Female AS traits--i found this list

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OMG....I'm a female

lol. We share a life story in this aspect.

That's what I'm wondering.

Most of the things on that list apply to me.

i think there are like 2 things on that list that i dont relate to.

Amazingly accurate for me!......I think all were true for me........I'm not weird after all!! !!
Just a normal Aspie!


DA WALKER ...... an honorary female aspie! Why not! Possibly some female aspies might identify more with male aspie traits.

Really Spooky in a good way!

I can count the number of things on that list that don't fit me on one hand, that's how accurate it is for me.

I was never diagnosed as bipolar or manic-depressive (though I wouldn't be surprised if I have one of those), but I did have to deal with a doctor several years ago who seemed rather ignorant of my AS, focusing instead just on the depression angle of things, and just kept flinging antidepressants at me, only changing the dosages up or down when I'd tell him they weren't working and were only making me feel worse. (I ended up just stopping taking the things and stopped seeing that doctor altogether.)

wow thanks for this list, but now the guys know our secrets

I doubt any NT guys will read that.

You mean them really aren't Male Traits

honorary female aspie, does not sound unfamiliar actually;

which is really not all that bad, though like most things, it has it's up's and downs

I fit into most of them.

Oh well, now it's all clear. Me and my wife always thinked that we were "different" but we tryed to analize it only after our child grow up a little (probably HFA, still too young for a DX, she is 2 y old).

It was suddendly evident that I'm Aspe but there was a question about her. She doesn't fit NT but many people think she is Bipolar/Border Line, but it never conviced us, she also toke the aspie test with a 110 NT /100 Aspie or the like but still she doesn't fit the "normal Aspie" stereotype but looking at that Aspie girl list, well, everything fits! Hahaha! I want to look at her face when I'll say it to her. Ok so... are we doing Autistic eugenetics? (But the other way around?).

Ditto.



Yep.

Oh wow! That's pretty much me! Even down to the fascination with new technology (in my field, jokingly known as "Shiny Kit Syndrome"!)
That's amazing! Might take that list to all the diagnostic interviews...
Only one or two don't match.

This combined with self-injury is what got me diagnosed as Borderline PD.
ETA: When saying I identify with being called chameleon-like or lacking sense of self, I ... how to say, I get too much interference from other people's presence and forget what I myself like and dislike, or I alter my own preferences so that they don't clash with the ones of the person I am with. I can't say that I'm not hungry when somebody surprisingly invites me to eat, when somebody I like or respect in any way has strong views on a topic that clash with mine, I will avoid bringing up that topic to avoid further discussions about it. And most of the time I even forget that my opinion is a different one, that I want to do something else - until I'm on my own again. It got a bit better in recent time but I'm doing a lot to keep up what I define as 'myself' and this makes me more withdrawn and odd in social situations.

Girls, if some of you were mis-dagnosed and got medication for that diagnosis, did you also react in odd ways (ones the medics hadn't expected) to the medication? Especially to tranquilizers?

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This doesn't fit me at all.

I have been told that I have a very strong sense of self and self awareness.


I've been told that I'm very good at analysing my own motivations, feelings and thoughts. I think that I probably do this at the expense of interpreting other people's thoughts and feelings.

This is probably why I've been called both self aware and self centered.

I've often stuck out like a sore thumb, completely oblivious to the idea of 'fitting in'. I didn't know until very recently that people attached so much value to it over an above individuality. I'm shocked and depressed at this. I honestly thought that being yourself and doing your own thing was what life was meant to be all about.

I've felt, ever since I was little, that people kept expecting me to behave in a certain way and kept trying to shove me in a box just because I was a girl, so that I could meet their expectations and they could be more comfortable with me. The boys seemed to be able to get away with far more misbehaviour and showing off. I longed to have the fun that they did.

What's so wrong with wearing practical or comfortable clothes anyway?

I'm only polite, quiet hold back etc. because I don't want to upset people or break their rules so they get into a strop with me, reject me or yell, it's not because I'm a 'chameleon'. It's a defense mechanism. I still feel like my own unique person on the inside. It's not a nice feeling having to suppress your personality and creativity just so as not to upset other people. It all gets bottled up and you're ready to explode.

Gender roles aren't static either, they can change over time depending on the society, resources available, environment etc.