try not to insult others, but if a situation calls for it, or I truly, truly think that person is whatever I'm going to call them, then I think they deserve to know.

Personally I am paranoid about what other people think of me and I sometimes have it in my head that they must hate me, because I really like them and I don't want to "pollute" their space by hanging around with them. So I HATE insulting people or making people feel hurt/bad, so I do apologize when I know for certain I have insulted someone, but as I'm Aspie, I often don't know when I have.

All very difficult...

MORAL (adj): of, pertaining to, or concerned with the principles or rules of right conduct or the distinction between right and wrong; ethical.

MORALE (n): emotional or mental condition with respect to cheerfulness, confidence, zeal, etc., especially in the face of opposition, hardship, etc.

Get it right.

You gotta love WP and it's strict Nazi-Esq community.

I feel really bad when I hurt others, unless they actually deserve it, which is extremely rare.

When I try to insult someone it usually results in them breaking down in laughter, I am not remotely good at insulting people and when I try it apparently sounds "adorably forced". As far as morality goes I'm fairly amoral, I don't care about people and they shouldn't care about me.

What do you have against knowing the difference between "Morale" and "Moral"?

What makes teaching the difference and expecting others to get it right a "Nazi-Esq" act?

The correct term is "Nazi-esque", by the way.

^This! I really don't like to hurt anyone's feelings, but if I think a person has earned an insult by their own behavior, I feel almost a sense of obligation to tell them what I think.

You're comparing someone to a nazi because he pointed out your mistake to you? I don't know much about this "community" but I do know a little about douche bags who throw around the word "nazi" as flipantly as you. The worst part is you label an entire community 'nazi-esq' because one person pointed out your mistake; sounds a bit "nazi-esq" to me. Why don't you think before you speak then maybe your threads titles will make sense and you won't look like a jackass when you reply to people. On a side note I don't feel bad about insulting you and I'm not sorry, hope this helps