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For the record: He knicked the ear of my cat. As I am thinking over the whole thing, I think he was actually trying to give the cat a hair cut. Because he trimmed the wiskers; snipped several chunks of hair off of his side, and it looks like he tried to trim the hair on his ears(but didn't realize that what looks like alot of hair, really isn't ). He must have panicked because he put about 12 bandaids on my cats ear. I believe that I handled the situation properly. You don't beat a child, or anyone for that matter.(been there when I was a child, and the scars are still there) He was immideately put in his room and told that he hurt the cat( and i wasnt' calm. I was worried about my cat) and it is not okay, and then I could check out my cat and make sure he was not seriously hurt. After caring for the knick in my cats ear ear, and cleaning up the fur from the floor, I then went downstairs to cool off. Then I went to his room and told him why he is not to do what he did. This is an isolated extreem insidence. the cat issue has only been for a short time. With the proper intervention and teaching, it will not happen again and he will learn from it. I agree that there are a few people on here that ruin it for the rest of us. I believe that banning the persons is an effective way to rid the site of this BS poster bashing.

FrogGirl, Let it go- gramirez is a child who doesn't know his a**hole from his elbow much less the entirety of this story. You don't owe him or us any kind of explanation.

Oh ok. Judging by what others have said, I thought he had cut the entire ear off. I apologize for jumping to conclusions.


If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, then I don't know what is.

This changes everything! Why didn't you mention it in the first place? Now, it became clear that your son cut the cat's ear by accident. In your initial post, based on the way you phrased it, it sounded like your son was intentionally trying to cut the cat's ear off, while you let it happen. A lot of people must have interpreted it the same way; I know I did, hence all those BDSM analogies. No wonder the original post got so many nasty replies. They thought that your son was getting enjoyment out of cutting a cat's ear off. Since many aspies like cats (or pets in general), they were deeply offended by it. A few strong-minded people responded with a "counterattack", others joined in, and the chaos started. I saw a few people jump in to defend you, but they got drowned out by people defending the cat. And so, the thread spun out of control, with attack after attack being posted.

Here's are my suggestions. You should do three things.
One, ask your son to apologize to the cat. This is more symbolic than anything else, since cats can't understand human speech, but it lets your son take some responsibility for his actions, and in his mind, possibly make things right. It doesn't have to be melodramatic; a simple "I'm sorry" will suffice.
Two, I still think you should prohibit your son from touching the cat without your supervision. In other words, he can pet or even pick up cat, but you must be watching him while he does that. If you're in a different room or even in the same room doing something else, your son can only look at it, talk to it, or bring it food. Think of it as probation, or your son proving to you that he can be gentle.
Three, you and your son should both take the cat to the vet or a specialized pet groomer. This way, your son can see a professional, with years of training on cat anatomy, give your cat a haircut. Let him observe the procedure from beginning to end. At the same time, emphasize the fact that giving your cat a haircut is to be done by professionals only, and he should never try doing it himself.

My words, verbal or written, get taken out of context, and are misunderstood quite often. I do my best to explain things, but they don't always come across as they were supposed to. At first, I had no idea what his intention was. I see parts of things and situations. It wasn't until I slowly put it all together to see the whole picture, and that is when realized why he probably did what he did. Sorry for the confusion to everyone. I too would be extreemly angry if someone had let their child harm their pet intentionally. My cat is not a long hair cat. He is a orange tabby. My son had to have been very careful when cutting its fur, becasue it is very short and he had rolls of hanging skin(from being old, and he was at one point a few pounds heavier a few years back when my mom was caring for him for about a year.

that sounds like something that many kids do at some point FrogGirl. no bad intentions.

shame you had to read all the BS and IMO the people passing judgements and accusations on you should either be banned or appologise I can't remember being this appaled at the people here so far.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone. It seemed like people were going to start saying really awful things about the child and that stressed me out. Could you people PLEASE not bash children on here? They are far from perfect, but who is?

Then I guess you don't know what is.

Saying a child of 3 might turn into a serial killer because it was giving a cat a hair cat is ridiculous. The child sound harmless.

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The subject that the OP renamed is "My 3 year old, NT son just tried to cut my cat's ears off."

I suggested counselling for the child. I also mentioned that a characteristic of Paul Bernardo, a convicted serial killer and psychopath, who is incarcerated permanently, was that he tortured animals as a child.

It was never said that Tayler is a serial killer in the making.

I mentioned the info on Bernardo to inform the OP that harming animals is a characteristic. It is a wake up call to get a kid help so that bad things will not happen later. A supervised play group is a good way to see how a child behaves with others and to identify problem areas for analysis.

My own son was in a situation like this, though it was not for harming animals. It was to see if he had any behavioural challenges that might arise because of his birth trauma (he was Dx with cerebral palsy at 17 months). Thankfully, none were found.

I sincerely hope Tayler has no issues, and this was just an unfortunate incident. I also hope you do not need to find another home for your beloved pet, as you seem to dearly love him.