Are autistic individuals often more childish than NT's are?

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Are autistic individuals often more childish than NT's are?

I wanna ask this because I often get critised by another people because they call me childish.

They often say that my jokes are very childish. And they also say that my taste on movies is childish, my taste on video games is very childish.

Its very frustrating when I try to be myself and then someone else tries to Make me feel bad about it.

Considering one of the delays that people on the spectrum encounter is socially, I am not shocked that NTs would think that we are childish.

NTs can be childish too.

People with ASDs can be immature, which is a bit different to childish.

i have been told that i am 'immature' and 'childish' on numerous occasions but i've also been told that i am 'wise beyond my years' and 'intelligent' by adults, whatever that means... i don't think i want to know... i'm sure if i was with a group of people constantly, like the people that defined me as 'immature' and 'childish', it would be less obvious that i am 'immature' and 'childish' and if they got to know me, they'd realise i have a lot of universal ideas that are beyond them and their 'maturity' and 'adult-ish-ness'.

You can't measure childishness

You have to say, which NT or which autistic is childish. At what time.

Childish has a negative connotation but is not inherently a bad thing

It looks like a disproportionate number of autistics claim to have no job, romantic relationship or friends. That, to NTs , could appear childish

I AM NOT ACTING CHILDISH!



I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!  I'M NOT!!

Last edited by Fnord on 13 Nov 2019, 3:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Here in the UK people dont judge those that are single, as I know a lot of NTs who don't have a relationship.

However adults who live with their parents with no job can be seen as childish, but that depends on the circumstances.

Explain what you mean by the sense of humor being childish? What kind of jokes do you usually tell?

You would be surprised how many people over 25, with or without a job, still live with their parents these days in the US.

Yes it's the same in the UK too. One of my NT cousins has never moved out and she's 30.
But some Aspies here seem to believe that all NTs have their life together before the age of 20.

A capable adult living off their parents and having no job is probably rather childish. But if you live with your parents and have a job, it's not so bad. Or if you've lost your job and you're actively looking for another job while living with your parents it ain't so bad either. Some people's relationships fall apart and they have no choice but to move back in with their parents until they get sorted. So it all depends on the circumstances.

I have nothing against people living with their parents.

I didn't want to live with my mother----because I wanted to live under my own rules. I moved out as soon as I've been on my job 9 months. I never looked back.

But other people get along well with their parents, or maybe want to save to buy a house, or maybe feel like they want to take care of their ill older parents.

Other than me being 33 and people still telling me I look like I could be 18 (I would assume a stretch) but I’m always reminded of my childlike features.

Other than that.

Yes I think I do have a lot of childish characteristics even though I also think I have very mature characteristics.

Not being able to read social cues very well and not enough direct communication with people and me feeling naive to anything told to me.. might be my biggest two that make me feel childlike.

I find NTs are likely to pin many different labels on aspies in their struggle to understand us. Yes, I been called childish. I think usually they are too scared of me to call me any names to my face. Instead, they probably throw labels around behind my back . Makes me want to be open about my ASD so they can quit their gossiping, but I haven't got a good feeling about doing that from what I have read on here .

I am aware that mant people observe that in Social matters we can be a few years behind the typically wired population. At the same time we can demonstrate skills in language, reasoning, knowledge gathering or some academic or trade type skills a few years ahead of the typical population.

From my own history, pretty much uo to age sixteen on family holidays I was quite content to play on the sand on the beach, building occasional sand castles and more usually sand model motorways and trunk roads across the beach, or dams and canals across any streams. At the same time I could ger credit in English class at school for exceptionally well thought out answers in mire philosophical questions and I was able to repair television receivers. Our profiles are quite spiky.

My humour still prefers South Park to Friends, findinf South Park funny and Friends justca boring soap opera with a laugh track.

As a child, I was often told by those around me that I acted too serious. I was made aware that this often meant that I acted too grown up for my age. Even though I had a best friend who was my age, I usually felt more comfortable around adults. While most kids were playing ball or having parties, I was tucked away in my room drawing hotel plans, studying house plans, and analyzing roller coaster statistics. As I have grown older, I often perceive myself as that child of years ago, grown-up acting, but young. When I encounter people my age, I think of them as older than me (although in reality I know they are not).

I admit to being more childlike than the NTs in my life. I prefer Cut the Rope over Fortnight, I'd rather wear a German helmet than look like a member of my birth-assigned gender. I prefer Hogan's Heroes and The Monkees over CSI and Game of Thrones. I have all my plush Om Noms from Cut the Rope and a couple of pea pod pillows that I like to sleep with under my pea green comforter. I have my own, little Sweet Pea world that I live in where everything is lush, green and/or round.