An NT's definition of annoyance.

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So the pi....police officer who threatens to throw your bike off a bridge did it for being 'impersonal'? I prefer the NiggazWithAttitude mentality and response to this. What did the community do after the BART officer shot that innocent black dude to death?

It is an ignorantio elenchi, as it completely fails to address the original question, at the very least.

I have to reply, sorry I don't understand what "dojavescript: emotion is". Also are you emplying I feel superior in any way? i can ensure that I don't. And I am not looking for relationship advice. I am looking to understand the different way our thoughts and reasoning effect our everyday relationship. Thus hoping to remain with a fellow Aspie.

What is the purpose of this site???. I am here to try to understand my Aspie partner. The purpose of this excerise is to understand his ways rather than be annoyed by him coz I dont understand why he acts as he does. I am not here to offend, feel superior or judge anyone.

I have learn't so much already. maybe an insight would make things clearer.
1) Specilal interest. I have learnt not to inturrupt, and understand what I may say will not be heard.
2) accept I am not to believed because of AS
3)Accept his way of thinking will always be right, and go with his flow.
4)Understand his reluctance to go to the shop is not to do with my wishes, but anxiety not expressed.
5)accep6t I am responsable for everything
6) Accept his motorcycle world is alway's first priority
7) not to expect he will support me in keeping puppy stimulated, fed and vaccinated.

The problem is that not everybody is using the NT word the same here. Look at the thread asking what an NT is, and you can see that nobody really agrees. You have to kind of figure out how every individual uses the term by their context. Some people use it in context that replaces the word people, and they are the ones that get misunderstood the most. Others will use it as an Aspie superiority thing, and they usually get corrected by members of the forum (including mods). It's been a big issue here, but we do need a word for "normal" without having to use the word normal.

I also notice two major ways people use NT. First, you got people using it subjectively from their own experiences, and they discuss their concerns about NTs as a way to vent or cope. Second, you got people using it objectively in order to find a therapy to help them succeed in this world (i.e. trying to turn an instinct into an art or a science). I tend to fall into the second category.

Either way, don't take things personal on this site. I've gotten into ugly debates with people who made me feel like they thought I was stupid or something, and then I can still be able to get along with them in another thread. When people make generalizations on this site, I really think most of them are not considering anyone on this forum a part of that generalization (most not all). The ones that do we call "trolls," and in which case, we tend to just say our peace and move on. If something ever does really bother you that was said, your best bet is to say something at that moment in that thread with specifics. That gives the person who made the comment a chance to either clarify or apologize.

Thanks guys, I am overly sensative right now. I imagine this subjuct has been raised many times before, but such a huge site to trawl through.
I will learn not to take things personally here. That is one of my "character faults", I tend to take most things personally. This is why I am in this depressed place.

A receipe for disaster. A sensative person who takes thigs personally, married to an Aspie and not knowing (both of us) that he has aspergers.

The thing is, people who post here are generally a bit disconnected from what NT's could reasonably think of as real life. There are things we generally find we're in agreement about, and you (the NTs) are generally in disagreement with.

Trust me, it's not personal. Any more than your discrimination (unconsidered and automatic though it may be) is personally directed against me.

Good, now all you have to is explain why you think it is irrelevant, or how it fails to address the original question.

I totally feel you. I tend to be overly sensitive, and while I have a good excuse right now (I'm pregnant), it doesn't explain for the times before I got pregnant LOL. One thing I'm learning in this life is that you have to do your own thing with blinders on. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you are, doing what you love, or getting what you want. Even if someone says something they meant to be personal, only you can decide to let it affect your work. It took 30 years for me to figure it out, but I finally now understand what my mom meant by "just ignore them." You know if she would have elaborated a little more on the subject when I was 9, maybe it wouldn't have taken me this long. I've also realized, most people who criticize usually don't have a leg to stand on themselves. Sometimes I get to see that about a person, and other times I can only have faith that they are just as messed up as I am so they shouldn't be talking anyway.

A better idea would be to get the book 'The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome' by Tony Attwood. A forum is really good for particular current problems only.