Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time?

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This never happens to me. Once, when I was very upset, I was advised to give my head a shake, but that's the only one I recall. I don't act happy, and my posture is poor but not "defeated."

Smiling used to make my face hurt but eventually that went away. I see that happens to a lot of us, cool

It's been a new thing for me to get told to smile by strangers but those close to me often tell me that I can occasionally be quite monotone when I'm stressed. I was celebrating my bday when I got told to smile once because apparently I was looking to seriously at the waiter. I then nervously laughed my way through my order.

Yes, definitely.

I don't smile without a good reason to. In other words, I don't smile because people expect me to, but because it reflects something I'm thinking or feeling. But be careful because while I can smile if I'm happy, I can also smile if I'm uncomfortable or nervous.

Not so much so smile, but when I was younger I was ask, "Why are you looking so grumpy?" all the time. I guess I just have a resting b****-face. Later on one of my bosses told me he would sack me if I didn't smile at the customers.

All the time. I hate being told to smile.

Yes, but also I have found there are facial expressions you must have. If you are in your own thoughts, your face does its own thing . Because of that, I Had to learn always to smile out of default. A lot of NTs are trapped in that, too. It's pretty normal to have to have fake smile always. Watch the news. People relating terrible stories all while smiling! I hate it. If you refuse to smile you will never get your needs met. It's like the Dog wagging his tale always, even when he is thinking, "This stupid human is such a dummie. Too bad HE HAS THE hands and can open the door and the dog food. Idiot!"

Would it be reasonable to interpret the responses so far as indicating that some men and boys may deal with this on occasion, but women and girls are far more likely to encounter this and far more likely to encounter it in a more persistent manner?

Aren't there countless threads about this and the RBF already? Brighten your mood once you are look at people especially in case of eye contact because people notice your mood in your face immediately. You don't need to show a grin. But an emotionless face may be received as a disappointment or as a very cold and for this very negative thinking about the ones your are looking at. For this just brighten your mood a bit. That's all.

But why? Why am I responsible for how others feel when they look at me?

It's different if it's someone you know or want to get to know, but strangers? Why?

Because mood is contagious. Laughter spreads quickly. If you even yawn, others will too.

Still not my responsibility.

Try to think of it as an opportunity to smile back when you see one. Unless your wiring is very unusual, feeling good makes you smile, but smiling also makes you feel good.

Yes.
Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.

Because of something they call mirror neurons. Causes them to copy your mood and feelings and to feel kind of the same way too. That's why it makes a difference how people behave towards you.

Last edited by quite an extreme on 29 Apr 2020, 2:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I know what mirror neurons are.

Still not my responsibility.