terrified of ageing

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Probably seems a silly thing to obsess over daily but it's just always there. Time seems to be advancing way too quickly and I feel very stressed by it! I feel like I wasted my youth and especially the last couple of years were stolen by severe anxiety. I feel like it's getting to let to do the things I wanted to do with my life and I'm really worried I'll get less and less likeable and able to deal with people and have worse bipolar issues with time.
It's constantly freaking me out because I can't imagine a bright future, I only see myself declining as my skin loosens.

I used to worry about that too. I am old now, and accept myself more than ever, loose jiggly skin and everything.

I am betting it all on a robot body!

Ageing really peeves me off too. Ageing is the number one killer of our race, and I think it needs tackling as a serious issue. We are all so used to people ageing and dying of age related problems, that people treat it as "it's the natural way of things". I think ageing should be considered a disease or disorder, and when someone dies of "old age" rather than that being considered a peaceful preferable thing, it should be considered as a failure of our race to tackle the problem.

On a lighter note.... I think that some extremely rich people are beginning to realize the potential of modern medical advances, and the potential to extend their own life and others. I think the first signs we will see is billionaires or dictators reaching 90, 100, 110 years old and being in apparently phenomenal health for their age. It will probably be played down at first, as it's likely that treatment would initially be extremely expensive but in the end it will be impossible to ignore. Just look at Queen Elizabeth, she's 88. 88! and she's in great condition.

I am of the firm believe that the first person to live to 200 years is already alive today, I just hope that includes almost all of us! To improve our chances of surviving to this age, the best thing we can do is try to get everyone thinking that this is something that can be tackled, and should be tackled, and our attitudes towards ageing should change.

As far as I know - there are only two options - grow older or die. If somebody can figure out another alternative I would like to hear about it.

With time, you typically trade off physical beauty for the spiritual aspect of beauty. Playing instruments through much of your youth and then reaching savant levels in your 30's and 40's, typically shows this, or having children who carry on that beauty, and it's there that as a parent, you illustrate the tender side of beauty that wants to encourage and help people that are still finding their way in this world.

Physical beauty is nice, but it's fleeting, the spiritual aspects of beauty is what you need to embrace, and that only gets better with time. Learn an instrument, mentor someone, become an artist or a novelist -- all the spiritual aspects of beauty that aren't fleeting, but will carry on even far beyond your life.

Yep....know the feeling. Feel like I've wasted about 30 years of my life. I intend on making up for that over the next 30 years.

Wrinkling skins and ageism is the least of my worries. What I'm worried about is the declining health itself. I don't want to grow old just to get crippled. As I've seen my grandparents end up being so dependent on their children; physically and mentally... That cringes me to no end, seriously.
They're quite lucky that they're mostly nurses and caregivers; they don't have much a problem. The upside of the cultural norm from where I live is, institutions for the elderly are almost non-existent. They stay at home, being taken care by relatives even they're crippled. Same applies to the mentally disabled. So to say, most elderly here don't die alone. But still, that didn't stopped me from worrying about seniors' health.

I'm not worried about growing old and dying alone or not. Yet I would rather die quickly or rather die while still able to walk and still capable of thinking regardless of my age.

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I can relate, I'm turning 25 this year and I'm having more meltdowns than ever. I don't want to grow up.

Skin loosening is the least thing to worry about.
I am in constant back pain that is always on the verge of becoming screaming agony pain if I do just that little too much.
I am looking forward to retiring in a few years whereupon I will be completely isolated to die alone in helpless agony.

I seem to be fairly healthy (knock on wood) except for the perimenopause issues I'm having. mentally I'm actually fine. My major problem is depression, but I haven't dealt with that in a while either. I had a few horrible years in my 30's where I had agoraphobia and panic disorder, but that's completely gone now. Those were the only two things I've ever had wrong with me mentally and I'm doing fine with them now. I turned 50 last year.

I've been worried about getting old too. Mainly right now, I'm worried about looking old. I was never beautiful and I always wanted to be and now I can't ever be the kind of beautiful I want to be because I can't afford plastic surgery like the stars have. Anyway, I'm starting to look my age. I'll look "nice for my age" but that isn't what I want. Also, I have mainly always had a killer body and it's starting to not be so killer. I know if I just make time to some daily exercise that will actually improve the looks of my body that I can get on this and fix it and prevent things from going South, but I never have the time and when I do, I don't have the energy.

I have four kids who I get along with and would gladly take care of me if need be so that's not what I'm worried about. I just don't want to get old. I'm already a grandmother and I feel nothing at all like my grandmother, or even my own kids grandmother's. As for living with one of the kids when I get really old, I wouldn't mind that. Probably whichever one it is would live here with me, as it's my house. My brother in law lives with my mother in law and takes care of her, or does it as well as he feels like doing, he's a drunk but he takes care of her ok. None of them were ever very close to her because she was and is a real b***h, but I have a great relationship with my kids and they would actually care about me and take good care of me or hire someone to if they couldn't and I couldn't take care of myself.

My mother lived by herself until she went into the hospital and died a few weeks later. I stayed with her several times when she was sick and after she had had surgery, etc and I could see my kids doing that. My youngest daughter did that for her too when my mother was sick during the summer and school was out and all.

Right now though, it's just wrinkles and such that's bothering me. I can easily cover the grey hair, but I can't do anything about saggy skin. I have no actual wrinkles yet, except for a frown line between my eyebrows, but my eyelids are a little crepey, and my face looks somewhat older, and I don't like that.

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The worst part of getting old is that the older generations, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents have died and are gone forever. That's really weird for me.
The world has changed but I'm still me, the same as I've always been.
Just live life one day at a time and don't worry about it. Be like an animal, they don't worry about getting old.

I don't like being a functional cripple.

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awwww am headed to dreamland now, I want one of them there shiny V suits also! maybe my aluminum tin can will become a space capsule of sorts if the winds here blow hard enough