Do ALL Aspies or Auties dislike bieing hugged or touched?

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i really hate light touch. light touch on my hair, on arm, etc. and shoulder massages, i've never gotten anything good out of them.
i really liked to be hugged however. by those close to me, and even by total strangers if i now that won't mug me or something.

I used to hate hugs and kisses when I was a little girl. I learned to tolerate it but it still feels weird except when it's with my partner or children. With my partner I'm totally the opposite of how I am with other people. If we're sitting on the couch I will touch his arm or have my leg touching his because I have a need for the physical contact. If someone else sits on the couch I cannot stand if there is any accidental body contact so often I will sit on the floor to avoid this.

I personally love to be touched, provided it's someone I care about. I'm gonna sound like a soppy git here, but I love cuddles. Having cuddles with someone I love is one of the best feelings in the world. Girls, cuddle me! :p

...I wish I had more hugging . However , certain kinds of suprise touching will make me jump : .(

I don't like light touches ever, from anyone. Having a very young child hug me or hold my hand generally does not bother me. Past the age of 7 though, and I really only appreciate touch from people I know well, and then it is limited. I like to pet dogs and touch from animals does not bother me. Certain textures or types of touch bother me in all contexts.

This. I enjoy hugs and other firm pressure contact, and get considerable comfort from my weighted blanket, however, light touch such as someone brushing past me, grazing me, etc. drives me insane. To answer your question though, no, not all aspies dislike contact, and liking it does not preculde an autism diagnosis. Virtually no trait of autism is posessed by 100% of autistics, with the possible exception of special interests; that one has been cited in journals to be between 99 and 100%.

I hated being touched as a kid. Now that I have kids, I crave hugs from them. The irony is that my youngest has ASD and hates hugs

I like both firm and light touch, but if it comes unexpected, it'll make me startled and shudder. I'm also very ticklish. When I have sensory overload, any kind of touch causes me pain. But overall, I love touching and being touched.

Whatever it is... it happens on MY terms... or not at all.

Touching doesn't bother me, unless someone is trying to bother me on purpose.

I want more hugs.

I don't like having my upper back rubbed though.

Depends on who and how. I like hugs from a very few people, but dislike them intensely from most, especially the touchy feely church people who were at my Pawpaws funeral. Ugh, how is hugging without gaining verbal permission even legal in a country where kindergarten kids get suspended for kisses? Makes no sense at all.

Me too, I love when a dog or cat will want to sit on my lap for strokes and cuddles. My mother in law just got a new dog. When I met her for the first time she sat on my lap for ages and kept licking my arm and hand, it was lovely

When i was younger i used to hate being touched by anyone who wasn't my mother and my grandmother.
Now i can handle it, it just can't happen in a unexpected way.

I hate every physical contact, only thing that is ok is shaking hands.

My wife and I have managed to sleep together without touching. We tried separate beds but we do like to be close. She needs a cuddle occasionally. If someone else touches me it has to be firm.