I hate being critcised

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Every time someone criticises me, I feel like crying. I even feel upset about silly little things (e.g. my grandmother telling me I didn't pronounce a word correctly). I know constructive criticism is good for me and I know I should take people's advice but that doesn't make things easier. I'm still annoyed at those who criticise me.
I know one WP member who can't take criticism either. Anybody else? We can start a club

Critiscism used to make me extremely upset(this would manifest itself as me being defensive or angry or sad, but never at the actual person doing the critiscizing), but I'm much more accepting of it today. Or perhaps apathetic to it. Which it is, I can't say with 100% certainty, but it's possibly both depending on the type of critiscism being made.

Yep, me too. I hate it, but have learned to cope. I guess.

I am so bad at this, I read things into comments that my mother tells me were never intended (although I still believe that they were)

for instance, anyone at work makes any comment about me and I believe they thing I'm totally useless
my grandparents make comments about my weight, I believe that they think I am getting fat which is why I can't find a boyfriend (mother was married at my age, cousin is getting married, brother has long term girlfriend)

I get really upset over critcism, I feel like my life is over. Even if the criticism is constructive, I take it very personally.

Yes, I hate being criticised. Although not to the point where I will become angry about it. I would just prefer it if people kept their comments to themselves and let me get on with my day. It would do my self esteem some good.

the 'club' is legion, choc kitties. Part of being AS is feeling that our interpretation of life is correct and if it was actually needed, we would have thought of it already.

it is mostly the shock absorber of our sense of self worth is pretty thin and any questioning of our already stressed sensory array puts us in overload. toss in our ego deflation of not having chosen the accepted norm and we are crabby critters to anyone that wanted to point it out.

Merle

Its not easy 2 b critcised however i don't mind being critcised as it helps me 2 become a better person.

I was criticized constantly for being lazy and defiant because of my Aspie sensory and perceptual issues as well as issues with "executive function." Thus I have become extremely sensitive to criticism.

I can't handle any time of criticism, especially when it's directed at my art.

Your nickname sucks

Constructive criticism is useful, I won't deny that.

Or in the words of the late great Douglas Adams ( ): constructive abuse.

GEE, You would think an AS diagnosis would be a good defense against such accusations.

BTW Check your weight against the charts. If you are in the lower healthy range, and anyone suggests you are fat, suggest that THEY NEED GLASSES!

u got that right. anyway they should understand that in this age people don't get married really young anyhow. getting married is not essential.
as for topic i don't like critisim either. especially when it feels like they are just having a go at you and not trying to give u constructive help.

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No one likes criticism, and most do not give it well so it is no wonder. It should be corrective and constructive, not corporal as in punsihment. Correct the behaviour (words and actions) not the person. This serves no logical purpose, only to hurt someone. Bullying and baiting are personal attacks and are vile, vengeful, vindictive.

I'll agree with sartresue on some points. I think the main issue is that some Aspies find it hard to respond to criticism, or indeed alot of other social tension quickly and appropriately. I have found this to be true for myself. But it can be helped by thinking it out beforehand, I guess.