Did the person who diagnosed you tell you...?
11 Sep 2009, 11:55 pm
nettiespaghetti wrote:
Ok am I the only one who thinks this is completely stupid? How can you get your own place with no income? And a cat that requires food with requires money to buy food? I mean yeah, I agree it's probably best to get your own place but get a job first! I can't even believe a professional would recommend something like that.
Well I think the obvious answer is Parental Subsidy. She was obviously expecting my parents to pay the difference.
12 Sep 2009, 12:00 am
Apple_in_my_Eye wrote:
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Now I was taken aback by what this doctor said when I got there for round two. She said it was in my best interest to move out of my parent's house ASAP. (She even said, "You're going to hate me for saying this" before she said it). And she said to mom, "She's going to give a million reasons why it won't work." Mom asked whether I should find a job first so I could afford to live on my own (I am on disability). She said no, the priority was, my own place first. THEN find job.
Maybe this is overly cynical, but maybe she doesn't really believe you have AS (or doesn't believe in it at all, or is uninformed but not admitting it). It sounds like she thinks you "just need to grow up." I.e. the part about getting a place first and then getting a job -- an expert ought to know that ASDs can make finding employment difficult (if not impossible, for some). OTOH, a person who is "immature," just needs to get out in the world and can find a job as easily as any 'normal' person. And immature people also 'make lots of silly excuses to avoid independence,' which she also pre-emptively accused you of.
My thought is just that maybe she doesn't think you have AS, and that that's why she won't give you the referral.
I will admit it seems a bit overly egregious for a neuropsych to do for 8 years, though.
This neuropscychologist's specialty is brain injury. Heck, she even thought it was possible my symptoms (aspergerlike ones) were caused by brain damage (from literally being dropped on my head as a baby--not by anybody but by accidentally pushing myself off the table because my legs were too long for the 'cuddle seat' I was sitting in). However she did not offer any treatment options for that, either.
She did predict that I'd have a million reasons why living on my own wouldn't work. But is that anything special?
12 Sep 2009, 5:36 am
Shebakoby wrote:
Apple_in_my_Eye wrote:
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Now I was taken aback by what this doctor said when I got there for round two. She said it was in my best interest to move out of my parent's house ASAP. (She even said, "You're going to hate me for saying this" before she said it). And she said to mom, "She's going to give a million reasons why it won't work." Mom asked whether I should find a job first so I could afford to live on my own (I am on disability). She said no, the priority was, my own place first. THEN find job.
Maybe this is overly cynical, but maybe she doesn't really believe you have AS (or doesn't believe in it at all, or is uninformed but not admitting it). It sounds like she thinks you "just need to grow up." I.e. the part about getting a place first and then getting a job -- an expert ought to know that ASDs can make finding employment difficult (if not impossible, for some). OTOH, a person who is "immature," just needs to get out in the world and can find a job as easily as any 'normal' person. And immature people also 'make lots of silly excuses to avoid independence,' which she also pre-emptively accused you of.
My thought is just that maybe she doesn't think you have AS, and that that's why she won't give you the referral.
I will admit it seems a bit overly egregious for a neuropsych to do for 8 years, though.
This neuropscychologist's specialty is brain injury. Heck, she even thought it was possible my symptoms (aspergerlike ones) were caused by brain damage (from literally being dropped on my head as a baby--not by anybody but by accidentally pushing myself off the table because my legs were too long for the 'cuddle seat' I was sitting in). However she did not offer any treatment options for that, either.
She did predict that I'd have a million reasons why living on my own wouldn't work. But is that anything special?
It would seem to me that this neuropscychologist has no qualification to say anything to you about AS. If she specialises in brain injury, she doesn't have the qualification. Also her thinking AS can be caused by hitting your head. Very unprofessional of her, she should have said to you that she was not qualified and directed you to someone who is. I don't have any advise on how to deal with her though.
12 Sep 2009, 12:53 pm
LostAlien wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
Apple_in_my_Eye wrote:
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Now I was taken aback by what this doctor said when I got there for round two. She said it was in my best interest to move out of my parent's house ASAP. (She even said, "You're going to hate me for saying this" before she said it). And she said to mom, "She's going to give a million reasons why it won't work." Mom asked whether I should find a job first so I could afford to live on my own (I am on disability). She said no, the priority was, my own place first. THEN find job.
Maybe this is overly cynical, but maybe she doesn't really believe you have AS (or doesn't believe in it at all, or is uninformed but not admitting it). It sounds like she thinks you "just need to grow up." I.e. the part about getting a place first and then getting a job -- an expert ought to know that ASDs can make finding employment difficult (if not impossible, for some). OTOH, a person who is "immature," just needs to get out in the world and can find a job as easily as any 'normal' person. And immature people also 'make lots of silly excuses to avoid independence,' which she also pre-emptively accused you of.
My thought is just that maybe she doesn't think you have AS, and that that's why she won't give you the referral.
I will admit it seems a bit overly egregious for a neuropsych to do for 8 years, though.
This neuropscychologist's specialty is brain injury. Heck, she even thought it was possible my symptoms (aspergerlike ones) were caused by brain damage (from literally being dropped on my head as a baby--not by anybody but by accidentally pushing myself off the table because my legs were too long for the 'cuddle seat' I was sitting in). However she did not offer any treatment options for that, either.
She did predict that I'd have a million reasons why living on my own wouldn't work. But is that anything special?
It would seem to me that this neuropscychologist has no qualification to say anything to you about AS. If she specialises in brain injury, she doesn't have the qualification. Also her thinking AS can be caused by hitting your head. Very unprofessional of her, she should have said to you that she was not qualified and directed you to someone who is. I don't have any advise on how to deal with her though.
I don't think she actually put it in a way that indicated she thought AS is caused by brain injury. She just said she couldn't be certain it wasn't a brain injury rather than AS.
If she's not qualified, she never said so. Not that this is surprising, but she was unable to find me anyone who was. Same with my own regular doctor.
13 Sep 2009, 3:16 am
Shebakoby wrote:
LostAlien wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
Apple_in_my_Eye wrote:
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Now I was taken aback by what this doctor said when I got there for round two. She said it was in my best interest to move out of my parent's house ASAP. (She even said, "You're going to hate me for saying this" before she said it). And she said to mom, "She's going to give a million reasons why it won't work." Mom asked whether I should find a job first so I could afford to live on my own (I am on disability). She said no, the priority was, my own place first. THEN find job.
Maybe this is overly cynical, but maybe she doesn't really believe you have AS (or doesn't believe in it at all, or is uninformed but not admitting it). It sounds like she thinks you "just need to grow up." I.e. the part about getting a place first and then getting a job -- an expert ought to know that ASDs can make finding employment difficult (if not impossible, for some). OTOH, a person who is "immature," just needs to get out in the world and can find a job as easily as any 'normal' person. And immature people also 'make lots of silly excuses to avoid independence,' which she also pre-emptively accused you of.
My thought is just that maybe she doesn't think you have AS, and that that's why she won't give you the referral.
I will admit it seems a bit overly egregious for a neuropsych to do for 8 years, though.
This neuropscychologist's specialty is brain injury. Heck, she even thought it was possible my symptoms (aspergerlike ones) were caused by brain damage (from literally being dropped on my head as a baby--not by anybody but by accidentally pushing myself off the table because my legs were too long for the 'cuddle seat' I was sitting in). However she did not offer any treatment options for that, either.
She did predict that I'd have a million reasons why living on my own wouldn't work. But is that anything special?
It would seem to me that this neuropscychologist has no qualification to say anything to you about AS. If she specialises in brain injury, she doesn't have the qualification. Also her thinking AS can be caused by hitting your head. Very unprofessional of her, she should have said to you that she was not qualified and directed you to someone who is. I don't have any advise on how to deal with her though.
I don't think she actually put it in a way that indicated she thought AS is caused by brain injury. She just said she couldn't be certain it wasn't a brain injury rather than AS.
If she's not qualified, she never said so. Not that this is surprising, but she was unable to find me anyone who was. Same with my own regular doctor.
I just re-read my post and it's a bit incoherent, sorry about that.
I was just thinking about this, she specialises in brain injury. A S is a neurological difference, and is not caused by brain injury. That's why I don't think she's knowledgable on the subject of A S, that and her relyance on sterotypes.
My bf has AS too but doesn't really like cats, he'd be perplexed if it was suggested to him to get a cat because he's a total dog person.
