AS and living on your own

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Hey everyone I'm 24 and still live with my awesome parents who have been more than Great to me but someday maybe I'm open to moving out and living on my won or with a partenr who could help me becausue I have some problems. I was wondering to anyone of here what age were you when you moved at and it is nice to be on your own or not? Thank you everyone .
Andrew

I moved out at the age of 21.

It's nice, but you have to get used to spending week-ends alone in your apartment.

I kinda moved out for college between 18-22 although being on a college campus provides significant conviences (food, no transportation, everything in 1 place). Never lived off college during my college yrs. I will going to grad school this upcoming fall, living off campus in city i dont know much about. So Im in for the real deal now.

Yes it is nice to be on my own. Or at least i think so. No parental restrictions, go in and out and do what you want. No one to report to essentially. Depending on your living arrangements, as much alone time as you want. No family getting in your face and bugging you about stuff.

Hard parts for an aspie, likely executive functioning stuff. Cleaning, cooking, taking care of yourself part.

moved out at 18. lost my profession and moved back in at 40. moved out again to get married at 52.

Too young. 17. The short version of the story is that I did not have a choice in the matter.

It was difficult at first but I was able to adapt. I never felt lonely. Anxious, yes. The adaptation was more about just taking care of the apartment and dealing with landlord, paying utilities, making sure food supply is well stocked.

I think I would have difficulty living with other people again. No, not think. I know I would have difficulty living with people again.

I moved out at 26 and it was difficult. I was leaving my aspie mom by herself. We both had anxiety about being two aspies living on our own, but it was necessary for my self-esteem and contentment. I still love the peace and quiet and the privacy. I injured myself last year due to a meltdown which caused health problems I'm still dealing with a year later. I thought about moving back to help prevent more stupidity on my part and help deal with my health problems, but I don't think I can live with another person again. Visiting is enough.

It's good to have help -- it doesn't matter if it's a partner or your parents. I freaked out and didn't follow my game plan and ask for help, which I greatly regret. I was too busy freaking out. But I certainly don't regret living on my own.

18. I loved living on my own. I lived pretty simply, but I enjoyed the autonomy. It did get lonely, and even overwhelming on occasion, but I needed that quiet at that time.

18, with much support from my family and partner.

18, into a young Mens Hostel, it was good as there were quite a range of people there to get used to. A lot of independance, and great late night discussions with some of them. Later into shared houses - mainly students and ex-students

I learned a lot from those experiences.

When I turned 18, I moved in with an older cousin and his family. Then I rented a room from a friend of his, then I shared a big house with five guys around my age, then another house with three guys and then finally an apartment with a guy who was neurologically impaired from a motorcycle accident. During this five year span I worked a series of menial labor jobs. A the the age of 23, I finally got my own little studio apartment. After five years of roommates, I found living completely alone to be a pleasant change. I've lived by myself for 27 years in small apartments since then, with no desire for another roommate or companion. I don't even keep pets. I've been in my latest place for over 10 years. It's my little crackerbox fortress of solitude. I keep things as simple as possible and live below my income.

I´m 30 and still live with my parents. So does my NT 27yr old sister, but she lives upstairs of our house, where she has her own kitchen, living room etc.

I think I could be able to live on my own if I got a job, larned how to cook and how to pay ulilities. But I would miss my dogs.

BTW I don´t think living with your parents is wrong or a shame.

I'll turn 30 in a couple of weeks, and I still live at home with my Dad (and now my grandmother who lives with us now who is 85 years old and is senile) and never moved out, but If I had a job (depending on how much it pays) maybe I would be able to live on my own instead of still living at home.

I'm 37 and still live with my mother and will for the rest of her life. At this point even if I had a job I wouldn't move out. I don't feel any need to and she doesn't mind having me here.

I lived in a dorm from 18-19 for college, but became ill often and I do not drive so I had to walk or bike everywhere. It was actually pretty nice for the exercise, freedom, and solitude, but I had problems too. I think my wife and myself would do well with our own house if I could walk to work/stores and had some help with financial planning and schedules, our biggest problem is budgeting and maintenance (and phoning companies, neither of us like to use phones).

It seems with this economic downturn that alot of people are moving back in with their parents. But I left home at 18 joining the Army (actually joined when I was 17 with parental consent). Dealt with Army life well. Mainly being a barracks rat. Though once I discovered that military posts have things like indoor pools, and gyms I took full advantage of that. Most of the time they were busy in the mornings, and empty in the evenings. Transitioning to civilian life was another story.