Can you relate to "never" being happy

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It's the most difficult part for me as well, even if my mother died a long time ago.

... But I have to say that she was a great one, in her way.

Anyway, back to the topic, I can't relate to "never" being happy because I'm often happy

It may last what it lasts but while it lasts, I surely am (happy)!

I'm always happy, as long as I'm not in a panic attack. I've learnt to put up with the OCD and its thoughts (well, there's nothing else one can do).

Obsessing over that singular interest makes me happy.

I cannot relate. I am a child inside and generally seem to be happy alone with my toys no matter what's occurring in my "life".

I think so, too. It's intensity does seem to vary between people, though.

Maybe the seeking of success is ultimately to achieve validation in the eyes of others anyway. If you have that validation, then why make all that other effort, just enjoy your life as it is.

I guess that getting absorbed in social networks distracts one from this state. It is essentially still there, but hidden in the social whirl. Many Aspies don't seem to have that validation from others, though. And it's probably *this* that causes the depression and associated problems, not a direct effect of AS itself.

Thinking of the many times a therapist has pointed out that I have succeeded at this, that and the other, implying that I have no reason to be unhappy. Yet these are all secondary goals, which eventually show themselves as having failed to achieved the primary goal, which is to be generally liked and respected by others.

So naturally one would tend to dismiss past 'successes' and move on to some other task, in hope that this will achieve the ultimate, permanent happiness.