Would it be disasterous for Aspies to hang out ?

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i often find it diffcult to keep a conversation even with my closest friends. I absolutely hate being in the same room as just 1 other person.

But what if aspies would hang out together ? Im thinking it would be alot more confortable since we both have an understandng of each other. And even being together without saying much wouldnt be uncomfortable.

although i dont know for sure because i dont know any other aspies.

It stands to reason that your statement would infact be true. however I lack any sort of hard data on the subject seeing as I have never actually been in the same place with another autistic person or persons for that matter. I have managed to have a small amount of very memerable converstaions I have had with some very intelligent people. It is true that eventhough we have something in common that would make it much easier on ourselves. Yet, everyone else is not the same and there are still a small percentage of people that have enough understanging to hold a good position when dealing with people like ourselves.

I'd probably get bored with the topics of conversation.

On the rare occasions I find my self in the unfortunet event of being around other people, I prefer that they do all the talkin. Because my biggest issue is not that they are annoying and I hate them but that I dont make my self out to be a jerk by being uncomfortable around them. So if they are talkin they are thinking less about why im not sayin nothin. But situations like that usually end with me turning into a nervous wreck. The longer in in some place like a mall and with 2 or more people I meltdown and walk home =/

But if were to hang out with another aspie, I think it would be interesting because Ive never actully talked to a person who understand how I felt and was in the leaste bit interesting. And honestly I find myself pretty cool so if I could meet someone like me thatd be awesome.

I have hung out with other autistics of all sorts: PDD, AS, HFA, and probably LFA as well. One of the things I've noticed it that it isn't necessary to even say anything much. Just being in their company is nice and more soothing than NT's. When you are with another aspie, to some extent you are free of the societal expectations of behavior, you can be yourself, and that's very nice. It isn't the same as total solitude in the forest, but it's about as good as human contact can get, IMHO.

My fourth child has a lot of aspie traits, as of now he's uniagnosed. I can honestly say that I never, ever get tired of him. All the other kids tire me out, no matter how much I love them. He does not. He is something of a loner too, but we like spending time together.

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This is why I mentioned in the past about having
a WrongPlanet.Net Convention somewhere.
I enjoy talking to you folks, but when I get off
line I am always aware how different I am to others
and would love to be in a relaxed face to face
with people similar to me and my weaknesses
and strengths.

Hmmmm? Alex! What do you think?

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

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My first true friend just happened to be another Aspie. We met by accident when I was 12 and he was 11 because his older brother was in my class and was into robotics (like me, at the time) and took me home one day to show me the stuff he was building in his basement. When the two of us were introduced to each other we just connected at a gut level. We became very close very quickly, no doubt due to the low social demands we placed on each other -- it was nice to be around someone who didn't talk constantly and didn't expect me to be entertaining (or entertained) all the time. The next year we ended up at the same school, and the two of us would spend our lunch hours hanging out in a far corner of the parking lot away from everyone else and have slow conversations with lots of quiet time for reflection. I would go to his home after school and the two of us would often just sit there and read silently or play Othello (one of his obsessions). I never really paid any attention to his brother after that chance meeting. We still keep in touch even though we now live thousands of miles apart. It's nice to have a friend who really understands you...

I've only met one guy who is probably AS. I didn't learn how to really get along with him until I went on a BSA Venturing Crew campout with him for a week.

I would love to meet someone else like me. It would be really weird though, I'm sure. I've met plenty of mentally challenged (retarted) people. I work with a few, but that's nothing like AS. I like the idea of a WrongPlanet convention, but a lot of people live in different countries, and a lot are teenagers.
Oh well, just some thoughts.

I have to admit, this thread surprises me. But I assume that people know of the bunch of real-time support groups that have been around for years now. At least in the USA, there are two in Los Angeles, three in NYC, one in Atlanta, Chicago, Philadelphia, Portland-Oregon, Boston, Phoenix, Tucson, San Francisco, Coure-DeLaine (Idaho), Minneapolis and Erie, Pennsylvania that I know of.

So much for the disastrous interaction hypothesis

Jerry Newport

I just wish I could find a group in the Riverside, Cal. area. The closest one that I am aware of is somewhere around Coachella Valley.

I say it would be good, but the thing is that the only other fellow Aspies I know do not spend much time with me.

There is a support group in Milltown, NJ.

I don't know how I'd feel if I met Aspies. I'm not really full-blown. I just have traits. The only Aspie I know in real life is my son, and he seems worse off than me. On the other hand, I seem to get along with people in the WrongPlanet chat room. I'm very quiet in real life, though.

The problem is finding other Aspies to talk to.

is that Soundgarden? I like soundgarden.