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The thought first crept into my mind about 3 years ago when I seemed to always seem to piss people off for reasons I didn't understand and never seemed like I could figure out and I jokingly thought "Maybe it's HFA." when I was really thinking I just "haven't met the right people who understand *me*.". But, it's only went seriously into the vogue when another correspondent claimed I interpreted things literally, my language was unusually pedantic for what I felt was "beyond my ability to control", and I did tend to have 'obsessional' type of thinking (I was studying vocabulary 4 hours a day, actually, for about 2 years and I took great joy in reading data tables for pleasure and noticing numerical patterns.) and a lot started to add up. And now, after conversing with others on here, it seems like it could be a real possibility and that scares me a lot because 1) if it was the case that I was a "social dweeb" and simply didn't have enough social experience, then I should be able to practice to become more socially 'mature' so then it would just be a matter of practicing to improve my behavior (Within the limits of my personality). However, if it's due to fundamental neurological diffferences as would be the case with being on the autism spectrum, then there's a "social ceiling" I'll probably never realistically be able to rise above and my employment and social outcomes would be forever negatively impacted by that, regardless of "practice" or "will power" and that scares me because then it's "outside of my control".

Of course, in that event of being diagnosed, I can try to optimize my economic outcomes as apparently many highly intelligent aspies are actually employed in profitable careers, and the social outcomes might follow suit, so it's not necessarily catastrophic. But, still, looking at the article that you linked about the "lost aspies" seemed to paint a picture that seemed I like I might be following and that scares me (What, never having a "successful" relationship because it's outside of my control(I read on another board that some NT girl in a marriage refused to have sex with his aspie husband presumably due to his 'aspie'-inspired un-sexiness.)? NOOOOO!! !!). I'm thinking if it's the case that if one is AS, then a better relational strategy might be finding someone who has similar "AS levels" and then hopefully they'd be more understanding / "on the same wavelength" and then reproduction would be avoided. Of course, there might be 'understanding NTs' out there, but the percentage of "unsuccessful relationships" seems frighteningly high among aspies paired with "pure NTs".

If it's the case that I'm fairly NT and I just have insufficient verbal memory, then optimize the job accordingly and relationships shouldn't be "too badly" impacted by that. Not exactly the ideal outcome, but better than otherwise.

If it's the case that I'm going schizophrenic which I should positively know within a few years, then damn, oh well. The gig is up, lol (And I already have a contingency plan formulated.).

If everything checks out fine, then practice, practice, practice!

Wrongplanet is for everyone, not just autistics.

I mean, I can relate. My first reaction was instant denial that lasted for a good three years.

I seemed to always seem to piss people off for reasons I didn't understand and never seemed like I could figure out and I jokingly thought "Maybe it's HFA."

The thought first crept into my mind about 3 years ago when I seemed to always seem to piss people off for reasons I didn't understand and never seemed like I could figure out and I jokingly thought "Maybe it's HFA." when I was really thinking I just "haven't met the right people who understand *me*.". But, it's only went seriously into the vogue when another correspondent claimed I interpreted things literally, my language was unusually pedantic for what I felt was "beyond my ability to control", and I did tend to have 'obsessional' type of thinking (I was studying vocabulary 4 hours a day, actually, for about 2 years and I took great joy in reading data tables for pleasure and noticing numerical patterns.) and a lot started to add up. And now, after conversing with others on here, it seems like it could be a real possibility and that scares me a lot because 1) if it was the case that I was a "social dweeb" and simply didn't have enough social experience, then I should be able to practice to become more socially 'mature' so then it would just be a matter of practicing to improve my behavior (Within the limits of my personality). However, if it's due to fundamental neurological diffferences as would be the case with being on the autism spectrum, then there's a "social ceiling" I'll probably never realistically be able to rise above and my employment and social outcomes would be forever negatively impacted by that, regardless of "practice" or "will power" and that scares me because then it's "outside of my control".

Of course, in that event of being diagnosed, I can try to optimize my economic outcomes as apparently many highly intelligent aspies are actually employed in profitable careers, and the social outcomes might follow suit, so it's not necessarily catastrophic. But, still, looking at the article that you linked about the "lost aspies" seemed to paint a picture that seemed I like I might be following and that scares me (What, never having a "successful" relationship because it's outside of my control(I read on another board that some NT girl in a marriage refused to have sex with his aspie husband presumably due to his 'aspie'-inspired un-sexiness.)? NOOOOO!! !!). I'm thinking if it's the case that if one is AS, then a better relational strategy might be finding someone who has similar "AS levels" and then hopefully they'd be more understanding / "on the same wavelength" and then reproduction would be avoided. Of course, there might be 'understanding NTs' out there, but the percentage of "unsuccessful relationships" seems frighteningly high among aspies paired with "pure NTs".

If it's the case that I'm fairly NT and I just have insufficient verbal memory, then optimize the job accordingly and relationships shouldn't be "too badly" impacted by that. Not exactly the ideal outcome, but better than otherwise.

If it's the case that I'm going schizophrenic which I should positively know within a few years, then damn, oh well. The gig is up, lol (And I already have a contingency plan formulated.).

If everything checks out fine, then practice, practice, practice!

You think that's funny?

I don't even really know how I feel about my supposed diagnosis anymore........I mean I got denied for SSI so apparently anxiety, PTSD, serious depression and aspergers does not prevent one from holding a job. I just do not enjoy this society no one will ever understand how I feel so I guess I have to live life feeling this way no matter what it does to my sanity. life is hell so I look forward to the moments in which I can escape and enjoy things. My path could be the wrong one but I really see no other way anymore.

He's entitled to laugh at himself, no? That was an earlier state of mind. A more current disposition is characterized by this statement - "it seems like it could be a real possibility and that scares me a lot".

The thought first crept into my mind about 3 years ago when I seemed to always seem to piss people off for reasons I didn't understand and never seemed like I could figure out and I jokingly thought "Maybe it's HFA." when I was really thinking I just "haven't met the right people who understand *me*.". But, it's only went seriously into the vogue when another correspondent claimed I interpreted things literally, my language was unusually pedantic for what I felt was "beyond my ability to control", and I did tend to have 'obsessional' type of thinking (I was studying vocabulary 4 hours a day, actually, for about 2 years and I took great joy in reading data tables for pleasure and noticing numerical patterns.) and a lot started to add up. And now, after conversing with others on here, it seems like it could be a real possibility and that scares me a lot because 1) if it was the case that I was a "social dweeb" and simply didn't have enough social experience, then I should be able to practice to become more socially 'mature' so then it would just be a matter of practicing to improve my behavior (Within the limits of my personality). However, if it's due to fundamental neurological diffferences as would be the case with being on the autism spectrum, then there's a "social ceiling" I'll probably never realistically be able to rise above and my employment and social outcomes would be forever negatively impacted by that, regardless of "practice" or "will power" and that scares me because then it's "outside of my control".

Of course, in that event of being diagnosed, I can try to optimize my economic outcomes as apparently many highly intelligent aspies are actually employed in profitable careers, and the social outcomes might follow suit, so it's not necessarily catastrophic. But, still, looking at the article that you linked about the "lost aspies" seemed to paint a picture that seemed I like I might be following and that scares me (What, never having a "successful" relationship because it's outside of my control(I read on another board that some NT girl in a marriage refused to have sex with his aspie husband presumably due to his 'aspie'-inspired un-sexiness.)? NOOOOO!! !!). I'm thinking if it's the case that if one is AS, then a better relational strategy might be finding someone who has similar "AS levels" and then hopefully they'd be more understanding / "on the same wavelength" and then reproduction would be avoided. Of course, there might be 'understanding NTs' out there, but the percentage of "unsuccessful relationships" seems frighteningly high among aspies paired with "pure NTs".

If it's the case that I'm fairly NT and I just have insufficient verbal memory, then optimize the job accordingly and relationships shouldn't be "too badly" impacted by that. Not exactly the ideal outcome, but better than otherwise.

If it's the case that I'm going schizophrenic which I should positively know within a few years, then damn, oh well. The gig is up, lol (And I already have a contingency plan formulated.).

If everything checks out fine, then practice, practice, practice!

Lot of people get denied SSI the first time when they really need it. You need to get a lawyer or have your doctors write letters to them telling them why you need SSI and what your struggles are. Also have your family do it too.

Sometimes it takes people more than twice to get approved. My father in law was denied it so he had to get a lawyer to get on it.

Hello.

I read most of the posts and I appreciate for your feedback (as long as it wasn't about calling me a troll). I now understand why some don't have a diagnosis. The thing was is that there are 100's of mental disorders so one should claim to have some disorder because they are familiar with it. There are disorders that happen to be similar to each other. Again, sorry if I came off as a b****.

As for those who were wondering why I didn't post right away is because I have classes (finals coming up), clubs, and I have other activities and events that I go to. I usually don't post until late at night and not everyday. It's 2:13AM where I'm at right now.

It has happened several times that I have said something about my own former state of mind, and people have just not grasped that I can be 'detached', 'objective', 'clinical' (for want of better words) about myself like that. (I think this has caused tremendous trouble for me, but I don't want to attempt an autobiography right now.)

And here is someone grasping that (to me, obvious) idea effortlessly. A simple thing, which I would have thought could be taken for granted. And here, things like that are taken for granted.

Did you meant to say "The thing was is that there are 100's of mental disorders so no one should claim to have some disorder because they are familiar with it?"

That's for the correction.

Well you sure didn't come back to this thread since you had posted it but yet were on this forum since then but I guess you forgotten all about this thread until now?