I need advice about my aspergers

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You have to learn to cope with your problems. When I was going to Uni, I worked as a cleaner. We went into office buildings late at night to sweep up and empty the rubbish and so on. I pretty much worked by myself in empty buildings. It was late at night, so I slept afternoons. If you have such pronounced sensitivity problems, you can get a job where your environment is quite controlled. Or you may be able to do such services as pet-sitting where you drop by people's homes to doggie sit.
You're not stuck ! ! There are measures you can do to help yourself ! !!

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I sometimes act odd as well and it's resulted in the loss of a number of friends.[/b]

I fear being alone because of my problems it is something I'm only now starting to get over.

OK, nothing wrong with going out with family or a friend until you get used to the routine of bus travel. Practice, remember?

Well I used to be able to go on the bus (my boyfriend came over from England to help me) but now my sensory issues are worse so Ive become more restricted.

You can do your best to cope and no more. As I said above work for me was a real struggle and now I just don't bother. Eventually you will learn to manage your AS and the fun stuff will come naturally.

Yes this is something I'm trying to learn. I push myself past my breaking point then get mad at myself for not doing more.

I'll reply to the rest of you a bit later. I had some extra time cause i cant sleep but I'm gonna try to get some shut eye.

Thanks for the advice everyone!

I'll post a bit more later in a day or so.

he just me thanks for annotating and replying

ou're sensory issues sound horrible, in the case for your experience as I imagine it would effect your stress levels highly maybe what a differet pster said about meds would benefit you I think if your extreme sensory issues were controlled I think it would drasticall change your stress leves because other than that there is nothing really to worry about remember in terms of interaction one rule I find that helps is just to take it slow and just take things as they come and try not to worry for me stress is the worst fasctor of AS because I constantl think about it I still do but its a lot better than it was when I was 16

iyou asked me about my friends reactions well luckily enough allmy friends well my three housemates have special needs I know it sounds crazy, my best friend Aspie and Adam is Dysphraxic and Martin is Dsdlexic I actually have talked to him and I seriously think he has AS the traits are very obvious
My 3 female friends Maria is visually impaired lik I am aand Claire and Chrissy are fine but they are very extroverted and love movies and comics which are y interests as does maria so in terms of friendship I think I was at the right place at the right time and they are the most enduring friends ever because when I stress I worry constantly and tak about the situation I think it annoys them but they calm me down an it works usually lol

I hope your sensory training goes well cus it must be daunting my snses pla up now and then especially with light but I am a really carefree person I get it from my father lol who is aspie I think but keep responding hehe I really want to see how its goes as I guess that your are in your 20s

Well, I don't have many of the things described in the OP to an extreme where it totally disrupts my day except for some little things like if I break a nail I have to smoothe it out before I can do anything or I go crazy, and nobody but my husband has really noticed that. But I will say my daughter has a hard time sleeping (that's all I seem to want to do). I've heard many people state that they have given Melatonin to autistic children who have difficulty sleeping. It does work, but I have to wait till my daughter is tired. I guess Melatonin is something your body naturally creates (especially in darkness which is why many people like to sleep in a dark room) that helps them fall asleep. It doesn't, however, make you tired. But they do sell it in pills and liquid (and I've heard of this mythical spray) in the natural pills area of the drug store (like where you'd find vitamins). But, this is in the States. I'm not sure what countries allow the sale and use of it. Either way, with my daughter, I don't give it to her every night, just nights she is beyond her tired moment and just having difficulty falling asleep. Oh, and I know adults take it too because the dosage is usually an adult dosage (5mg I think) whereas kids are halfed (2.5).

Just something you might want to try if you are having difficulty sleeping which is also something that I think the lack of can flare up some bad days. I speculate too that our nutrition has some effect on the kind of day we will have. With me, I noticed I have a bad day when I'm mentally exhausted and not alert (it's like trying to play on Xbox live with a slow internet connection). My daughter is bad when she's too hyper to think. Oh, and getting out and exercising kinda helps too. I had less bad days with my Aspergers (more due to my environment as opposed to my internal self) when I was in the military. I notice now even if I don't run out and PT 3 times a week, as long as I get out and do something (like swimming, taking the kids to the park, etc.) it kinda helps me. More I think about it, when I went away to this one college many years ago, I did fitness swimming and cheerleading, and I never made friends easier than back at that college and when I was in the military.

I should also add that everybody has a natural inclination to adapt to their environment. If your environment is always your home, then you will have a hard time adapting to the world outside of your home (like a workplace). Don't attempt to hit social environments full force... it really needs to be something you ween yourself to. I have noticed that being a stay at home mom for the last several years has made it very difficult for me to be in public situations. My best friend told me for years that I'm not Aspergers, but i was in the public more often than not years ago. Then I started staying home all the time when I had kids, but I was thousands of miles away from my friend for about 2 years, then I moved back home and we didn't hang out that much at first until about now. Now, she sees it, and I think it's because I'm not in the public that much, like being home all the time allowed myself to let a lot more of my qualities show.

Re Melatonin, the laws differ. When I was a little girl ( 8 ) it wasn't legal in Aus, and it had to be brought in via loophole from another country.
Nowadays it's sold over the counter like vitamins, in a piss weak homeopathic formulation often mixed heavily with stuff that is meant to help like Vitamin B etc. But a medical strength formulation is available from a sleep specialist if you consult one.

Yes, for a long time I felt lazy/broken because I couldn't do things and would have to fib about occupation etc. Now I go to volunteer work at a library for one hour every week. It's hard because I feel nervous/awkward around people and it's often heated rather warm there, but I usually manage. When I'm sick or something big is going on I call in to say I can't do it.

I read something on here about ASDs having inconsistent depths and it made sense. To use a metaphor, I'm competent enough to knit my own socks on a good day - but if I'm having a bad day, I'm also capable of leaving the knitting on the floor, tripping on it and getting the needles stuck in my foot. So it really depends on the day and my level of functioning at that time, and what ways you've found to manage.