Not knowing what expression was on your face?

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Doesn't matter what you feel - it's what your body did (or didn't do) that gives rise to the judgement.

I've been in situations just like that before. My moods & thoughts have been completely misunderstood by others who thought they saw a certain look on my face that I didn't even know I had. I'll be in a good mood & people will think I'm in a bad mood, because I usually have what I consider to be a "neutral" or possibly "blank" expression on my face most of the time. But that comes off differently to others. I guess they see it as depressed or sad or mad. I also once had a therapist tell me that my emotions were too apparent on my face & my facial expressions showed too much what I was thinking/feeling. The problem is, she was always misreading what I was thinking/feeling, so she was obviously seeing a different expression than what I thought was there. Or maybe I'm displaying the wrong emotions on my face, but I don't do it on purpose, it's not as if I can control what look is on my face.

I'm not completely sure to what extent my expressions don't fit with my moods. A lot of times, people take me the wrong way, but I'm sure there are other factors to that besides facial expression.
My mother, however, has HUGE problems with the facial expressions thing. Well, it's not necessarily her who has the problem with it, but her who has the expressions that cause problems. Somebody may tell her she looks upset or disgusted, and she just kinda brushes it off, and says "no, no, I'm not upset.."
When your mother always looks upset and disgusted, though, that takes a toll on a kid. There have been a lot of people (teachers, professionals, etc..) who have seriously disliked me. The why on that frequently bewildered me.. looking back, I think at least part of it was that they assumed that if my mother seemed so disgusted while discussing me, there must be a reason for her disgust.