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The title of this thread would have been "For those of you who are familiar with my posts, how do I come across?" if the system had let me type such a long title and if I had wanted a less melodramatic title.

Anyway, I know you all have your own problems, and I know that I am just another random member on this forum who likes to whine and moan about his problems every now and then, but for those of you who have been paying attention to my posts, and I'm being optimistic in assuming that at least one person here has been doing that, how do I come across?

Do I come across as a nice guy? Do I come across as a jerk? Do I come across as the type of person you'd like to meet? Do I come across as more of an aspie or an NT?

Please be blunt. If I wanted sugarcoated answers I'd ask an NT.

My thoughts of your online personality.

You are not consistantly bold and blunt. You are not consistantly meek either. It doesn't bother me much.

I may not always respond but I do pay attention to your posts.

You sound down on yourself alot which is understandable because we are on the wrong planet.

You come across as aspie.

I've been noticing you. I've also noticed a change in your posts over the past week or so.

When you first started posting here, my initial impression was that you were pretty much a jerk (sorry). I actually wondered if you were trolling at one point, if I remember correctly. Now my impression of you is that you want to be nice and sometimes you say things before you think about the consequences or how it might come across to others. It seems like when you make a comment that comes off as rude, you're just kind of unlucky in the way it occurred to you to say it, but now I know you're not deliberately trying to be offensive. Lately especially it seems like maybe you're making more of an effort to modify that, like you're increasingly caring more about what people think of you (in a good way). I was just thinking earlier today that I really like that about you, how you are very earnest in your quest for growth and improvement.

You seem quick to react but also very helpful. You definitely come across as an aspie, to me. You seem like you're really worried about the future and not very confident in yourself (but who is?). You seem like you like to have fun and joke around a lot. You seem like you'd be neat to hang out with. You remind me a lot of one of my friends back in high school. And hey, he's a doctor now.

I like how Kitsy said that her observations were about your "online personality". We only see pieces of each other here. Perhaps higher quality, more genuine pieces than people get to see of us in person. But still just pieces.

Gwenevyn pretty muched summed up all I would have said.

I worry that perhaps you focus far too much on the negatvie aspects of every part of your life. I'd hope that with a bit of practice you could gain a more balanced outlook, that life is a mixture of good and bad things.

I know, from being depressed most of my life, that it really isn't fun. It's not a choice to feel depressed or not, when you wake up in the morning, you don't decide "I'm going to be depressed today" because nobody would want to be depressed. But you can decide if you are going to direct your life towards deeper depression or not. It takes a lot of time to turn that bus around and it takes a Herculean effort that it's very difficult for a depressive to actually muster up inside them. That's the main reason depressives stay depressed, their depression makes it harder and harder to fight depression.

But if you do fight it and fight it ernestly, you can beat it. Perhaps to varying degrees, but you can at least improve where you're at mentally. And you can fight from there to a higher ground also. And so on...

And even though, right now, seeing the darkness and evil lurking in all things seems like the reality of the world that most people are blind to - it's not. Nor is it really a delusion. The bad stuff is there, but so is just as much good. And until you can see into the light as well as the shadow, you're not seeing reality as it really is.

Anyone with such a cool avitar can't be all bad

All I know about you is that you're inconspicuous.

I was so close to pulling a Judge Dredd thing

I don't judge people, it's in your domain to do such.

Growing, which is not a comfortable thing. As we come to terms with some, it brings up others, and for a while, it seems endless.

Just dealing with being here, where what you were always told was wrong is normal.

Coming to terms with your past, but it was such a well broken in crutch.

Losing even bad things still brings a feeling of loss.

I had anger down to an art form, and WP ruined it!

Now what am I?

Stay tuned, for no matter how much you lose, how much you change, what new ways you take up, it still all adds up to 100%.

It is scarey, quiting this, becoming that, then it becomes the new comfortable.

You are not your past, gone.

You are not now, soon gone.

You are what you are becoming, and that lasts.

I see you changing, becoming, reaching out, living in a bigger world, and gaining insight into others.

It is not a bad life.

I do not respect anyone who does not realize how lucky they are.

Well guys, I enjoyed reading your replies. Thanks a lot for your feedback.

I admit I've read some of your posts and felt initially you came across as a snotty jerk. Not always, but sometimes. But usually rereading the post, I lose that feeling and realize that's probably not how you meant to come across. I wouldn't worry about it though - a lot of people with ASD are like that, myself no exception.

As f*****g AWESOME!!