what was the worst insult somebody threw at you?

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A teacher laughed at me when I showed up for a mid level math class, and told me to go away due to being not smart enough [in front of the whole year 11 class].

Didn't bother me, but if I did care, I'm sure this one would have bothered me the most.

My school had very strict rules. I could file a formal complaint and they would almost certainly be punished if they openly ridiculed me. The same goes to that lecturer. I was just not pissed off enough. So I'm lucky that I studied in such a school, instead of being liked by the classmates.

"You have been identified by your colleagues as somebody who could do more to help in terms of general initiative and enthusiasm"

That was a little gift for me from the head of department one year. It was the sheer vagueness of it that angered me. When I asked who had thus identified me and what exactly the problem was supposed to be, the guy just said "No, no, you're paranoid, it's not a criticism." Obviously he thought he was a psychiatrist as well as a judge. I was so shocked that I didn't argue. Luckily he said the same thing to my immediate supervisor who expressed great surprise at there being such a difference between what he was suggesting and her own observations of my performance while working for her, so the guy finally gave up.

Apparently in legal terms, vague criticism can be construed as bullying....certainly it's a pretty inept way of fixing a problem with a fellow human being. To give criticism is never pleasant but sometimes necessary. But to just cast vague assertions that somebody's behaviour is somehow lacking, without pinning the problem down exactly, that's just plain nasty. It served only to undermine my confidence, and my performance in the area he was referring to actually fell, as did my willingness to co-operate. I actually walked away from one task I'd been given - something that I'd never done before in 30 years of working. One thing for sure, I'd sooner have died than let him think that his words had done him any good. But I still carry it, I still feel bitter and hungry for revenge when I recall the incident.

I still don't know what the guy meant....best guess is that some tinpot jerk had misconstrued one or two aspects of my AS to mean that I was lazy or unco-operative, and the HOD was so full of authoritarian snot that he just swallowed the myth without even wondering what might really be going on. Imagine my surprise when, the following year, the new HOD said the same thing to me, though he tried very hard to come over as being kindly and reasonable about it. I shouted at him and never heard any more about it. But it's not resolved - I just got angry and he backed off - and it's disturbing to think of the crap that managements bandy about concerning their staff, things they don't have the guts to tackle diligently.......now I've got the DX, if they ever dare to resurrect that remark, they'll be doing so at their peril.

I can't really pinpoint one particular insult that has hurt me the most. Something that hurt me a lot a couple of years ago was when a girl I barely knew decided to call me a b***h. I'm definitely not a b***h, I try very hard to be kind to people, but because my self esteem was quite low at that point I spent months dwelling on it and going over everything I'd said to try and work out what I did that was so offensive. In the end it turned out that she just wanted to be hurtful and said the first rude thing that came to her mind...

By now they all blend together but the stereotype to the insult is as follows:

The NT will accuse me of doing or being something that I'm not, projecting what they'd be feeling like if they said or interacted the way I was doing at that moment that I had been accused of whatever transgression they imagined.

Then I'm expected to apologize or worse - go to an AA meeting (they are in sobriety a short time after falling off the wagon many times and I'm the one that just quit cold turkey with no temptations or backsliding for 9 years) and am accused of being a dry drunk when in fact they are the ones having the meltdown and throwing a temper tantrum, and I am the one accused of weakness and over-emotionalism when clearly they are the ones in that condition.

And if I try to show the Asperger connection to poor social skills and inform them they are off-base and need to understand things better then they call me weak and a failure and just posturing to use it as an excuse.

That sums it up quite succinctly - total disregard for the truth, my feelings, and general politesse.

I hope there is a hell for such people and that I can watch in the next life (without being in hell myself) as they get what's coming to them.

Teacher: You're only three years old...are you sure you want to go to school?
Me:I don't want to enter this school but my mom is insisting....
Teacher:And why?
Me:Because God made it that way!
Teacher:I guess you're not intelligent enough so sorry..
Me:Don't ever dare to under estimate my capability..Your school is not really good at all...and in fact,most students here are slackers!! !
Teacher:(she whispered : you bastard!)
Me:Yeah, perception is a mirror!


haha I don't think it sounds like an insult..but I got really insulted that time but now even though others would say "you're stupid" , "you're crazy" or something, it won't affect me and I will just reply to them by saying "yeah, I knew that from the very beginning.. no need of reminding me"

'Psycho' or any variation thereof upsets me greatly. My brother told one of his friends I was a 'psycho' recently when I was sitting next to him and apparently expected me to accept this, when I objected he said 'you were when you were a kid'; I assume he was referring to the meltdowns I used to have regularly 15-20 years ago, how that is relevant now I have no idea.

Also, it's not exactly an insult but, any insinuation that I've lied will send me high, I'm ridiculously honest.

And the people who judge us are the normal ones?

Thank you, ToughDiamond. Some years back, I was in an office where I was suddenly ostracized by about twenty people on the arrival of two new girls who established themselves as social queen bees, and who clearly didn't like me for no apparently good reason. When, during my annual appraisal, I mentioned this to my supervisor, she said 'Well, you may as well know that I've had complaints about you, so you need to watch yourself or you'll be in danger of disciplinary action.' She would not say what the complaints were or who had made them.

I knew none of what I know now about legal rights at work. And, the boss was a generally disliked woman nobody would have listened to anyway, her immediate superior was a milquetoast guy it was rumored she was sleeping with, and the next guy up the scale was someone I rarely saw and wouldn't have even known where his office was. These days, if I started a new job the first things I'd do would be a) find the trade union rep and join up (yes, I know in the US that's a controversial subject, but trust me, here in the UK it can be enormously helpful), and b) find out exactly how their complaints procedure works, just in case I ever needed it.

Worst insult...well, being described on the phone to someone as 'that thing' by one of the ringleaders in the above situation was kind of nasty. Really, though, most of the worst ones were in my teens, and from my parents: useless, worthless, parasite, cuckoo, fat, weird, not right in the head, couldn't do anything right...And then they would tell me they 'weren't being hurtful'. They lied. It hurts more when it's the people supposed to love you the most.

I got a lot of the general 'Why don't you just go away?' 'Nobody likes you.' and 'Nobody wants to be your friend.' in school growing up.

The one that sticks in my head is when I was about 10 I was gone for a week at a summer camp. I came back and one of hte girls I hung out with described to me how everybody was celebrating how much fun it was that I was gone for a week.

That one was responsible for the birth of my 'Keep people at a distance' tendency.

I recently told my little brother I had Asperger's. I asked him if he knew what that meant. He said, 'Yeah, it means you're a dick but it's not your fault. Don't worry, now I know that it's not your fault, I'll adjust when you're a dick.'

Keep in mind, this guy has aspirations of being a biologist. I already am one. I had just gotten this loser who doesn't have a real job, a car, and still lives with our parents at the ripe age of 32 a biology job for the summer, let him stay with me and my wife rent free for the summer (you want to talk about disruption of your routine?), and use my car for the summer. The next week when I asked him to clean the car out before he gave it back to me, he exploded and proceeded to blame me for all the problems in his life up to that point - just before he walked out my front door, got into my car, and drove to the job that I got him. I wonder who the dick really is.

I realize I'm overreacting and it's probably an Aspie thing, but I've had a month and a half to consider this, and I still can't see any way I want him to be a part of my life.. ever. I find myself not feeling anything but peaceful when I envision dying of old age having never spoken to him again.

"I'm a loser with no friends and no life". That was something a guy said to me in 7th grade when he grew to hate me for some reason. Middle School was the worst of times.

I can't remember any bad ones, just a weird one from middle school.. some kid called me a f*cking Jew and told me not to touch his titties. (I had accidentally run into him in the hall) I'm not a Jew. And he didn't have titties.
I dunno, middle-school me just thought it seemed like a really weird thing to say. XD;;;;

But I guess the kind of insults that made me really insecure were the ones about how I looked... like why was I wearing "high-waters", why didn't I shave my legs, why didn't I wear a bra.. (this was still early middle school, so it had not yet occurred to me to wear a bra by the time we started having to change for gym class.) Is this how most girls start trying to look like adults, because their peers tease them into it? I was the last to catch on though. D:

I was once called a baby killer in the grocery store but that was I think because I made the mistake of going off post in uniform. I never did that again.
All of the sudden I understood why the sergeants said never to do that.

I've been called a Jew as an insult as well. As I don't have much of a social life, I save most of my money rather than blow it on drink and other stuff I don't need. Apparently being frugal with money is a Jewish trait so that's what they called me. They then went on to say that they wished someone would send me to die in a concentration camp. I'm not Jewish but that's still the most shocking inslut I've recieved.

I've also been called a 'serial killer', 'mass murderer', 'rapist' and 'rape victim' at various points over the years.

fa***t, copy cat and wanna be

ive had a bunch of insults hurled at me...i dont really care about most of them. i suppose in 4th grade or so this girl told me my hair looked like a rat's nest. i felt bad but hardly because my friends stood up for me
perhaps the most hurtful thing i heard lately is my mom was angry at me for being "rude" and wanting her to leave me alone in my room. she seriously started accusing me of being a schizophrenic....i dont know but that really got under my skin, because she has no idea how schizos even act! i started crying and slammed the door in her face >.>