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And why is it appropriate to open a phone call with a series of "polite" inquiries that neither party has any interest in instead of stating your bsiness?

I might be an NT maybe... ghaw the experts are not even agreeing, but I don't understand this one either. In fact, my aunt is telling me I do this way to often.

Her explanation: It sort of makes you unfriendly sounding. You are suppose to ask how the person is doing (even though the answer is usually only one word, usually "good") Small talk does that somehow.

I likely would not mind it so much if I were not telephonophobic. I do a BIT "better" with live encounters, though even there I prefer to get to business.

I´m like you, my tendency is to want to get to the point right away. I´ve learned, through the years, that people prefer greetings and/or small talk first; I´ve gotten a bit better about doing that, and I notice that I often get a better reaction when I ease into important subjects. (For instance, it helps professionally). However, even so, I do find myself often reverting back to my "let´s get down to business" way of speaking when I´m not concentrating enough. I notice I tend to speak better, and feel more comfortable, when I´m talking about "concrete" subjects anyway.

I don´t understand this either. I don´t see why looking and feeling happy should be considered inappropriate: if people could only be free to express positive emotion, the world would be a much better place!

I don't get this either. I had to be trained to always start conversations with "Hi.......How are you?.....Fine thanks". So I thought it was amusing to see in the Temple Grandin movie that she had to do something similar when she met people.

I upped the ante - besides carefully playing phatic communication with strangers where impression might matter, when dealing with Africans from certain areas I actually offer handshaking. I have big time troubles with the handshake, don't usually bother with American Hi guy types, but with some Africans it is like bringing out food when someone drops in.

Because then people think you are sarcastic, or an ass who reads too much into everything. That's why they Killed Socrates, he would not shut up. Or at least that is why they should have, lol.

Why is it inappropriate to talk to yourself?

Well, I don't know if ''inappropriate'' is the right word, but people have made it seem that way.

Why is it inappropriate to have plushies if you are older than say 10?

no idea, I have beanie kids, and some anime plushies and I am 26. to me these are more collectables then toys.

Why is it inappropriate to NOT fold your laundry? I actually don't care if my clothes are wrinkled up. My clothes are for keeping me warm and covering up private parts.

My friend's 30 year old daughter has a big collection of 100 dolls in her room and some downstairs, and she's NT. They are ornimental dolls. It's never inappropriate for an adult to have a collection of things.

In some places, like New Orleans, it's more like you describe. One tradition is to have a band at the funeral. The music is a slow and sad march at the start while they walk to the grave, but once he's in the ground the music plays happy upbeat music to celebrate the guy's passage into heaven. This is part of the origin of Dixieland jazz music. So imagine Dixieland music being played at a funeral to get an accurate mental picture. That seems more rational to me!

Because funerals have a depressing atmosphere, and it's so heart-breaking, especially when it's your own relative dying.

Last year I went to my mum's friend's brother's funeral, and I didn't even know him hardly, but I burst out crying.

Why is it inappropriate to say I am of an ethnic group I am not?

Today I said I was black to someone and they exploded on me. It was just a stupid joke.