Where are your emotions?

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Yeah, that's what made me try it, too. I had all-out meltdowns as a teenager... physically violent (though not violent against people, and too undirected to actually aim at objects)... I have always been unable to control my emotional expression. I've tried. I went as far as hurting myself to try to control it. I failed.

I've moved away from meltdowns as time has gone on, and have begun to simply shut down and withdraw instead. I'm not sure that this is a better alternative.

If I can, my ultimate goal is actually to use my emotions. There's a lot of energy in a lot of emotions--anger, frustration, anxiety, even joy. That energy shouldn't just be dissipated; ideally, I'd be able to direct it--the way a bullet in a gun is a lot more powerful than the same bullet disassembled and touched with a spark. Feelings have a purpose--survival, generally; also intuition and the sort of cognitive leaps that could be made in a linear fashion but would take much longer that way.

At the moment, I have gotten as far as being aware of emotions, and thinking rationally about them while I am experiencing them. Actually being able to think about the progress of an all-out meltdown or "frozen" shutdown state should become very useful.

I'm probably the wrong person to reply to this thread because, unlike just about everyone with AS, I do not easily get anxious or depressed. If I do, they are for very short periods of time (like a day or two), and then I somehow "balance" myself out. It's nothing I do consciously, it just happens.

I just let myself feel my emotions as they come. I've never consciously suppressed negative emotions; I just don't seem to get very many. I can be very happy (joyous, in fact) doing the things that I love to do. I am very fortunate that my wife enjoys these things as well, because we spend much of our free time doing them together. I laugh a lot and generally enjoy the simplest things in life.

I have often wondered, however, if I feel many of my emotions vicariously through others. I seem to have this innate desire to please people. If it works, I get very happy myself. If it doesn't, it is a bit of a stab through the heart for me.

I hid them under a rock in the hopes of losing them.

Come to think of it, when someone asks me where something is, my response is:
"I ate it.".

But I can't think of how I could have eaten my emotions.

Sorry for the random.
Now back to your scheduled topic.

My first response is, "'I hid them under a rock,'" so I use that.

In this case, it is a shorter way of asking "What is the status of your emotions?"

^Well, I did answer that too. Lol.

i'm most of the time happy, my philosphy which i took from one of my fav movies is "there is never nothing going on and that the journey brings you happiness, not the destination" which fits me quite well, i never think of the future or past much, jus live in the moment, and i always notice something is going on. My emotions range from happiness to rage anger, and theres the neutral emotionless neither happy or upest side lol, which i get if i dont eat or sleep haha, like a zombie. like i said im mostly happy unless a schedule change, no food, no sleep, lost something, or basically hanging around soembody who constantly gets upset when im too loud or too giggly, yea, other then that im quite peachy keen haha.