Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time?

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"Smile Chanel, it's not that bad."

I get that a lot too when I'm totally fine. I don't know why people have to be smiling constantly

All I can say is . . .

Hate, hate hate!

There. That felt better.

I got that a lot as a kid, too. People thought I must be unhappy, although much of the time I felt little and at least wasn't unhappy. I also photograph poorly, in part because I don't express well especially when it seems fake. My expression probably doesn't match what I'm feeling much of the time.

This used to happen to me constantly - though it hasn't happened to me much lately, unless I'm out alone.

I was at a concert once, alone, that I'd been looking forward to for months. I was waiting for the band to come up on stage, in a state of perfectly happy anticipation, and this old bugger comes up to me and grins and says, "Smile!" It was all I could do not to scream in his face. It ruined my mood for the night - I had to concentrate on enjoying something I'd been excited about for so long. I was furious.

Just because my facial expression doesn't fit in with what YOU think is normal, how is it socially acceptable to confront me about it? What business was it of yours whether or not I was happy - it wasn't affecting you. I'm still aggravated about it, clearly.

Stuff like that. I totally sympathise.

The chef in my residential college hated me for 'not smiling'.

I used to. Then I figured out that if I smiled at people when they looked at me, or when greetings were exchanged, then people would not presume that I was upset.

yes. My best friend tells me to smile if I want a girl to like me. I was also passing out fliers for a political candidate. He told me to smile.

I always get asked why I always seem to look sad.

I feel a lot happier since I stopped forcing myself to smile alot actually. To be myself should be OK in my view.

If I feel like smiling, then it's meaningful.

Yup.. and it leads to nicknames like "smiley." I have no idea how I'm supposed to react to that, so I just kinda try to smile. I think I'm supposed to say something, but nothing occurs to me to say, so I don't say anything because I can't think of what it is I should say.

I've been approached by random military asking if everything was alright when I was wearing my normal expression. It's so odd to me that they seem to think "deep thoughtful expression"="Depressed." While I have gone and do go through depression, I certainly don't make it known. Yet I've been told so many times to cheer up, or have a better day. It's annoying because it's rude to ignore them, and they got it wrong in the first place. Rude as it may be though, I tend to ignore them anyway.

It's mostly women that say this to me. If a guy says it, I politely tell him to go 'stick it where the sun don't shine'

It's mostly women that say this to me. If a guy says it, I politely tell him to go 'stick it where the sun don't shine'