How my autism and facebook caused chaos

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It's a tempting site. So if people tell me to log off or stay off the notorious social media site I can't really. It's like an addiction to a drug or medicine you can't shake it off unless you take serious steps to kick the addiction. Luckily my Dad changed the password and will delete the account tomorrow, problem is that the damage is already done. I spent years ruining my reputation and getting into the wrong fights it didn't matter if I was right what mattered was that I lost friends and alienated people. My Dad warned me, he was wise to tell me to distance myself but I happened to venture back on. Lets be honest I'll get replies here telling me to dump facebook but dumping facebook is like kicking substance abuse and that is not something that is easy to do. The real question is for any of the people on this site who kicked the addiction I ask you how did you go clean? Because I can't take anymore abuse, I just lost one of my closest friends on there after a heated battle and it really hurts. I got into a fight with my friend when he defended someone who compared me to the Dunning Kruger Effect one thing lead to another and I'm now blocked by one of my closest friends. I should of just not engaged him about the subject but my aspergers and my addiction to the site really made it difficult. Anyway like all trauma's I face I want to rebuild my life following this but my dependency on facebook was so great that starting life anew is challenging, so again the main question is how have the users on this site who have kicked the habit manage to stay off the site? Because I'm new to recovering from the trauma's of facebook.

Sorry if I came off the wrong way I just need some advice on steps to kick the site for good.

I'm addicted to Facebook too.

I mean, when you go to delete your account it says that it will be removed completely in 14 days. That is a really long time to keep yourself from not logging in. Even distracting yourself from Facebook for 2 weeks does not work if you're that addicted. It's TOO EASY to just log back in.

There was a time where I became depressed because of Facebook, and I deleted my account but couldn't resist logging back in before the 2 weeks were up.

I'm an obsessed Facebook user.

There have been studies about the site being addictive in a way that makes getting off it a real challenge and not many people who promise to dump the site actually fulfill the promise. But I sort of wish for a society without it sometimes.

So after looking at the history of this site I can comfortably say that I am among many people who are sick of facebook. It is a hotbed for flamewar's and many other things. But since many on this site share a common and mutual frustration over facebook we should share any solutions that have proved effective.

My advice is to delete your account, unplug your computer and pack it away somewhere you won't see it unless you deliberately go looking for it. (Or, if it's a shared computer and the other users aren't willing to sacrifice computer time for you, get them to set it up in a low-traffic part of the house and change the password to something you don't know.) Keep it packed away for at least 14 days, and then reevaluate how you want to use your computer in the future.

You want it to be a real pain to impulsively log on to Facebook, so you have plenty of time to think to yourself 'why am I doing this? I'm trying to quit this' before you've actually logged on. That's the way to break an impulsive habit - make it really hard to do.

I still need the computer for schoolwork and email. My Dad however has changed the password to my facebook so I will never know how to get back into the account. Regardless the site can be as equally traumatic to anything I have dealt with in-person its a hotbed for fighting. Zuckerburg has profited off of other peoples pain.

Can't help you-- I stay the hell off FakeBook for exactly that reason. I don't want a permanent www.record.com of my social gaffes. And I don't want to look at other people's airbrushed representations of their lives. Looking at their landscaping is bad enough.

Its fine I understand why this is my battle and my battle alone. Helping me get off facebook is like helping someone kick a drug addiction. Ultimately its up to the individual that individual being me to make the right choices in the road to recovery. I'm just glad that you've taken the right steps to avoid the site but as for me I'm going through a state of withdrawal. It just seems surreal that one of my closest virtual relationships is gone.

Tell me about it there many social media comments that people regret stay online for years.

1) Treat Facebook like a social resume. Don't post anything you wouldn't want a potential employer, your grandma, or your grandchildren to see or read.
2) Don't discuss politics or religion. Come here and post on PPR, instead.

These two rules should help you avoid 99% of Facebook drama.

Actually my former virtual friend actually still hangs out with people who make politically charged posts that does not really offend him. What made us go to splitsville was that I didn't like that his is friend compared me to the Dunning Kruger effect. I mean they never met me in-person they don't know what I was thinking when I was posting my comments they are assuming who I am because they only go by comments not actual in-person conversations.

I don't have social media for this very reason. I know I'd become too addicted and would not be able to do anything else. It'd suck me in and I would find myself addicted and feeling the need to log in every 5 minutes to check for updates. I have grades to get, and the highest possible ones at that. I am often tempted to join as I know that I could communicate easier with some people, but I always refrain. Once you're in you cannot escape. It's like a drug, you become addicted and cannot stop, you promise yourself you'll go off in '5 minutes', that turns into 10, trickles to 15, then half an hour, then an hour, and before you know it you've wasted hours of time on that without doing any revision or important stuff. This site is possibly the only exception, I find it to not be addictive somehow. It's a lovely site but I'm not addicted to it thankfully.

I don't even like FB that much. It's a pretty phony site that's made it possible for even the biggest sociopaths to be narcissistic. I much prefer YouTube and accept the harsh ugly truth and glad it has both like and dislike button. I met more people on tube that I'd considered friends than facebook, people are even open to b***h about their own life problems on tube. Difference is you can see their personalities.

I only have "real life" Facebook friends. If I was going to have online friends, I'd start another account under a false name. It's best to keep your personal information and relationships separate from online friendships, for safety and privacy's sake.

I'm still reeling over it actually not just because of him as an individual but because he was a well connected individual so it cost me a lot of relationships. I wish facebook didn't influence any significant part of anyone's life.