Seeking advice from your parents?!

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Ugh, ugh, ugh, yes! When I was at school aged about seven or eight, one time our teacher read us a story by Enid Blyton (some of you may have heard of her; children's writer of the 20s-50s, seen as a bit old-fashioned and twee by in my times, wrote the Noddy and Famous Five books among others) called 'She Hadn't Any Friends'. It was all about a little girl who was in the situation the title suggests, and a wise teacher who finally takes her in hand and gives her advice which is exactly that quote from your mom. She ends up inviting everyone to a big party, after which, naturally, everyone wants to be her friend.

Of course, everyone knew I was the one person in class who was actually in that situation, and it was horribly embarrassing...doubly so given I'd tried the idea of inviting everyone in class to a party and not a single person came. I concluded that both Ms. Blyton, and in particular my teacher for picking that story, didn't understand kids quite as well as they thought. 'Be a friend', my butt.

Oh good lord yes I got that too. But I wasn't /not/ being a friend so wtf.

Enid Blyton's works probably fall under the category of "Godawful Fiction." Probably wellmeaning she was, but had no clue what she was talking about. There's a reason it's called fiction. Where it goes wrong is when people start trying to apply fiction/fantasy to real life like that.

I still haven't told my parents... I'm afraid of what they'll think of me if I told them. I mean, I could pretty much say for a fact that they would be supportive, but I just can't deal with confrontations like that.

I'm not sure what they would say if I did ask them for social advice though. I've pretty much been independent of anyone my whole life if it could be helped, and I've actually been especially detached from my family, relying more on the few friends I had growing up. I don't know what kind of advice to expect from them at all really ^^;

no-i don't live with my father and dont see him too often (Well i could send him a mesage off YT-he goes on YT and added me as a friend once ). And well. I have disagreements with my mother on various things, so no.

I'd trust the internet more....given some of what my mother and her boyfriend have said re. their views on some things (e.g. snitching you to the police for drugs or some s**t). Yeah-I won't trust a parole officer-ish person and a police officer). Given my views on how society should be changed (or destroyed) given what it does to dissidents & 'deviants'. They don't like it when i'm honest re. some things...so I'd rather not bring up things with them given the power-balance and other factors and what they consider 'offensive' or 'disrepecting'. Then they b***h if I don't talk to them about things (Well in the past at least).

Also the whole 'advice being technical & specialized and they don't know what it is anyway. Sometimes my mother comes up to me asking for advice-or basic/general information on things...