What triggers your rage attacks?

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Every time I had a rage attack, it was due to severe bullying. What are your triggers?

Ironically, lack of communication (in adulthood). When I was a child it would more often than not being forced into something I didn't want to do.

The lack of communication comes mainly from my partner. It's just the way he handles an argument. And thus I think the only way he knows how to handle me when I am in meltdown mode. Not being able to talk through issues with someone when I am not understanding the situation is... well, like hell.

Before I met my boyfriend, I've only gotten really angry once, and that was because something very unfair was going on. Now I get angry a lot, and also get a few rage attacks here and there. It's always caused by poor communication. Me trying to say something important and being misunderstood or judged by the boyfriend. I think it's because it's the first time I've cared about what someone thinks of me.

Sometimes my family because we have all been on edge since something traumatic happened this year but mostly bad memories of when I was tormented by bullies.

Same as the OP AND not being listened too and told the bullying was my fault. Or being told I wasn't allowed to talk about my special interest for so long, but everyone else was allowed to talk about the same thing for as long as they wanted.

I used to get angry when I felt powerless to control something. I've never dealt with feelings of helplessness very well as a child, although as an adult (and being on meds) I've been able to control angry outbursts and try to think more logically about things like saying to myself "I cannot control this, and making a fuss will not change what I can't control".

But lately I've found myself feeling angry when out in public, not anything noticeable to others but inwardly I sometimes just feel extremely impatient. Living in an overpopulated area with too many cars and people really gets to me. I use up so much energy trying to act calm and cool, that it makes me exhausted and crave quiet times indoors where I can nap or just chill.

Cruelty. Or feeling as if my integrity has been questioned.

• My mother
• Being around people (especially in large groups)
• People who make fun of those of an alternate lifestyle
• People who make fun of kinks and those with kinks
• People who say, "It's not real"
• Being called a child
• Being told I need to go to a "crazy home"
• Being told my beliefs are stupid
• Being called crazy and "messed up in the head"
• The word, "weird" when used as a way in insulting me
• People hurting my friends in any shape or form

Threads like these LOL

Now....Seriously, I've been put into a rage by bullying, even "not-so-severe" bullying.

I get enraged when I'm on the subway, I've been waiting for a train for half-an-hour, I get on the train, it stalls, then the conductor says, "We're being held here because of a train right in front of us." That's a bunch of crap; we've been waiting for the train for 30 minutes! No train is in front of us!

I get enraged when stupid subway crap makes me miss my bus.

I get enraged when somebody tries to take my parking space. Parking is at a premium in New York City.

I get enraged when people get petty.....very enraged.

Being kept awake or woken up badly.

Very much so for me as well. I lost a very good job recently because a co-worker kept harassing me even though I had complained about him for several months and the company did nothing. One day he really got underneath my skin and I jumped off my forklift and physically attacked him. I threw punches left right and center and I was the one who lost his job and the other guy still works there.

This has always been a major rage trigger for me ever since I was very young and remains my greatest weakness.

Traffic, traffic lights, queues, incompetent people both in and off the road.

As I've got older I have become really impatient and I get so frustrated to the point of rage.

Yes I am an angry person and I don't give a s**t.

Noise pollution is the biggest trigger for me. Neighbours playing music, people doing DIY, dogs barking.
Thankfully that's not a problem where I live now but it's always a worry that I'll be forced to move back to a bad area where that sort of thing is the norm.

I also get really angry when electronic devices don't do what they are supposed to do. Things not installing properly or freezing up.

My therapist says I have no contact with my anger, she is trying to dig it out.
I even started to believe I don't feel anger at all. But she doesn't think of it as possible.
But I really don't match the angry face unless I practise it with a mirror.
There is some reaction to unfairness where I want to do anything I can to set things the right way - is it anger?
I'm lost in this stuff.

Anger wasn't safe where I grew up, so I almost never went there. 20 years ago, when it first started to come out, the first thing I noticed was that when I was thinking of certain things, my car went faster.
BTW, I don't get road rage - the nearest traffic light is an hour away!

When people yell at me, I reciprocate even though I don’t mean to. I hate being yelled at, it’s horrible! I always yell back, impulsively. I know that 2 wrongs don’t make a right but it’s a knee-jerk reaction.