Possessiveness.

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This is something that bothers me as well. I would sometimes go into my brother's room without asking, but he did the same all the time with my room. Borrowing stuff, on the other hand, really bothered me. It seems that most people have a complete disregard for other's belongings, and by extension I'd have to say they have a complete disregard for other people.

This post is perfect for me I am probably the most possessive person in my family (but then again I'm probably the only Aspie in the family). My room is currently filled with things that are mine only and my family knows they aren't allowed to touch. Once something is moved by someone else I know right away and get extremely mad (if they ask first and put it back then there's not as much anger when I can't see it). My brother used to take my stuff without asking all the time but now he's starting to ask first....probably cuz he got annoyed with me interrupting him and his girlfriend demanding my stuff back at midnight lol.

When I was growing up I've never really had any meltdows...at least none I can remember. I've found several solutions to deal with sensory issues and anxieties but last January the possessiveness is what probably caused my one and only breakdown. I had gone to the Philippines to visit my grandpa and mother's family with my cousins and I had to come back early on my own. One of the things that I was anxious about when I went to visit was that usually when my mom came back to Canada after visiting her family was that she would have given over half of the things she brought with her to her family. This was intollerable to me lol. My theory was whatever I brought with me, came back with me. My mom was aware of this and even called her sisters ahead of time to let them know that none should ask if I could give them my stuff. For the most part that worked fine, my mom did however asked me if I could give one of the little kiddes my DS and she would buy me a new one when I got back to Canada but I refused. At the end however when I was packing my stuff to go back home they wanted me to switch my duffel bag for a bigger box so I could bring more stuff with me and my cousins would bring it back for me. I was so upset at that idea that when they would say something to me I would cut them off immediately with "no! I'm taking it with me!" I started shaking so I had to walk away to calm down. I think it caught my cousin (one that didn't come with me on my visit) by surprise because I'm usually very timid and very easy to please (so they say). I heard my other cousin (one that has lived with me and knows me better) whisper to her "that's how she gets mad"

Looking back it probably was an irrational reaction but I'd probaby do the same thing if I was put in the same situation.

Mom knows better than to give something that's mine, or throw it away (and I have lived on my own for almost five years, and she still respects my old room).

Sometimes I'd rather buy two copies of things, so I could lend one, but keep the other for me (as you, I am not "selfish", I just don't think most people are capable of handling my things with care, and experience has proven me right, sadly).

Once, I lent a Gambit and the X-Ternals comic book to a priest friend of the family. I think he wanted to show it to someone or other. I was not very convinced by the idea, but lent it to him, anyway.

Well, he later gave it back to me shredded in parts... He gave me two or three Archie comics to balance the damage. I do not know what thought process makes people think three random Archie comics replace a very specific issue of another series! How can they think they are "just comics"?

Good part is, that was still one month after the issue was released, so I was able to buy it again.

I do not know what I'd have done if the issue had been no longer available...