09 Oct 2011, 11:08 pm
09 Oct 2011, 11:11 pm
I wonder if Cassandra Effective Disorder is a politically correct way of saying "you are the bad guy and it's your fault you are feeling this way, here is a label to paint you as the victim to help yourself feel better?" 
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09 Oct 2011, 11:11 pm
btbnnyr wrote:
Prior to reading AS Partners, I actually had no idea that NTs had such extensive intensive needs for external validation. I think I understand the autism vs. plethism differences better after reading that forum.
For me, I need to know if I'm doing anything wrong, where I'm wrong, why I'm wrong, what the right thing is, and why this is the correct thing is and possibly how to do the right thing. If I'm doing it right I need a comfirmation of some kind to know I'm doing it right.
First, I do love my wife dearly. She and I are starting a non-profit. I had to load heavy boxes in our car and she was helping somewhat by carrying lighter boxes. She told me there were only a couple of boxes of a particular kind of item. I go in and I see more than a couple. I told her "I thought you said there were a couple." I was using my "I" statements I learned. She said, "no, she meant several." I was irritated by this point. I said, "no a couple means two and I asked why couldn't just say several." By then, my frustration levels went up even more. She asked sternly, "why do I have to be so accurate all the time?" I finally said, "Let's just get this crap into the car and drop it. This is not worth arguing about and not worth the fuss." We finished loading the car and the argument was dropped and I was able to diffuse this quickly and my frustration and my blood pressure levels went down.
The moral of the story is even if you're correct sometimes it's better to just let it go.
10 Oct 2011, 2:06 am
10 Oct 2011, 2:32 am
cubedemon6073 wrote:
btbnnyr wrote:
Prior to reading AS Partners, I actually had no idea that NTs had such extensive intensive needs for external validation. I think I understand the autism vs. plethism differences better after reading that forum.
For me, I need to know if I'm doing anything wrong, where I'm wrong, why I'm wrong, what the right thing is, and why this is the correct thing is and possibly how to do the right thing. If I'm doing it right I need a comfirmation of some kind to know I'm doing it right.
First, I do love my wife dearly. She and I are starting a non-profit. I had to load heavy boxes in our car and she was helping somewhat by carrying lighter boxes. She told me there were only a couple of boxes of a particular kind of item. I go in and I see more than a couple. I told her "I thought you said there were a couple." I was using my "I" statements I learned. She said, "no, she meant several." I was irritated by this point. I said, "no a couple means two and I asked why couldn't just say several." By then, my frustration levels went up even more. She asked sternly, "why do I have to be so accurate all the time?" I finally said, "Let's just get this crap into the car and drop it. This is not worth arguing about and not worth the fuss." We finished loading the car and the argument was dropped and I was able to diffuse this quickly and my frustration and my blood pressure levels went down.
The moral of the story is even if you're correct sometimes it's better to just let it go.
That is one of my pet peeves. My husband says couple but it's always more than two.
Good for you for letting it go.
10 Oct 2011, 2:34 am
10 Oct 2011, 7:30 am
League_Girl wrote:
cubedemon6073 wrote:
btbnnyr wrote:
Prior to reading AS Partners, I actually had no idea that NTs had such extensive intensive needs for external validation. I think I understand the autism vs. plethism differences better after reading that forum.
For me, I need to know if I'm doing anything wrong, where I'm wrong, why I'm wrong, what the right thing is, and why this is the correct thing is and possibly how to do the right thing. If I'm doing it right I need a comfirmation of some kind to know I'm doing it right.
First, I do love my wife dearly. She and I are starting a non-profit. I had to load heavy boxes in our car and she was helping somewhat by carrying lighter boxes. She told me there were only a couple of boxes of a particular kind of item. I go in and I see more than a couple. I told her "I thought you said there were a couple." I was using my "I" statements I learned. She said, "no, she meant several." I was irritated by this point. I said, "no a couple means two and I asked why couldn't just say several." By then, my frustration levels went up even more. She asked sternly, "why do I have to be so accurate all the time?" I finally said, "Let's just get this crap into the car and drop it. This is not worth arguing about and not worth the fuss." We finished loading the car and the argument was dropped and I was able to diffuse this quickly and my frustration and my blood pressure levels went down.
The moral of the story is even if you're correct sometimes it's better to just let it go.
That is one of my pet peeves. My husband says couple but it's always more than two.
Good for you for letting it go.
How do you deal with it?
10 Oct 2011, 7:35 am
10 Oct 2011, 7:40 am
10 Oct 2011, 7:45 am
Don't most people put "false" information in dating sites or at least try to make themselves look better? If you don't do that some people would get no responses at all.
Here is a funny little link about personal ads and what they really mean.
What those Personal Ads Really Mean
10 Oct 2011, 8:09 am
10 Oct 2011, 8:14 am
hanyo wrote:
Don't most people put "false" information in dating sites or at least try to make themselves look better? If you don't do that some people would get no responses at all.
Here is a funny little link about personal ads and what they really mean.
What those Personal Ads Really Mean
Here is a funny little link about personal ads and what they really mean.
What those Personal Ads Really Mean
Some do but putting false information on a dating profile is not a good idea because it generally means that won't get anything more than a single date. However, most people try to present themselves in the best possible light, which is why you need to message and ask them about things that are not in the profile.
10 Oct 2011, 8:20 am
10 Oct 2011, 8:52 am
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