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29 Sep 2009, 12:01 pm

I have a really hard time thinking about anything I have not yet experienced in the form of anything remotely realistic. When I do try to think about it, I think of things I like doing, things I might would like to do, but there are so many possibilities out there... and far too many questions. If I do come up with anything halfway realistic, it gets me frustrated, because it isn't anything happening RIGHT NOW, so I can't set it in stone in any way shape or form, not even mentally.

Sure, I can come up with goals, ideas and all of that, but it doesn't make any difference. There is no way to know for sure whether or not I would like making a career out of any of my interests and whatnot, because for the most part, none of mine would be able to be made into a career as a one person job. There are so many other things that factor into anything I would like to do, that I sometimes decide I just probably wouldn't like it because I would have to socialize too much and all.

Then, there are problems as far as learning things... I mean, I've had jobs in the past, and it's one of the reasons I've been fired besides for just being flat out "weird". I love to learn new things... but once I get involved, I learn them too quickly and eventually there isn't much more that I can learn that pertains to my job, so I get bored and lose motivation/enthusiasm/interest altogether.

I'm lucky if I can make a real decision as far as what I'm going to do tomorrow or even tonight for dinner... and even those plans change so often due to reasons beyond my control that I cannot hold much importance in thinking about what I'm going to be doing 5 years later. I can't even hold plans together for an entire evening much of the time.


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29 Sep 2009, 3:51 pm

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I have a really hard time thinking about anything I have not yet experienced in the form of anything remotely realistic. When I do try to think about it, I think of things I like doing, things I might would like to do, but there are so many possibilities out there... and far too many questions. If I do come up with anything halfway realistic, it gets me frustrated, because it isn't anything happening RIGHT NOW, so I can't set it in stone in any way shape or form, not even mentally.

Sure, I can come up with goals, ideas and all of that, but it doesn't make any difference. There is no way to know for sure whether or not I would like making a career out of any of my interests and whatnot, because for the most part, none of mine would be able to be made into a career as a one person job. There are so many other things that factor into anything I would like to do, that I sometimes decide I just probably wouldn't like it because I would have to socialize too much and all.

Then, there are problems as far as learning things... I mean, I've had jobs in the past, and it's one of the reasons I've been fired besides for just being flat out "weird". I love to learn new things... but once I get involved, I learn them too quickly and eventually there isn't much more that I can learn that pertains to my job, so I get bored and lose motivation/enthusiasm/interest altogether.

I'm lucky if I can make a real decision as far as what I'm going to do tomorrow or even tonight for dinner... and even those plans change so often due to reasons beyond my control that I cannot hold much importance in thinking about what I'm going to be doing 5 years later. I can't even hold plans together for an entire evening much of the time.

Seconded.



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29 Sep 2009, 6:07 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Tracker wrote:
Setting goals is an important part of life.

If you dont have any future goals or objectives, then you wont be able to make an effective plan about what needs to be done. Then you'll just wander around accomplishing nothing productive. Perhaps it would help if you had somebody to sit down and talk with you and help you organize your thoughts.

For example:

What do you enjoy doing? Can we find anything career wise that takes advantage of that? What obstacles are in the way of getting that career? How can we address those? etc.


^^ Seconded.


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29 Sep 2009, 6:18 pm

Yeah, that's what happens to me when I try to think about things I don't find interesting. What you have to do is find some things related to "thinking about the future" that you can really get excited about, and apply to your real life, so it's not so abstract and floaty. Usually I just keep the original thought in the back of my mind, and eventually interesting new thoughts and outside information starts tricking in and things start to form. You don't have to rush it, just keep it in your head.


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29 Sep 2009, 6:24 pm

There is no future.

There will be a nuclear exchange in my lifetime. Uranium is naturally occurring all over the planet and cannot be denied. The A bomb plans are on the fricken Internet. What will happen when the technology becomes so advanced that every kid with a science kit can enrich uranium and create a fission device?

Oil will become more scarce and more demanding to pump out, and thus very expensive. No, we will not transition to H2 or electric power quickly enough so there will be chaos. (Why would we find alternatives when there's fortune to be made on oil still?) It isn't just cars. What about planes or ships or plastics/lubricant industry or locomotives or trucks? They all need oil.

Global warming has already entered a positive feedback loop. Earth will warm up faster than the worst predictions indicate. Entire coastlines will flood, crops will fail, vegetation and animals will die. The Amazon will become a desert. There will be endless wars for resources.

The surveillance society, which the UK is poised to become, will be the norm in most of the World.

Crime caused by the war against controlled substances will only get worse. What we see happening in Mexico today will start happening elsewhere. Governments will not do the ONE AND ONLY thing which can stop this trend: legalize the stuff. If morons want to poison themselves, they should have the right to make that decision. If suicide is not prosecutable, how come injecting oneself with a substance is?

Social security fund will run out. My company or my bank will steal the retirement money, or it will just disappear into nothing when the stock market crashes.

The generation that lived in the second part of the 20th and first part of 21st century will be remembered as the generation that had it all, and blew it. (Assuming there will be someone left to remember...)

I figure we have a few more good decades left. I'll make the best of them.



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29 Sep 2009, 6:32 pm

Dude.....either that was just a sarcastic joke, or you really gotta stop watching the major news networks....



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29 Sep 2009, 6:33 pm

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Lately, I've been thinking about John Muir and how he lived in the wilderness with, basically, nothing: no tent, cabin, sleepingbag, bedroll, trail party. Just completely alone with a sack of bread, some water, a few scientific insturments and something to write with and on, of course. It's incredible when you consider most of us can't survive without air conditioning and heating. He spent days and days completely soaked. He climbed rocks and mountains without any ice picks or ropes. Yet, he was completely thrilled and happy in places he wanted to be.
If every Aspie could find their Yosemite, they could be just as content as John Muir


I could never live in the wildnerness but there is an alternative style of living that has caught my interest.. a kibbutz in Israel, where everyone works and gets equal pay. I could enjoy that because I want to learn Hebrew one day, but living and eating etc. with other people I don't know would suck.



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29 Sep 2009, 7:08 pm

TheDoctor82 wrote:
Dude.....either that was just a sarcastic joke, or you really gotta stop watching the major news networks....


They say Seattle is a depressing place. With perspectives like that, it's not difficult to see why.



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29 Sep 2009, 8:03 pm

true...after all that is where the whole Grunge rock scene started....and Kurt Cobain OD'd, so no shocker there...



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29 Sep 2009, 9:11 pm

The idea of the kibbutz as a cooperative doesn't exist anymore in practice in the kibbutzim themselves. Nowadays they all work for a salary, and the place is just a living arrangement.


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29 Sep 2009, 9:14 pm

Shebakoby wrote:
anxiety25 wrote:
I have a really hard time thinking about anything I have not yet experienced in the form of anything remotely realistic. When I do try to think about it, I think of things I like doing, things I might would like to do, but there are so many possibilities out there... and far too many questions. If I do come up with anything halfway realistic, it gets me frustrated, because it isn't anything happening RIGHT NOW, so I can't set it in stone in any way shape or form, not even mentally.

Sure, I can come up with goals, ideas and all of that, but it doesn't make any difference. There is no way to know for sure whether or not I would like making a career out of any of my interests and whatnot, because for the most part, none of mine would be able to be made into a career as a one person job. There are so many other things that factor into anything I would like to do, that I sometimes decide I just probably wouldn't like it because I would have to socialize too much and all.

Then, there are problems as far as learning things... I mean, I've had jobs in the past, and it's one of the reasons I've been fired besides for just being flat out "weird". I love to learn new things... but once I get involved, I learn them too quickly and eventually there isn't much more that I can learn that pertains to my job, so I get bored and lose motivation/enthusiasm/interest altogether.

I'm lucky if I can make a real decision as far as what I'm going to do tomorrow or even tonight for dinner... and even those plans change so often due to reasons beyond my control that I cannot hold much importance in thinking about what I'm going to be doing 5 years later. I can't even hold plans together for an entire evening much of the time.

Seconded.


Thirded! :?


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