How do you cry?

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I don't cry often....although in the last years more than when I was a kid where I almost didn't cry, but when I do really cry (not just shedding a tear) I noticed that I'm unable to speak and to utter any word at all which can be impractical since people who want to know why can't get any information from me.
Trying to talk in this state makes me even cry harder,...maybe it's because every word related to this hurts emotionally. So it happens, that I only cry and make crying sounds and that's all I can do, people can't talk to me, can't tell me anything and I won't respond. But it's more like a magic spell, I would like to answer them but I can't.

E.g. once a relative of my wanted to show me his house but before that we went to another relative's house and I saw something which reminded me of my deceased grandmother, so I began to cry and went to a room where I wouldn't see this thing and stared out of the window. Even when I stopped crying I couldn't say anything since whatever Iwould've said would make me cry again. So my relative thought that I didn't want to see his house and that's why I was crying.....which wasn't the reason at all but I couldn't communicate for the life of it.

Once or twice I also noticed myself uttering one and the same expressions and words over and over again like a broken record while crying. Which I didn't seem to control since in my mind I was thinking "why am I doing this? Am I losing my mind?"...

So this is what happens when I cry. I must say, I haven't observed similar behaviour in other persons when crying (they can talk).

What about you? How do you experience crying?

I grumble/groan more than cry. But sometimes I get tearful and my voice changes during meltdowns (hate that). And sometimes I full-on cry, but from what I understood, I sound weird when I do. I think that it might involve some vocal tics.

I haven't cried in a while. When I cry, I "shudder" my shoulders while making a sort of "hiccup" sound. Not many tears come out, the main thing is the involuntary shuddering. Then after a minute, I punch something and then stop.

I can talk when I cry, but usually I don't because at that moment I find it nearly impossible to find the right words to explain the amount of pain I'm in or the reasons behind it. My ability to express my thoughts becomes even more impaired. But it's very rare that I cry around others. I usually "save" it for later, when I'm all alone.
However, if I'm having a big meltdown, I lose any awareness. I can't talk, I can't walk, I don't react to anything. I simply melt to the ground crying. Thankfully, these happen extremely rarely.

For me it is very similar to what you describe, Mayel.

When I feel overwhelmed it has helped sometimes to write, rather than speak, if I need to communicate something.

I sound like John Boehner when I cry & talk.

I don't cry...I moisten my eyes!

Interesting.
I once wrote a poem...while crying...If I'm overwhelmed and can't talk , writing seems to work indeed....
Maybe next time I'm in such a state I search for pen and paper.

I start wailing when I cry, in other words I talk in a high, wobbly voice, like most people do when they cry. Also my nose runs really bad when I cry, and the amount of water that comes from my nose is enough to fill a small bowl in a few minutes, so I keep sniffing and sniffing and swallowing all of it or getting loads of tissues. Then afterwards I sound like I had flu.


I could cry my eyes out now, since I'm now the only one in my whole family who hasn't got a boyfriend.

I experience crying like you do, not wanting or able to talk about it with anyone no matter how helpful they might be, because if I'm crying it's at the point where talking about it isn't going to solve anything or change whatever has made me cry. One of my traits is that I find no value in speaking unless it's to solve or accomplish something, so that probably plays a part in this.

When I cry I rarely do it in the presence of others. When I cry my tears would quietly run down my cheeks, though occasionally I'd gasp. I can speak after I calmed down a little. I guess I've cried more in the last two years than ever before in my whole adult life.

Usually when I cry my face and body tense up and the tears just leak out of my eyes while I sit there silently. If I try to speak though, my face crumples and I start hiccupping and making gasping and wailing noises. It's really embarrassing so I communicate through writing if I'm crying because I hate drawing too much attention to myself.

I'm crying right now, and biting my nails really hard. It's because I'm having a tearful moment, and feeling sorry for myself. Well I'm just sobbing really.

I try to cry as silently as possible because I don't want anyone to know about it. I cry for stupid reasons a lot of times, especially considering that my life in general is pretty idyllic compared to most other peoples'.

Anyway, when I cry, mostly my shoulders shake up and down. Then I sniffle and make that shuddering/gasping noise.

When I was a child and teenager I used to cry really loudly, like wailing and screaming, which was mostly an attempt to get people to try to comfort me. For some reason, I used to only do it when my mom wasn't around, so I only had my dad to comfort me. My dad never comforted me when I did that - he just came into my room and told me to turn up the TV so he couldn't hear me. Even to this day, he still gets angry with me when I express negative emotions, because he thinks I'm being "illogical".

I tend to sob hysterically and it's physically hard to speak while doing that, even if I felt like I had sense enough to say anything, which I usually don't. I cry like a baby.

I cry silently, mostly. Just tears, no sound. Sometimes I cry because of extreme anger or fear, and in those cases my breathing gets really uneven/ragged. (yup, struggling with my english today).