WP members GF ill with cancer

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ANOTHER UPDATE:

by the way, she's feeling a bit better today, she sounded worse last night because she was really tired apparently. But her head still hurts pretty bad, and she's having some chest pains.
& also i was pretty sleep-deprived last night, emotional, and stressed.
So i may have overreacted to it somewhat...

Also apparently her mom has a boyfriend (news to me. Apparently her mom & him have been dating only a month longer than me & Adrienne) who's been helping out somewhat financially with the medical. But she also told me the bill was roughly around 2 to 4 thousand dollars. Still probably not cheap to pull up on the short notice that they did, and they may likely be hurting from it. & should it all fall through and the treatments prove ineffective, and as much as i don't want to think about the possibility , they may end up having to pay for a funeral aside from it....So while medical expenses are not quite as dire as first thought. donations towards her family after travel expenses are met for support are still very welcome if you feel so inclined...

Sean, the website is looking good!
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PayPal is not allowing me to donate you money while using my BlackBerry. I don't have a PayPal account and I cannot use my BlackBerry to create one.
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I'll have to try to go to the library to use the computer and try to create one so that I can send in a donation.
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I'm not certain how much I can send but I will let you know as soon as I find out.
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Please keep in mind that I am disabled and something is wrong with my right knee, it's swollen and painful. So I have mobility issues at the moment.
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Do you have a P.O. Box address that you can display on the website that can be used as an alternative way to receive donations?
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You might think about getting one as it would be easier for some of us to send you donations by mail than it is to use PayPal.
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If you don't have a P.O. Box address, maybe you could ask a pastor at your church if they have a P.O. Box address that can be used to receive donations for your trip to Indiana, living expense while there and Adrienne's medical expenses.
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He might be able to get the congregation to raise funds for you and Adrienne as well.
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Have you ask Adrienne, to ask her physician for the verification of her diagnosis letter to post on the fundraising website?
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I believe things would start happening a lot faster with that posted so that people can indeed verify that she is infact seriously ill.
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Her local press there in Indiana might be willing to do a story about her and her medical condition and that would provide some credibility as well.
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This is something that needs to be done to dispel any fears people might have about this being a scam. It all just needs to be legitimatized.
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Love Your Friend, Taupey

Thank you, still working on it thoughhh

a person has to have an account to donate? wondered for awhile, but wasn't really sure...
and alright, just anything you're able to is very much appreciated.

Awwwwh! Sorry bout your knee ... I hope it starts feeling better soon if it's just a temporary condition .

Yeah, that's a pretty good idea. Is it free to get one? if not, how much are they, do you know? Mailing would be much less complicated in some cases. At least for U.S. residents anyways who are able to send american currency or checks. I'm not sure if checks from other countries would be accepted at my local bank or not . Anything having to do with the transference of foreign currency in the case of some of the international donors so far might be easier online.

actually, i don't really have a regular church that i attend . My family's attendance has always been rather haphazard. My only regular religious outlet would prolly be the prayers i send up.

i talked to her on the phone today, and she said her mother might be able to get a copy of that. I'll talk to her about it further though when i get the chance.

I know you are, be sure to get some rest, we don't want you to become ill from all the stress you are under.


I couldn't get a registration page only a login one. I have no account or PIN to use.



Thank You, I'm have an appointment in a week to have it dye injected and x-rayed. I'm limited on what tests can be done because of my neuro-stimulator implant.


No P. O. Boxes aren't free but they are not expensive either. Just contact your nearest postal station and ask them.



I believe there are many people who do the same thing. Why don't you call some churches and ask to speak with the pastors/ministers. You can explain your situation and ask if he can help in anyway.


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Sounds like you have the ball rolling in the right direction.
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It would probably help out a great deal if the local press in her area would do a story on her and the serious nature of her illness. No-doubt that would raise awareness and donations both.
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Hang-in there and keep being strong Sean.

Yeah, i just finally got some rest last night. I was forgetting to eat for a bit, but then i reminded myself and had some chicken legs and tomato slices today . They were pretty yummy

here's a link to the registration page i think
https://www.paypal.com/us/cgi-bin/webscr?[url]cmd=_flow&SESSION=KoDQGnulbP0lO3cPXVGJJMoCXuZlncgyV6WTWo4Oq1xklvo12QfFUHTw4K8&dispatch=5885d80a13c0db1f8e263663d3faee8d66edfb0b39be7838e3b204755610594d[/url]


Awwwh, i hope the appointment goes well then and that it doesn't turn out to be something too bad.


alrighty, i'll look into it. I think there's a post office not too far from where i live actually

I'll think about it ....

Definitely trying to keep strong.
All the support really helps in that too. So thanks to you and everyone

Awwwwh, i think the thread's dying ....

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This is what I get on my BlackBerry when I click on your buttons on both your blog & on the fundraising website and I get the exact same thing when I click on the link you posted above.
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When I click on any of these links, I get a login page and I don't get anything that allows me to register. When I click on the PayPal Appl, I get that it's not BlackBerry supported.

Idk if it'd show it on the blackberry, but on a normal computer at the very top of that page there's a link that says "sign up" . Is there anyone nearby you know with a computer or could it be done at the local library's ?

K, so it looks like Melbi's taking a hiatus from WP for an unspecified amount of time according to a post of hers on the 19th.
So i'm not sure if i can count on anything from her until she's back and i am able to get a PM though...

Sean, I can't imagine how you feel, but I hope the best for both of you. Dispatching a PM shortly

^THIS. I hope people who have a few spare bucks will consider helping out. Love is important, and we might have a shot at making this one more complete, and possibly longer.

Try not to take it personally Sean. It might have something to do with the economy.
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Many people are unemployed. Some here are on disability like you and me and don't really have a lot of money.
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Then there is the fear of being scammed for money. I mean no disrespect Sean to you or to Adrienne, but this is the Internet and there are lots of people who prey on people like us.
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That's why it's so important to show proof that this situation really exists.
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Then some of us don't have the PayPal accounts or an quick and easy way to register for one.
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It all takes some time and effort. This is all still in the early stages. Your trying to create something with little resources, that's not an easy task.
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I understand your frustration in wanting to be with Adrienne now, but having the lack of funds to get there holding you up. Unfortunately, we can only do what we can do.
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That's why I have suggested contacting churches and the press and asking them for help as well. Again, it all takes time and effort. -------------------------------------------------------------
The more people who know, the more successful you will be at raising funds.
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You should try to get some more sleep. I need to get some myself. Good Night.

Yeah, i know. I'm not really taking the thread dying too personally.
it's just kind of a bummer in and of itself.

Thanks Blasty !

It wouldn't make sense to me either, but apparently "the girfriend with a terminal illness" is a classic "scam", providing emotional nourishment for a certain sort of person, and sometimes money too as a bonus. I can't imagine ever doing anything like that, but there are people for whom this kind of thing is deeply satisfying.

On the face of it someone who is introduced on the phone as your girlfriend's mother should be her mother, ( and in a different world would be ), but it *might* also be her flatmate or her sister, or a friend. I wouldn't have these sort of suspicions if I hadn't already heard of three such cases, one on WP which caused a lot of grief to a longstanding member here.

And she may be fairly sure that you would never get enough money to go and visit her, ... and may also not care very much if you did find out.

I am finding it very hard to swallow that three days of bad headache just two weeks ago, ( around the 8-11 July ) have already been diagnosed as a cancerous brain tumour and that an operation has already been scheduled for it for the 29 July, and am surprised that she is being left alone at home all day in this dangerous condition which causes her to black out etc.

... in other words I still don't believe her story, and I suspect that quite a lot of other people here don't either, or there would have been a lot more pledges to give money by now. Very sorry.

I hope for your sake that it is not a scam, and also that your girlfriend's tumour is not as serious as it currently seems to be, but at the moment have no proof that any of it is real.
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Last edited by ouinon on 22 Jul 2010, 3:31 am, edited 1 time in total.

two of her photos look kinda different too actually >_< I hope she is telling the truth but I so think its wise to get as much information as possible.

Sometimes, cancer grows very quickly, real fast. That happens.
And it can be diagnosed easily if the signs are there.

I hope too that if it's true, Sean's girlfriend will be ok with the surgery.

The Wikipedia page about "Brain Tumours" is at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brain_tumor

So *maybe*, ( just *maybe* ), the surgery that she supposedly has programmed for the 29 July is actually for diagnostic purposes, but in which case why is she saying that the doctor told her, on the basis of three days of headache, that she definitely has a brain tumour, which may, or may not, be cancerous.
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