Asperger's syndrome self-diagnosis

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My last therapist kept calling me high functioning but would never elaborate on why it got annoying.

Ah, okay.

Yeah, there you go. So you did get his point.

The only thing you have to say here I don't particularly agree with is, "quit whining and trying to get attention." It's a forum. That's what some of us, what most of us probably do from time to time on forums. It is in part what they're for. I don't have a problem with it anyway. Where else am I gonna vent? My family gets a little sick of it after a while, so sometimes I come here and do it instead. No harm in it as far as I can see. Nobody has to read anything here anyway. My family on the other hand is stuck with me.

House is cool! He's not an Aspie though. Cuddy said so. Must be so!

If that's what he meant, that's what he should have said, instead of starting of his post with what seems to say that he's annoyed at all people who self diagnose.

Really? Who made you God so that you can see into the minds, or at least the daily lives, of the people who post here?

He did say what he meant. I saw it. Some didn't. He did say "all" who self diagnose, at first, but then he qualified what he meant by that. It looked like some repliers never got past that line. It may have been a poor choice of words, but the whole post was kind of a "flow of thought" thing. Something I know I do sometimes, and something almost all of us do at least on occasion.

We don't all, always write up a post, then save it somewhere to read a few times over time before posting. I think most of us just say what's on our minds, then click submit. It doesn't often occur to most of us that the WAY we've worded our post might offend somebody. I do think, if you can get past that one poorly worded line, and read the rest of the post carefully, it's pretty clear he did not really mean "all" self diagnosed people. The message, as I interpreted above, is what I read, but I did have to read it more than once, because he seemed to contradict himself at first. On a reread, I understood he never meant to be contradictory. It was just a flow of thought, kind of like:

"Here's what I think, but wait, what I really mean is this..."

It just seemed as though some never made it past the "Here's what I think..." part. My only hope was that some might see what I saw after a couple of reads.

I'm self DX'd myself, and have taken offense at some other threads on the topic. It took me a while, and some effort to "get" where those who feel I'm a fake are coming from. I don't agree with all of them, but at least I understand it now.

This OP though, wasn't talking about us being fakes at all. Only how he feels about some things some of us say. He qualified the type of individual he meant, but didn't accuse any particular person. Only the type. If you aren't that type, then he wasn't talking about you, he was talking about someone else.

I said *I* don't feel a need to tell people they have it so much better than I do so quit whining and trying to get attention. The reason I don't is also contained in my post. What we are sensitive to is an *individual* thing. Also, what's easy for one person is not necessarily easy for another. Many people would give anything to have my ability to succeed academically, and I would give anything to have their emotional communication skills or ability to "read" people, or that thing people call "intuition" which I don't even know what the hell is, it seems like woo-woo to me. We always want what we don't have, and people who have what we don't always look so much "better off". To me, it's a waste of energy to bring other ppl down...the energy is better spent trying to bring yourself up.

And don't believe everything Cuddy says. If Mr. Boo can diagnose over the Internet, I can over the TV, and I say he's an Aspie!

~Kate

All right, LordoftheMonkeys, you are absoulutely correct; there are a lot of would-be Aspies out there.

I was just watching the Oprah Winfrey show and one of her guests was the band Black-Eyed Peas.

While they were playing, the entire audience was hand-flapping!

K. Guess we'll have to agree to disagree on whether the OP was trying to bring anybody down. I don't think that was his intention.

Cuddy's got her head in the sand. He's a narcissistic Aspie on Vicodin.

Whoah!

That's what you get when you watch that crappy show.

+1

Holy crap! Oprah causes Autism?!

She didn't come along until I was in my twenties though!

Must have been the Dean Martin show for me!

I've seen many threads along this line pop up here on WP.

Weirdly, I've never actually met any of these "fake Aspies", and when challenged to name some, the poster who began the thread always declines.

I've also never met anyone in the so-called "real" world who claims AS without exhibiting the symptoms thereof - it's just not regarded as a "cool" thing to have. ADHD, sure - that way, they can explain away never getting anything done - but not AS. Heck, vanishingly few people in this area have even heard of AS!

So, where are all these "fakers" I keep hearing about?

Phil Donahue did it to me!

~Kate

Why right here. It's self diagnosed folks like you and me obviously.

Exactly. As a mater of fact since I'm fed up with the attitude after a post in another forum brought up Aspergers self diagnosis in a thread completely unrelated to the topic I'm going to ask those who have a problem with my self diagnosis to put their money where their mouth is.

If you're so upset about my lack of an official diagnosis then I will get one if you pay for it or arrange for me to get one without paying out of my own pocket. Lack of funds is after all one of the reasons I'm not seeking one. Another reason is that the prospect of discussing anything at all, let alone deeply personal matters, with a total stranger fills me with dread but if you hold up your end I'll suck it up and deal. Other than shutting up the people who are upset with my self diagnosis I don't think it'll do much good though, we barely have programs and resources to deal with severely effected children let alone 33 year old men who can pass if they try hard enough (no matter how much it costs them to do so).